Originally posted by: misclog2003
Some responded saying I might have been comparing Shyam and ASR. No. Shyam's character is pure vile to me. The actor playing does a decent job, but the character is extremely filthy to me. What I was trying to say was, ASR does not know Shyam and Kushi's ex-fianc was the same. ASR doesn't know Shyam disappeared so many days from house and was a paying guest at Kushi's house. Just wait and watch, Shyam will plant this information in ASR's mind and making it look like and make ASR think, they were carrying this affair from a long time. I wouldn't be surprised if CVs make Kushi utter another insane dialogue and implicate herself further by saying something to Shyam about the days of him being a paying guest. I digress.
I do agree that there might be typical drama-style moments coming up to further the cold misunderstanding between Arnav and Khushi. I'm not too happy about that, but I'm going to give the writers a chance to prove me wrong.
ASR doesn't know Shyam tried to kill Anjali. ASR doesn't know Shyam mandhandles Kushi as well. All ASR knows is Shyam does not value Anjali and his marriage and has made ASR believe his love for Kushi is so intense and obstacle to it is Anjali. That is all ASR knows. Reason I bought, Shyam into the discussion was just to say, as far ASR is concerned, Shyam is just a cheating husband. And is bold enough to announce his love for Kushi.
I think that it's not that simple. When Shyam tossed away his mask and revealed himself, he shocked Arnav beyond words and action. Arnav understands that there's much more to Shyam than meets the eye. Yes, he believes that Shyam is a cheating husband, but he also believes that no one knows the real Shyam. There's a man behind that mask who is the complete opposite of the brother-in-law that Arnav has always known.
This is a huge shock to his system.
Imagine knowing a man for years, trusting him with your sister, admiring him like a father or brother, ask him for advice, respecting him like family - only to find out that it's all a lie, a pretense, and that when confronted with it, the man laughs in your face and humiliates you and your sister without any signs of remorse.
Something is severely wrong about this picture and Arnav being a man of rational thinking and principles needs to understand who Shyam is and punish him for the deception.
For all those who think, and ask, why didn't Kushi ask ASR Why? Why didn't Kushi do X? Really? You expect an 18 year old to have common sense, ask pertinent questions, have a back bone, use logic, tell truth to the Raizadas about their SIL etc etc.
It doesn't require a great deal of common sense, backbone, and logic to ask why. To ask why a man who showed signs of care toward you just hours earlier has suddenly decided to marry you for six months on your sister's wedding night - by blackmail. I mean, the first and most natural question in such a situation would be why.
Even for an eighteen year old. Especially Khushi who is shown to be quite responsible for her age, quite clever for her age. This is the same girl who went to confront her would-be brother-in-law on Payal's first wedding. Her age is hardly an excuse for ignorance.
But where are all these qualifications in a 28 year old ASR and even much older Anjali.
I think that when a man has been emotionally punched several times in one night, he will eventually react without much future-based planning. My theory remains that Arnav was so emotionally exhausted, distressed, and beat-down that he assessed however much he could manage, figuring that he needed to protect Anjali, punish Shyam, and buy time. In addition to that, his emotions seemed to have overwhelmed him and maybe even blocked out reason enough to overshadow any other solutions.
He's human, after all. And a flawed one. If his focus was to protect Anjali and shut Shyam up for challenging/humiliating him and his sister, then marrying Khushi surely took care of that. However reactive and wrong the decision.
Do not bring the excuse Anjali and ASR went through a lot in life. They have each other. They have Nani, brother, Mami, Mama etc. Kushi's parents also died when she was young. Story informed she is an orphan raised by Guptas. She herself knows she is an Orphan. She has gone through that much and more as what ASR or Anjali went through.
But people aren't the same. Their mentality, personality, and nature aren't the same. They deal with trauma in their own ways - some in destructive ways. Khushi's aunt took her in, gave her love and morals and values, raised her like a daughter. She was given the love and safety of a balanced home. Her parents, as far as we know, died in an accident. But Arnav and Anjali's trauma is something else entirely.
Their parents didn't die in an accident. Something else, something horrible happened. We know this because Arnav has issues with his mother abandoning him, and the flashbacks show him screaming for his mother on his sister's wedding day. In addition to that, Arnav and Anjali's family tossed them out on the street. They had only each other. Arnav, being the brother, had the responsibility of protecting his sister. Imagine ending up on the street with nothing and having to protect your sister, rebuild your life on your own as a teen. It's bound to leave scars as well as your family betraying you after the death of your parents.
Arnav and Anjali didn't have the love and safety that Khushi did. And when Nani and the others stepped into the picture, it was too late. They had walled themselves up, closed the door to their private relationship - they trusted only each other. They're more mentally fragile than Khushi. They are more damaged, psychologically, than she is.
Considering all the issues Arnav has (trust issues, abandonment issues, mother issues, etc., etc.,), it shouldn't surprise us that he reacts a certain way or makes a choice that has fatal consequences for everyone involved, yet he doesn't care for anyone but Anjali.
Even with Nani and everyone else around, Arnav hasn't depended on them for support or love or trust. He can't. Because if his father's brother could betray him, then anyone can. Anyone, except Anjali. Because they share a past, a bond, an understanding.
Arnav and Anjali's issues are psychologically rooted deep within them.
This is exactly what I was saying. Why are people expecting mountains out of Kushi, a partly nave, partly confused often strong 18 year old Kushi, but sweep what ASR is doing as love for his sister and his horrible past. Why can we only see ASR's troubled past and understand that. Why can't anyone (who ask why Kushi did not speak up) see Kushi's troubled past?
I think that, personally, I'm fed up with the classic orphan-stories and, especially, female centered ones. I do want to know how Khushi's parents died, and I do feel sad about her pain. But I find Arnav and Anjali's pain and traumatic past much more intriguing in terms of essence and layers and story. Why? Because it has irrevocably damaged them both to an almost extreme point - Anjali with her paranoid ways and weak state of mind, and Arnav with his cold, detached demeanour, calculative demeanour, and inexplainable anger/bitterness. Yet they're both afraid of being alone, of being abandoned, of being unloved.
Khushi, on the other hand, is a positive character full of life and courage and morals. She has managed to overcome her past. Her fears aren't extreme. She deals with them, isn't afraid of admitting them. This makes her strong, capable of coping, of beating the past - even when thinking of it makes her sad.
It's the broken people that I want to save, to watch redeem themselves, find love, etc. Not the ones who actually rest in themselves but stumble upon hardships that are sometimes a result of their own choices.
I love Khushi. In fact, she's the first female character on TV that I have loved. But she will be okay because she's strong. It's the weak ones I worry about.
I hope that none of my writing sounded harsh. I enjoy debating with you very much. Thank you for sharing your thoughts 😊😳
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