No anger No hurt, Mr. IPS !! - Page 2

Hasn't Virat been always like this, when angry?? These are few instances

1. After Vittal Maane's complaint when he returned home. He pushed the food tray.

2. When Pakhi brought him food during Pulkit lunch incident.

3. Today

Misdirected anger is disastrous in any relationship. He initially acts up his rage and then cries a river before her, asking her to forgive. This has been his pattern. Though he realizes his fault, I don't see him take any measure to rectify it and not repeat it. He is in serious need of Anger management therapy. Sai, must stop forgiving him again and again, so that this vicious cycle ends here.

This relationship has turned toxic and I wish Sai leaves for good after the cafe incident.

Also Sai must stop being so ziddi. If he wants space, she must acknowledge it and give him some. I understand she acts out of love, but this childish pestering must stop. She is young, with time she must change too.

If it's not in the original, why add it? Such nasty scenes?? I hope they tone him down.

Yes, agree it is okay if he is indifferent to her , ignore her, but you can't be rude to her. This behaviour was really wrong from virat. I hooe they change the manhandling scene otherwise makers are really becoming mad in the name of copy paste.

Don't like this, I really hope this is not the way this version continues. This is so not done. This is scary behaviour on a cycle. This show is No.2 on the charts right now, glorifying such type of behaviour and justifying it with tears of apologies is glorifying abuse. Such people are highly toxic if they don't reflect on their behaviour and mend their ways.

Being angry and showing signs of violence are different things, anger is not expressed through abuse on your loved ones constantly.

This show has the option of going down the way of giving right type of space and introspection between the couple without toxicity and butchering of the leads. Otherwise this relationship will always remain on shaky grounds and lose it's beauty and value with the course of time.

Originally posted by: scarlett22

If it's not in the original, why add it? Such nasty scenes?? I hope they tone him down.

They are trying to test our tolerance for such things.. why else would they want to show an IPS officer treating his wife abysmally? They are making Virat a villain and his characterization is getting worse.

Originally posted by: Clois_semperanc

Wow I didn't know this scene is there in today's episode, I stopped watching IG clips in the morning in order to not spoil my mood.

Virat Chavhan needs to keep a check on his anger/irritation when it comes to Sai

Completely agree, I've noticed this since the day he shouted at Sai during Shivani bua kaand. There is something really scary about the way he shouts at Sai, if I was at the receiving end I would tremble. But Sai being Sai she acts like she's strong enough to take it and she does give it back indeed. But his intensity when he's mad at Sai is something I haven't seen from him during his outbursts at any other character.

And most shocking is that Pakhi has not been at the receiving end of such intense look/behavior by him. He is actually in love with Sai and is behaving this way with her. I know Sai is also the epitome of rudeness but she is not in love with him for her to think I shouldn't behave this way with the man I love. How come Virat can easily behave this way with Sai even after falling in love with her?

And Pakhi whom in his mind he truly loved continues crossing boundaries, insulting Sai and him and confessing her love but she doesn't get even half of the harsh treatment as Sai. No matter how many vile remarks Pakhi makes he just continues to roll his eyes or stay ignorant.


Sai Joshi would have given back and really bad, if this treatment was given to her a year back..

Honestly the sadist in me wishes so bad for that Sai Joshi to be back. She would've had the best reaction.

The way he's been behaving it doesn't look like someone who's heartbroken, it looks like someone who can't handle rejection.

This aggressive behavior of Virat only made Sai to consider leaving the house during the Pulkit lunch incident. She used the exact words that his behavior when angry is dharavani or scary but Virat shed some tears and convinced Sai to stay back. But again and again repeating the same behavior and going by the original looks like there is more to come. Why they want us to hate Virat. Why can't he just ignore her when he is angry with her?

I want to see how he behaves with Pakhi after the cafe meet. Hope he at least ignores her completely.

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Exactly.. same scene and different Sai Joshi..

How is Sai going to take it , that is a different matter.. But this is not his hurt speaking..The same man who once said I will accept if Sai rejects me..

