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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: Soaps1

Yes i did made a post it was about her decision to staying back despite kurti apa's taunts and all ... it was not in defence of her becoming joe or entering rooms or pushing limits!!!

If it sends arzoo mixed signals then she is the one who needs to deal with it ... if she chooses to ignore when sahir tells her to leave because she thinks its a facade then its her judgement and if that judgement turns out wrong she has to bear the brunt too ... sahir never told her he needs her he always told her to stay away... that way arzoo's behaviour is sending sahir signals that she wants to act like his wife ... then how is he wrong if she is not?



Yes that goes a long with her judgement to stay back in the house and understand Saahir's pain. Now that she is in the house she HAS to make judgements all the time. Her judgement cant always be right. Her judgement was right with ointment episode where despite him yelling at her and telling her numerous times to leave she put on ointment anyway. Here her judgement was wrong when she failed to leave when asked. The thing was if she didnt agree to be his helpbaaz and stay back to understand his pain like many people insisted on this forum despite of numerous insults she wouldnt have risked the chance of her sense of judgment occasionally going wrong and Saahir potentially reacting the way she did. Now that she has to stay back she cant be right about Saahir all the time she hardly knows him.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Ok guys situation is bad saaz are equally guilty .
Arzoo didn't listen to sahir and sahir ka bomb put pada .
Aab shant hojo
Just think what arzoo will do next .
I wish she looks for a house near by and stay with her family then sahir line patri pe ajayega he will miss her and office me inka tu tu me me hojay to maza ajae
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: rockstar29

Ok guys situation is bad saaz are equally guilty .
Arzoo didn't listen to sahir and sahir ka bomb put pada .
Aab shant hojo
Just think what arzoo will do next .
I wish she looks for a house near by and stay with her family then sahir line patri pe ajayega he will miss her and office me inka tu tu me me hojay to maza ajae



thnx all im trying to say there! i am hating arzoo since the first time she agreed to be his help baaz since the first insult! now she gave him an ok to take things as far as he did today. I am not at all saying she is right. She has been wrong since she continued helping despite the insults.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: redviolet



The thing was he had yelled at her the first time even there and still she insisted putting the ointment on him. I thought that was uncalled from Arzoo. She should have left. He never really consented she just did it anyway.


He yelled..it was clear he was in pain..

Today he didn't yell..he was polite...his body language screamed...please leave me alone..I am upset...he wasn't in pain...

So the Arzoo who shut him up because she wanted to help him deal with his pain chose to ignore his plea today...wouldn't that be kind of insensitive?? It is definitely if you ask me.

Her staying back in the house was fine if she wanted to help him...know him...the way she is doing it is what's wrong...someone who puts another persons pain above her self respect and stays back to help him...would definitely not look at everything from her own POV all the time..

I want to become joe...I will...I want to open his cupboard and take out his clothes...I will...who cares if he doesnt want me to and is making it very clear...that's the impression I got today.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: redviolet



Yes that goes a long with her judgement to stay back in the house and understand Saahir's pain. Now that she is in the house she HAS to make judgement all the time. Her judgement cant always be right. Her judgement was right with ointment episode where despite him yelling at her and telling her numerous times to leave she put on ointment anyway. Here her judgement was wrong when she failed to leave when asked. The thing was if she didnt agree to be his helpbaaz and stay back to understand his pain like many people insisted on this forum despite of numerous insults she wouldnt have risked the chance of her sense of judgment occasionally going wrong and Saahir potentially reacting the way she did. Now that she has to stay back she can be right about Saahir all the time she hardly knows him.


