It is not about wooing, it is about her ego

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Ok, so when this track started I was really excited. I kept reading this is when ASR woos Khushi back on IF and then when we saw him take away the rent money, that idea went up in smoke and I was still happy because it was the return of ASR. If Khushi was not going to depend on him as a husband and take rights from him because of a combination of self-sacrifice for the benefit of Di (that he doesn't know of yet), and her pride (of which he knows a thing or two), then he would slowly but surely make it very hard for her to stay away. But that isn't wooing. He was never going to woo her, I realize. Because wooing her panders to her ego, which is just as part of her in front of him as the his is in front of her, or used to be , and that is the very thing that is keeping her from accepting her haq as his wife. He is not being ASR to break her spirit this time, he is trying to free it from the burden of self-sacrifice that keeps her happiness as a matter of last priority.

He tried the nice way. He asked her and told her what is wrong, please depend on me, I have a duty to your family also. But it didn't work. Now he is coming at her from all angles to show her in a round a bout twisted manner, befitting this totally backwards about everything couple, that she is already in so many ways Mrs. Singh Raizada. The CVs are slowly introducing the many ways that she has already donned that skin, and they have shown us that she is walking away from being Mrs. ASR because of her self- sacrifice and because of the contract making it easier for her to do it, but in no way does she in her heart of hearts want to lose that title. Again, her pride makes her not share the rent issue with her family. Again, her pride keeps her from telling the family about the additional money. It is her pride that makes her walk into that CEO's office and rip him a new one. It is her pride that makes her destroy his office. A pride, that if we look closely, is manifesting itself exactly the way her husband's does. He can see it in her 'what the', in her clearing off the table, in her telling him to not talk when she is speaking ' hence the smirk. He can see how much she is his wife now, she cannot. His ghussa has become part of her and her smile part of him. Where can he show her how much their lives are intertwined as husband and wife, where she can exercise her haq and all her aadats as his wife? At the RM.

He is going to show her how much being his wife has become her 'aadat', just as much as she knows that holding her hand while he sleeps is his. (surprise, she doesn't pull it away anymore). Just as much as being in close proximity to him sets off her heart, which he is regularly pushing her to realize. And he will promise her that she doesn't have to give up her aadat of being his wife, which she loves because she loves him, because he will remarry her, for hamesha, when SHE gives the go ahead. (CVs, I fully expect a full fledged I can't live without you Khushi, if you will marry me I will make your dreams come true and spend my lifetime making sure you want for nothing type of thing that M&B heroes usually do). He saw it in her eyes, she loves him and wants him. We saw it in her countdown of days, she doesn't want to give it up.

He has put his ego aside to accept that he can't live without her (please don't tell me he hasn't, ASR of yore would not be lending a helping hand to someone ripping apart his office). He wants her to put herself and her love for him first, and to accept that being his wife gives her rights, that she is free to accept them, for the rest of her life.

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While I get all of this in the story. The Gupta House rent-a-thon is dragging and is beyond ludicrous. The only saving grace is that Buaji, Garima and Babuji don't know what is going on and are not there for the mind games ' and Mr. ASR you better renovate that place as that is not where you want to see your inlaws living and there is no way your wife would let you do that.

I also think CVs have not really ever worked in an office to have a secretary go and say the boss wants you to go home with him to reduce your rent. What the hell is that? If he wants to rile her up ' that could have been done by a note and she would have still been a spitfire. But I suppose you wanted that thappad, so backfilled a story line or something. Yikes. But, you also gave us the convo on the bed showing how much they are a part of each other - so I overlook, AGAIN.

And for the love of some kind of clarity, she keeps bringing up 'fine in XX days' when he will not be fine which is why he is chasing her to get her back, and she will not be fine because she is counting down the clock with tears, and he knows what the days mean, but she doesn't know that he knows, that she left because of the contract but not really because of Di'.please enough. It has gotten convoluted and twisted enough. Have him tell her he knows why she walked out.