Virat does not feel rejected by Sai. Rather, he is broken that he did not even get the chance to be neither accepted nor rejected. In his mind, this marriage has been a deal for Sai all along, and she will never be willing nor able to look at it in another way. The state he is in now is the result of almost a year of feeling misunderstood by Sai... it is the result of pent up frustration and pain that Sai is unable to recognize his love. I'm not saying that this isn't his fault too for failing to clarify things, but I am just talking from his perspective right now.

No matter how vile his behavior was, it was his hurt speaking and nothing else. He keeps telling Sai to stay away from him...that he wants to be left alone. He keeps telling her not to assert her rights over him. His tone may come across as angry, but if we look past that, we see that he is doing nothing but trying to protect his heart. If he lets Sai close to him, he will start melting, only to be brought back into the reality of the deal marriage again. He is frustrated seeing her care towards him, because as he said in the previous episode, he does not understand Sai. He sees how deeply she cares for him, and yet, she cannot accept this marriage nor see his love. Isn't this the exact same situation that has been paining and frustrating Sai this entire time? She sees Virat's affection towards her, and yet she is confused because he hides behind the zimidari tag due to his own insecurities, fears, and inability to see how badly she needs him to speak up. And in this way, for pretty much the identical reason as Sai, Virat has now put his walls up. Up until now, he was entirely vulnerable. But, now, his mind is telling him to distance himself, because it will only result in more pain if he doesn't. However, his heart is unable to stop loving Sai, so he is trying to suppress those emotions to the best of his ability.

Him knocking the plate over was a mere accident. It was clear from his reaction... he even looked like he was going to get up and clean it up, but Sai told him that she would do it. Again, I am not justifying the way in which he acted. But, I am merely trying to explain what he is going through. Sai, understandably, was desperate to take care of him. But, he was desperate for her to stay away, and she was not listening. So, he got frustrated and shoved the plate. Still, Sai kept trying to help him, and he got even more frustrated....so he yelled bitter words at her. Why? Because, seeing Sai's care for him is killing him. He does not want to see it...he does not want any more false hope. His explosion is not justified. Not even in the slightest. But, his sentiments behind the explosion, to me, are.

Also, looking at Virat's behavior right now cannot be confined to his emotions and feelings towards Sai. He is also feeling deeply misunderstood by Samrat. He feels the pressure to fix his marriage with Pakhi. He feels the tension in the house. In order to understand why he exploded, we must take into consideration all of these factors too. This man is not only heartbroken, but he is also buckling under numerous other tensions and stressors.... Also, he is literally physically ill.. For those bringing up the DIG Sir incident... Sorry if I come across as insensitive, but I did not find that outburst of his to be toxic nor "wrong." He thought he was going to lose the job he had worked towards his entire life. Many people would react in the same way that he did. Again, not to undermine the pain that he caused Sai, but his feelings were entirely justified in that moment to me.

Virat's behavior was without a doubt wrong, but the situation that Sai and Virat are in right now is the fault of both of them. This is what happens when there are such deep communication issues in between a couple. This is what happens when one person leaves themselves entirely vulnerable and the other has walls greater than the great wall of china around their heart. Just to reiterate, I am not trying to downplay the fact that Virat has created this entire mess to begin with.... I have written numerous posts from Sai's POV, but here, I am just trying to see things from Virat's. Up until this point, people were not understanding Sai's pain, because she was not crying. She was hiding behind her harsh exterior, using that to mask her pain. Her pain was coming across in her brashness. And, now, when Virat is acting the same way (although to the extreme), people are labeling his pain as anger, revenge, etc....