First of all we never insisted she stays back nor i think anyone else did on forum in fact most of us wanted her to stay in out house and not move to the house ... but once she chose to we only defended her decision thinking from her POV ... She hardly knows him is where the problem starts ... if you want to know or understand someone's pain wouldn't you try and observe them first, before you start shoving things on them or forcing them? Problem with arzoo is she is acting without trying to observe him first ... and arzoo is not a child to not know that when someone tells you to leave 3-4 times you should listen ... she could always continue her mission later ... thing is if sahir is rude with her she doesn't like it ... if she is sympathetic to her he is leading her on ... if he lets her have her way he is confusing her ... you can't have your cake and eat it too!!!
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: prettypri


He yelled..it was clear he was in pain..

Today he didn't yell..he was polite...his body language screamed...please leave me alone..I am upset...he wasn't in pain...

So the Arzoo who shut him up because she wanted to help him deal with his pain chose to ignore his plea today...wouldn't that be kind of insensitive?? It is definitely if you ask me.

Her staying back in the house was fine if she wanted to help him...know him...the way she is doing it is what's wrong...someone who puts another persons pain above her self respect and stays back to help him...would definitely not look at everything from her own POV all the time..

I want to become joe...I will...I want to open his cupboard and take out his clothes...I will...who cares if he doesnt want me to and is making it very clear...that's the impression I got today.



To me both times he told her to leave and she decided to stay anyway. I dont understand what his body language was saying. To me a verbal warning is enough for both situations. And she was wrong to stay back in both situations. The Arzoo also ignored his plea when she put ointment on him. Both situation she was trying to help him by ignoring his plea. She cant be sure her method is right and effective all the time. She ignored her self-respect from the very first instant he insulted and she still helped him. This was just a continuation of her putting Sahir before self-respect pushed to extremes.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: rockstar29

Ok guys situation is bad saaz are equally guilty .
Arzoo didn't listen to sahir and sahir ka bomb put pada .
Aab shant hojo
Just think what arzoo will do next .
I wish she looks for a house near by and stay with her family then sahir line patri pe ajayega he will miss her and office me inka tu tu me me hojay to maza ajae


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Posted: 10 years ago
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I think the only positive thing that was said about Arzoo staying back was...she was putting someone else's pain above her own...she was prioritising someone else...why wasn't bad at all...
I don't think anyone to my knowledge said she should stay in the main house or even stay back...if she stayed back it wasn't demeaning to her self respect given her reasons..was all that was said...

After that it's not right if she behaves the way she has behaved so far! It's not like..you decided to stay and help someone so he HAS to take your help and open up to you promptly whatever your techniques are!
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: Soaps1


First of all we never insisted she stays back nor i think anyone else did on forum in fact most of us wanted her to stay in out house and not move to the house ... but once she chose to we only defended her decision thinking from her POV ... She hardly knows him is where the problem starts ... if you want to know or understand someone's pain wouldn't you try and observe them first, before you start shoving things on them or forcing them? Problem with arzoo is she is acting without trying to observe him first ... and arzoo is not a child to not know that when someone tells you to leave 3-4 times you should listen ... she could always continue her mission later ... thing is if sahir is rude with her she doesn't like it ... if she is sympathetic to her he is leading her on ... if he lets her have her way he is confusing her ... you can't have your cake and eat it too!!!



Yes agreed she should have understood him a lot better before she decided to stay in house and help him with his pain. This track would have even made more sense even after their marriage where they were civil to each other. Not when he was already shoving and pushing her yet she wanted to help him. Helping someone as complex as Saahir is not easy and Arzoo cant master it. So she shouldnt have start so soon anyway. She is not a professional therapist.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: prettypri

I think the only positive thing that was said about Arzoo staying back was...she was putting someone else's pain above her own...she was prioritising someone else...why wasn't bad at all...

I don't think anyone to my knowledge said she should stay in the main house or even stay back...if she stayed back it wasn't demeaning to her self respect given her reasons..was all that was said...

After that it's not right if she behaves the way she has behaved so far! It's not like..you decided to stay and help someone so he HAS to take your help and open up to you promptly whatever your techniques are!



Thing is he was never open to her help. He had started insulting her before she even decided. So she shouldnt have stayed back at all.

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