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Love your post. Very nicely written 👏👏👏
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Posted: 13 years ago
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loved ur post👏
very well written...
u explained all the points clearly about kushi and arnav hope it make sense to some members...
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Ya Only Khushi is at fault😭 , others all are are right and have rectified their mistakes , Khushi should redeem herself soon and understand ASR putting aside her ego , only she has it. Redemption Track is for Khushi not ASR because she only made life of ASR a hell right from the 1st episode and she only threatened him to marry her for 6 months. She is a Home wrecker because she is one actually and ASR don't have to say sorry for calling her a Home wrecker. ASR has put aside all his egos and he is perfect now , Hope to see a change in Khushi soon and i want her to bow down to ASR soo and this will happen only when she putss aside her ego. Go Khushi put aside your ego because ASR does nott loose challenges and you always loose because you have no respect
Edited by JohnySolomonRaj - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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*res*

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Amazing post Anu👏👏 lobbed eeet.
I tamatar on ur note, i tamatar on ur thought's, i tamatar on ur expectations.

ASR has let go his ego, one can easily see his love, care, softening towards her, though she rejects his offer he keeps trying , he tried being Arnav showed her the softer side, tried to talk softly with love but all he gt back was she pushed him away, she doesnt understand Arnav rather she understands the language of ASR, and that is what he is doing now.
ASR now knows and has totally accepted kushi in his life and has also realized he needs her , he doesnt even wanto fight over that anymore he rather wants her feels incomplete and life less without her, he even wants Kushi to understand the importance of their relation, she cannot sacrifice her relation for any, any problems they can fight it out together sacrificing is nt the solution, though i still do not understand why or what kushi is doing anyhoo i get what ASR is trying to do.
As of now im enjoying their scenes though i did feel like pulling my hairs out when i saw him asking some random women to tell that to kushi ewww, and kushi always makles me pull my hair so no comments.
I would love to see some softening from kushi atleast when arnav isnt looking at her or when he is away they can concentrate on her feelings and show us what she feels about him. Like ASR said he ego, she has a huge ego and i can fix it all , i myself have to fix it all attitude and Arnav wants to get her out of that, she cannot fix all problems and she doesnt even have to. Her ego is only when it comes to him, she can ask help frm any but nt from him, she has the haq on him and that is what he wants her to use it, prolly she might use it the day she submits to him . 😕
Anyways im enjoying the epi, im totally loving this flirty ASR ..

I loved the below part.

A pride, that if we look closely, is manifesting itself exactly the way her husband's does. He can see it in her 'what the', in her clearing off the table, in her telling him to not talk when she is speaking ' hence the smirk. He can see how much she is his wife now, she cannot. His ghussa has become part of her and her smile part of him.

wohuuu why the brain tease with me at this hour when im so isleeepy 😆

which is just as part of her in front of him as the his is in front of her, or used to be
Edited by -sylph- - 13 years ago
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phew that was a long post😃 wonderfully written...
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Very nice post, Anu..
Nice to see an unbiased post which explains the real situation without any sort of exaggeration..😃
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hmmm... are u part of the secret ipkknd service agent ?? I mean, how did u know all this in such detail ha .. bathao ??? Anyways loved your post. Everytime I think why this, why that in ipkknd, I need to come and check if any post like urs is put on IF. U put my ???? to rest ! Thanks !😛
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I have one question? Is he truly her husband? A contract marriage is not legal.. plus we do not yet know if the marriage was registered in court.. if it was a ceremonial one, shouldn't we need witnesses.. so how could we call ASR her husband...?

Khushi has honoured her part of the contract because she feared ASR will ruin Payal's marriage... so legally, she is free to go... he has no hold on her.. Why would Khushi accept favours from a man to whom she was only bound by contract..

She was not treated like a wife by ASR at all during her stay in RM...
Edited by LadyLaLa - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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They both have ego.
I like your analysis though.

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