Kabhi neem neem kabhi shahad - Page 6

Originally posted by: redviolet

i think there is a very fine line between what humane and what is an invasion of personal space or what can even be considered leading someone on. Unless it was an emergency situation where needed to be rushed to the hospital she shouldnt help some one who keeps insulting her. as we can see he took it quitely once or twice but he eventionally lost his cool with her because he needs space from her while trying to fight his feelings. He reached boiling point trying to fight his emotions long back and this was waiting to happen.

Originally posted by: prettypri

He kept insulting her??

She herself recalled how much he has helped her ..in fact that's why she was drawn to help him in the first place..else there would be no reason...she knows he has done mor good than bad...that's why she wants to understand y he is like that...given the way she sees everything from her POV if he had insulted her again and again and done nothing good there is no way she would have helped him...hers is a reaction to is help..

And he didn't lead her on...if she thought he did...it's her interpretation...him telling her loud and clear to stay away was clearer than him helping her in the jungle when there was none else.

im not saying he lead her on. i am saying its not right for her to lead him on when he is already fighting his feelings so hard. trying to help someone who keeps insulting you. Yes he has helped her on numerous occasions but when ever she tried to return the favor her acted negatively. First when she tried console him while he was cutting wood, next when she went to offer him dinner, even did the ointment he rejected, she went to thank him he yelled at her, the office shoving and pulling. Some of these events happened even before she told alvira she will stay back to help saahir in the house? how many signals did she need to get the message.

Originally posted by: redviolet

and did I not admit that she was really immature in the letter? And Saahir was the much more considerate person there? I can go back and get my review for that episode right now? Similary here I feel there both a fault. And Arzoo has been wrong since day 1 so I expressed it.

Originally posted by: prettypri

I gave that as an example to illustrate that he hasn't been the one insulting again and again...she has been less than ideal many times...that's all...his has mostly been reaction..that's what I wanted to say!

i never claimed he has been insulting her from day 1. i am talking about more recently he has been telling her to stay away and insulting. good indication to stay away from someone period.

Well...again,,.if you decide to help someone because you see the pain beyond his anger...which is clearly what Arzoo saw...and why she decided to help him...then you need to be a little empathetic...and learn to not rush full speed at them in your own way...it should be done with more finesse and tact.

Originally posted by: prettypri

Well...again,,.if you decide to help someone because you see the pain beyond his anger...which is clearly what Arzoo saw...and why she decided to help him...then you need to be a little empathetic...and learn to not rush full speed at them in your own way...it should be done with more finesse and tact.

The helping is not the issue...her reasoning was clear..once again...the way she js going about it...from becoming joe onwards is what is wierd...this is my opinion.

thats why you should opt out of helping them in the first pace. Arzoo is not a perfect helper. there is no" how to guide" in helping somone complex as Saahir and he had given her many hints that he wanted her to stay away anyway. She is not his wife, girlfriend or fiance. Her boundaries should be set for the office until he can at least decide on his feeling and stop insulting her.

Originally posted by: redviolet

thats why you should opt out of helping them in the first pace. Arzoo is not a perfect helper. there is no" how to guide" in helping somone complex as Saahir and he had given her many hints that he wanted her to stay away anyway. She is not his wife, girlfriend or fiance. Her boundaries should be set for the office until he can at least decide on his feeling and stop insulting her.

Originally posted by: prettypri

She has no boundaries..period...even before she decided to help him..so obviously expecting that now is too much I guess!

I don't think him telling her to stay away was insulting her..I think he has done more good than bad for her and that's why she wants to help him as I said...feeling that way is not wrong..it's human...and for someone like Arzoo who believes she can do anything it's not difficult to believe she can help Sahir...she has never thought about the difficulty involved...!

maybe that where she is wrong she should think about the difficulties involved. um he cornered her to a wall and was rude a loud to her many times. pushed her a few times and raised his voice that should give a enough hints to Arzoo that I shoudnt help him. no matter how many favors someone has done for me I would get scared after that one pinning to the wall incident thinking this person might not be in a healthy state and i am not making matters any better. i agree he has helped her a lot not sure whether he has harmed or helped her more.