All of this being said, Sai does not deserve this. Not even in the slightest. This poor girl has already suffered more pain and heartbreak at such a young age than most people suffer in an entire lifetime. She is having to grapple with her own feelings for Virat, her own fears of losing him, her own confusions all on her own. She has no one..absolutely no one in her corner. Yes, Samrat understands her and is trying to guide her, but she cannot be open with him... it breaks my heart that the photo of her abba is the only thing she can speak her heart to. Virat, in his own hurt, is entirely breaking Sai. The girl who used to be strong and fight back against all wrong, now cannot even fight back against him treating her this poorly.... because she is not only utterly confused by the reason for his behavior, but she is also utterly in love with him. The thought of losing him is wrecking her to the extent that she is entirely losing herself. To think that this is just the start of her mental breakdown is absolutely devestating. She has endured daily domestic abuse by Virat's family, she has forgiven Virat in nearly a heartbeat after all of his kaands, she has accomodated herself to CN's rules and regulations.... she has done everything she possibly could for Virat. And yet, he has been unable to see any of this... he has been unable to recognize the impact his vaada has had on her and as a result, he has failed to see past her harsh exterior to realize that he is her everything....

All in all, this is just an entirely messed up situation. I don't know how else to put it. The fact that Sai will have to realize her love for Virat due to the fear of losing him and witnessing him behaving this indifferent, coldy, and rudely with her is just horrible. And, Virat's pain, brokenness, and numbness is equally devestating in my opinion....

Today's scene reminded me of the episode when Virat did the same behaviour and Sai told him to clean the mess as he has disrespected food and she will not tolerate that. Sigh, kya haal ho gaya hai Sai ka iss ghar mein reh ke😭😭She has completely lost her original characteristics just to fit in with these bunch of losers, the biggest one being her husband, IPS Virat Chavan. This guy has a truckload of expectations from her but doesn't even pause for a moment and think how Sai will feel if he goes out to talk and drink coffee with his Bhabhi cum ex. Aur toh aur, he knows ki that delusional woman is obsessed with him but he lets her touch him🤢 Sai doesn't deserve all this. Samrat doesn't deserve all this. I wish this wasn't a copy of a regressive show and the writers had enough guts to show these 2 characters dumping these losers and moving on in life. But alas, it's going to be the opposite of that

Originally posted by: Amor_fati

Hasn't Virat been always like this, when angry?? These are few instances

1. After Vittal Maane's complaint when he returned home. He pushed the food tray.

2. When Pakhi brought him food during Pulkit lunch incident.

3. Today

Misdirected anger is disastrous in any relationship. He initially acts up his rage and then cries a river before her, asking her to forgive. This has been his pattern. Though he realizes his fault, I don't see him take any measure to rectify it and not repeat it. He is in serious need of Anger management therapy. Sai, must stop forgiving him again and again, so that this vicious cycle ends here.

This relationship has turned toxic and I wish Sai leaves for good after the cafe incident.

Also Sai must stop being so ziddi. If he wants space, she must acknowledge it and give him some. I understand she acts out of love, but this childish pestering must stop. She is young, with time she must change too.

@bold And only with Sai...and no one else..

Sai needs to stop being ziddi..I will not call what she today pestering, first she does not realise what has happened and secondly Virat is extremely sick... If he would not have been sick, she would have left him alone..wont go after him.......When the better half is sick, however issues one has between them they would want to take care...Virat kept going in and talking to her, when they had an issue after the accident..And that was a bigger mistake than what this one has done here.. No amount of pestering warrantees this kind of behaviour..

I wish she left, I so wish, but the only problem is they are following KD..

Originally posted by: Soanz.19

Today's scene reminded me of the episode when Virat did the same behaviour and Sai told him to clean the mess as he has disrespected food and she will not tolerate that. Sigh, kya haal ho gaya hai Sai ka iss ghar mein reh ke😭😭She has completely lost her original characteristics just to fit in with these bunch of losers, the biggest one being her husband, IPS Virat Chavan. This guy has a truckload of expectations from her but doesn't even pause for a moment and think how Sai will feel if he goes out to talk and drink coffee with his Bhabhi cum ex. Aur toh aur, he knows ki that delusional woman is obsessed with him but he lets her touch him🤢 Sai doesn't deserve all this. Samrat doesn't deserve all this. I wish this wasn't a copy of a regressive show and the writers had enough guts to show these 2 characters dumping these losers and moving on in life. But alas, it's going to be the opposite of that

SHe herself once said that she has changed a lot..IPS Chavhan called it a taunt.. And yet again just the same morning he was telling Sai ki badalna mat, be what you are, I like that in you and he fails to see what she has become now...