Originally posted by: misclog2003
I am attempting to commit forum suicide with this post. But please read this with an open mind.
Naw, hun. Fear not. I find your posts thought-provoking and I like that very much.
Shyam fell for someone. He also does not believe in marriage and wants to leave his current relationship for Kushi. The reason Shyam is wrong is because he full well knows Kushi absolutely dislikes him and absolutely hates him. That is why what he is doing is wrong.
And because he's mentally imbalanced. This is really important to note down.
Shyam is married, but does not believe in his marriage, wants to leave your beloved sister and be with a girl who he claims is his true happiness. You being ASR also think, this girl is in love with Shyam. So for you Shyam and Kushi are in love. Shyam also doesn't believe in his marriage. Just like the logical way you solved problem of You ' Lavanya ' Kushi triangle, what would have been the logical solution of the problem of Shyam ' Anjali ' Kushi.
The problem is that Shyam and Anjali are married. Arnav and Lavanya were not. A man who can cheat on his wife, manipulate her family, pretend to be the perfect son-in-law in order to disguise his cheating nature - that man and/or his actions can't be compared to a man who broke unintentionally hurt his fiance and broke their engagement in order to be fair to both of them.
What are the chances that Shyam won't cheat on Khushi once he has her? I think that in some cases love is overrated. With a man such as Shyam, love doesn't even seem to be the correct term to use about his infatuation with Khushi. If you're married and you allow yourself to think about another one, cheat on your wife - then something's wrong with the way you think and act, and it has very little to do with love.
In addition to that, Arnav is not a man who would let go of this matter so easily. Because, as I have pointed out before, he has a shadowed past that we're yet to see. We know it's a past that has shaped the man Arnav is today. The fact that logic and emotions collide in him at Shyam's deception (toward his sister, nonetheless) and he decides to punish the snake is only a natural reaction - expected from Arnav.
Even the most calculative person can end up in an emotional turmoil when someone that he loves, someone who has sustained the human in him, is threatened. This is the case with Shyam and Anjal.
Why was torturing Kushi the only thing to do. If he could balck mail couldn't he balckmail Shyam. He could go and explain Profit and Loss to Shyam. He could tell Shyam, until Di delivers the baby you be nice to her, stay away from Kushi for 6 months. Once the baby is here, Di is strong, I personally will see to it that, Di gives you a divroce and you can happily be with your lover. But if you meet Kushi between now and next 6 months, I will have you killed in an accident and Di will be better off being a widow than a divorcee and I will make sure your precious Kushi also is hurt. No?
He blackmailed Khushi because he couldn't even form a coherent retort at Shyam. That snake left him speechless. He couldn't shut him up. Shyam humiliated Arnav, humiliated his sister, and Arnav could say or do nothing. Why? Because Arnav was shocked at the true face of Shyam. He realized, in that moment, that he has no idea who or what Shyam is or what the man is capable of, or even how the man thinks.
How do you blackmail someone who is so confident, smirking at you over your sister's shoulder, as if he doesn't fear anything? Not even Arnav Singh Raizada. Shyam laughed in Arnav's face. He disrespected both him and his sister. He dared. Arnav doesn't know a thing about Shyam - he cannot tell the mindset of his enemy. Here's a creep who doesn't fear being exposed - in fact, Arnav fears the truth being exposed at a time when Anjali is so vulnerable, so really. Arnav is the one Shyam has emotionally blackmailed into making a choice that was made for all the wrong reasons.
Arnav, despite his ability to access a situation rationally, had experienced way too many hits in one night and took a step out of emotional distress as well as calculative reason. I'm not excusing him. I'm explaining.
He said, he had to do something for his sister. He blackmailed Kushi saying do this for your sister. He is balckmailing someone for his sister. If that person is ready to do what you are blackmailing her for, how is your love for your sister being understood more than Kushi's love for her sister?
When Arnav asked Khushi if she would do anything for her sister - he was indirectly trying to hint that he would do anything for his sister, that he was about to do something that he didn't want to do, but felt he had to do for his sister. It's as much as an apology that you'd get out of ASR in a situation like this. If Khushi had paid more attention to his shades, to getting to know the man behind the mask, then she might've understood - in that moment - that something was wrong. She might've asked him about it.
I don't mean to point fingers at Khushi. But the truth is that there have been many hints and glances throughout the night from Arnav - and Khushi has remained ignorant of them all. She doesn't understand Arnav because she doesn't know him. The way that he asked her - even I would've caught on to something.
Marriage was finished. Yet she walked with you outside and got married to you. You stood like a mute when everyone was yelling at you and demanding an answer. That was the only way Kushi could have gotten slapped. If he said, it is none of your businees, Kushi and I have our reasons to get married, we will tell you in due time, no one including Guptas would have dared press him further. No?
Arnav didn't have an answer just as well as Khushi didn't. Why? Because he's emotionally exhausted. He needs time to think and access.
She did not. She kept quite. Suffering. How come he who can do so much for his sister, not realise there could be more to the story than what he saw and heard. How.
How come Khushi couldn't tell that something was up since he suddenly blackmailed her about such a big thing as marriage? How come she didn't tell him the truth about Shyam and thus avoided the current situation altogether?
Point is that the mistake was made on both sides. Arnav and Khushi.
It pains me, because, ASR is arrogant. I like him like that. He talks status and intelligence etc. I like him like that. ASR is ruthless and I for sure like him like that. But what I cannot like about ASR is acting like a typicla villain who can only prey on utterly impresionable 18 year old females.
This isn't about Khushi. This is about Anjali. This isn't about punishing Khushi. This is about protecting Anjali and buying time to figure out Shyam.
He's not preying on Khushi. He's using her to protect his sister, yes. But that's Arnav. His sister is his top priority and everyone else are pawns. Plus, in Arnav's eyes Khushi isn't innocent. She lost her innocence when she hugged Shyam and didn't tell Arnav about it.
Just like everyone can understand ASRs pain as he doesn't know the truth of Shyam completely, but no one is ready to accept Kushi's pain and how cruel of a punishment this is for a 18 year old and actually say ASR loves Kushi so it is ok what is happening.
I understand Khushi's pain as I understand Arnav's. Neither of them are right. Both of them are wrong. In the end, they both brought this upon themselves and they must learn from their mistakes. They must take the consequences and mature.
Yes. It is a story. Yes, CVs have every right to tell it like they want. Yes Barun is better than 90% of actors in the country. But let is not forgive and glorify ASR because we understand his pain, but turn a blind eye to Kushis pain.
I think that there's a diff between glorification and understanding. Personally, I understand them both and disagree with them both. I never supported any of Arnav's actions - just like I often got irritated with Khushi for some of the things she did. In the end, both of them are flawed and I suppose that's what makes them beautiful to watch. And frustrating.
How can women be so indifferent to a women's pain is beyond me.
Honestly, I sympathize with Khushi for what's been done to her. But, on the other hand, she made some choices that led to the current situation, just as Arnav did.
Sorry if I ruffled any feathers. If people think, I should keep my opinions to myself or get lost from the forum. So be it. But I had to say this and I did.
I respect you for having the guts to speak your mind in a place like this 😉😳
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