My Take on Sarla-Ishqi confrontation 🌝 - Page 2

I completely agree with you on this, like I said in the EDT - it would have made more sense for her, and also in character for her to make Sarla think practically on how her actions will backfire on her (just like in the case of Daadi-Ahaan). Also reminding her that it's a chance for her to show how modern she is.

The problem with her during this scene is she was way out of line this time.

but pov of the elders little bit nowadays upgraded they really listen to young generation..but very orthodox family 's outlook will never change..

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

I also agree to this to some extent.

Ishqi didn't exactly say anything wrong. She was trying to prove a point and handle Sarla in her way . She knew Sarla won't like being shown negatively.

But having said dt I do think dt all this drama and life lessons isn't going to change Sarla. She might put down her weapons for now but she definitely would take it out on Sonu in some other way .

And yes I completely agree to the point dt the marriage wouldn't hv broken ....bcz Raj would not hv done it.

But one thing I do not agree to is......not saying anything Infront of elders. Atleast I don't believe in dt. Trust me my family is like any others , who disapprove us meddling in Adult's conversation. But dts bcz they never consider us as adults but we are. When you are of age .....like Ishqi or Kartik.....you do hv a ryt to voice out your opinions. Sometimes it works too. Bcz people don't see your perspective unless you are vocal about it. And elders cannot always be ryt. True they know more about worldly things dn us.......but they are from a different generation than us. And however much they may say they understand....... sometimes they don't. So you hv to tell them ....show them......for them to see that yes there can be different solution or a different reason for a thing .

So yeah if you are an adult by age....do speak out when you think it is necessary. But don't be brash abt it.

I absolutely agree and that's what I said , elders can be wrong and they are multiple times. And we need to make them understand from our perspective.

Their perspective can sometimes be wrong in the shadow of perhaps society or orthodox thinking and rituals.

I'm not saying it's not right for us to speak up because I myself is someone who does the same and voice my opinion in respective of age gap, but my point is the tone which she used could spoil things.

A subtle way could've been better.

I have not seen atleast Kartik using such words and Kartik has put up his 2021 wali feminist thinking a hundred times in front of everyone.

The whole point is handling the situation without disrespecting.

Originally posted by: libranangel

I think I'm going to get bashed here but I really think the confrontation was needed.

Respecting your elders is one thing but taking shit from them just because they are your elders is another. Standing up for what is right and standing against what is wrong is important.

What ahaan did by apologizing not once but twice was only to pacify her. That doesn't do anything but boost her ego more. Sometimes when you can't beat someone you join have to join them.

Ishqi met fire with fire which is what sarla needed to see the bigger picture. Call it disrespect or arrogance but to me it was correct. There's no harm in showing someone a mirror once in a way. The damage is already done. The truth is out. Rather than go down on your knees and apologize, thus making sonu guilty of everything she is accused off, take a stand! Fight it! And who better than the one who has already lost everything keeping this secret once before.

Let's face it. We know they get married irrespective of the drama so if this shuts sarla up for sometime then its good.

My views... The bashing can begin now!

No there's no harm in voicing opinions in front of elders but picture is different here. She spoke where she didn't need to.

Dadi was the one bashing her in and out, speaking in front of her and taking a stand there would have made a sense.

Here, Sarla was into her mode fighting her son and DIL and entire Malhotra family was there to pacify her and anyone could shut her up being it elder or younger to her.

But this time Ishqi was an outsider she didn't need to take a stand , the way she pushed Ahaan did show her impulsive side.

Ishqi could've stated her valid points in a decent and appropriate manner but she chose a wrong path. IDK but I did not find it convincing enough.

This situation had very sensitive points that could have been taken care of instead she just made it about modern saas, standards, society and class.

No bashing cuz in a way I agree there's nothing wrong to put up what is right in front of elders or anyone to show them mirror and I myself is the same kind of person who will not think before giving Sarla a class.

Originally posted by: NormalGirl93

I absolutely agree and that's what I said , elders can be wrong and they are multiple times. And we need to make them understand from our perspective.

Their perspective can sometimes be wrong in the shadow of perhaps society or orthodox thinking and rituals.

I'm not saying it's not right for us to speak up because I myself is someone who does the same and voice my opinion in respective of age gap, but my point is the tone which she used could spoil things.

A subtle way could've been better.

I have not seen atleast Kartik using such words and Kartik has put up his 2021 wali feminist thinking a hundred times in front of everyone.

The whole point is handling the situation without disrespecting.

Sooner or later Sarla will take revenge for her beizzati.

Originally posted by: NormalGirl93

She was in character. But this time Dadi was the one bashing her in and out but not Sarla and her confrontation could've made sense in front of Dadi but Sarla was in her own self making it all about herself.

True, it actually makes even more little sense when I think about it. She is being respectful towards Ahaan's Daadi because she is sort of her MIL.. and with Sonu she can't control herself? Weird.

Originally posted by: NormalGirl93

I absolutely agree and that's what I said , elders can be wrong and they are multiple times. And we need to make them understand from our perspective.

Their perspective can sometimes be wrong in the shadow of perhaps society or orthodox thinking and rituals.

I'm not saying it's not right for us to speak up because I myself is someone who does the same and voice my opinion in respective of age gap, but my point is the tone which she used could spoil things.

A subtle way could've been better.

I have not seen atleast Kartik using such words and Kartik has put up his 2021 wali feminist thinking a hundred times in front of everyone.

The whole point is handling the situation without disrespecting.

Dt I completely agree wid. There is a way to put up a point reasonably. You shouldn't try to put down someone ( dt too an elderly in law ) to put the other one up .

Honestly I get why Ishqi was so angry. What i've noticed is she'd usually stay quiet in respect when someones blaming her but if its someone else who is the victim then she doesn't hold back. Maybe she feels responsible but thats how it is. She was this way with mayank too intially.

Sarla said some pretty nasty stuff about Sonu, I dont think she deserves any respect. Secondhand? Thats the lowest you can go. Agar elders izzat ke laik na ho tou unki izzat nahi karni chaiye. I agree that it was not the best way to pacify her but Ishqi always gets a bit hotheaded when she disagrees with someone morally. I think it was consistent with her character.

I think I'm in a minority here.

But I think Ishqi has had enough. I liked the line "is sab meing aap kaise victim ho gaye?" - THIS. This line is so powerful because aunties like Sarla love to make everything about them. I actually like Ishqi today more. Sonu and her have been quiet all this time after ALL the trauma because they are scared of what Sarla will do. What a sad and hypocritical society are we in that we are not scared that a girl got molested but what her MIL will think. It's heights of testing someone's patience.

I live overseas and honestly if I saw someone sprouting non-sense like Sarla - no matter who and what relation and how much older they are I would probably take the Ishqi route. Enough is Enough. I'm lucky to be from a family where we can correct are elders and also lucky to be married into a family where one can speak their mind. Elder listen and also apologise if they are wrong.

Sarla should have been told all this yesterday (as in someone shoudl have given this dose long time ago).

High time we change the society that is scared of elders and calls it "respect". Respect is earned - its not a birth right because someone just happens to be born before me.

Originally posted by: NormalGirl93

I completely agree, she could have conveyed her message more politely...and also she should have stopped when Ahaan told her, after all it's about his sister.

But I don't think whatever shown is out of character for Ishqi..when it comes to her she takes all blame quietly but not about others. She is impulsive in her reactions, that's shown through out..

What I like about precap is Ahaan is trying to make her understand his point of view in private not infront of everyone..