No anger No hurt, Mr. IPS !! - Page 10

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Look at how she handles it, cries to herself then smiles and go out..Even at cafe with friends she was smiling..This much of hiding harms your mental state too much..

On a side note I was noticing how other student were dressed as well...And then there was this one..

@bold It looks ominous. Yes she has been handling her emotions wrong all along with no one to guide her and risking her heart on a shaky relationship.

If she goes into nervous breakdown like in KD, it will also be because she is an orphan and doesn't have anyone to call her own - and the one person who she feels her own is slipping away from her life.

Having said that, can the makers please cut down the nervous breakdown crap. Nothing entertaining about 'angst' p*rn😡 ... especially a positive character suffering so much. 💔

@red didn't understand

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

@bold It looks ominous. Yes she has been handling her emotions wrong all along with no one to guide her and risking her heart on a shaky relationship.

If she goes into nervous breakdown like in KD, it will also be because she is an orphan and doesn't have anyone to call her own - and the one person who she feels her own is slipping away from her life.

Having said that, can the makers please cut down the nervous breakdown crap. Nothing entertaining about 'angst' p*rn😡 ... especially a positive character suffering so much. 💔

@red didn't understand

@bold I mean how casually they were dressed as compared to Sai..and its not that she did not dress casually before..she did...I guess I am seeing too much there

I agree Its not fun to see the nervous breakdown daily..since for them it would just be 1 week...for us it could be 4 weeks or so..

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

@bold It looks ominous. Yes she has been handling her emotions wrong all along with no one to guide her and risking her heart on a shaky relationship.

If she goes into nervous breakdown like in KD, it will also be because she is an orphan and doesn't have anyone to call her own - and the one person who she feels her own is slipping away from her life.

Having said that, can the makers please cut down the nervous breakdown crap. Nothing entertaining about 'angst' p*rn😡 ... especially a positive character suffering so much. 💔

@red didn't understand

Originally posted by: sherry_24

For some reason, when I watched the episode first, I didn’t find it abusive or rude. After reading your post I watched again, then I felt for some it can seem that way. But I still beg to differ. Just a different perspective maybe😊

My reason- We are comparing this with his past actions, and hence assuming his capability in certain situation wrt to Sai. If we watch this as a stand alone episode, Virat is dealing with heart break, is hurt and disappointed and with all this, he is unwell too. If we are unwell and feel low due to any such factors, we are generally very sensitive, vulnerable and irritable. He was just trying to get some peace in all this when Sai walked in. We could see how he was jerked awake by her. That itself had triggered him. Then she insisted on feeding him. I’m not saying she was wrong, but then this is one of those situation where again no one is wrong. He didn’t intend to throw the food, it was an accident. He was only trying to stop her. We can see that in his reaction when he kept his hand in his eyes. And the rest of the words were similar to what he said in previous episode, but with more force. And thats because of the situation.
Will quote something that will probably make my perspective more clear.

Hurt is often mistaken for anger. 85% of the times the person is not mad, rather is disappointed.

I agree..i didn't find it abusive , for the same reasons you mentioned. Nowdays the makers have one excuse , we tend to idolize characters but they say they are flawed n in this case , virats moral compass is skewed. One more reason, they r getting trps and they wanna stretch the maun vrat as far as possible bec then, it will be a typical vamp trying to ruin the couple life as third angle.

Ok so...sai doesn't get the point , he doesn't want her around him so why can't she just stay away ? Ask ashwini to Tc of him...when she is verbally abusive to him, we try to reason it out ..her past , her dilemma , virats behavior with pakhi, so on and so forth. I dun need to reason out virats problem. He said stay away toh she must stay away. Anyone will get irritated by the constant forceful concern.. specially when she told him In clear words that they r not husband wife. Ye zabardasti I don't like. She must learn to respect people's boundaries , she never does. We can give the some leeway to virat in these bedroom scenes..

His hurt and frustration is on max level. One side Sai, other , samrat is not talking to him , third side pakhi ..samrat and pakhis divorce..his own love , marriage..He is at the center of all this but he doesn't clear out anything to anyone ..when someone is unable to express themselves , they get frustrated like this.

But cafe ?? No way..holding hands with his ex and giving her a shoulder to cry on, that's not justifiable.

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

@bold I mean how casually they were dressed as compared to Sai..and its not that she did not dress casually before..she did...I guess I am seeing too much there

I agree Its not fun to see the nervous breakdown daily..since for them it would just be 1 week...for us it could be 4 weeks or so..

Yaar it’s because even her friends contribute more to the TRPs and the success of the show than her! So they deserve better outfits too na? 😊

I actually find that aspect of her character very irritating. Her interference in other’s life when she hates it in her life. And the fact that she conveniently chooses when she wants to be his wife when she to label herself as zimmedari! She can be so rude for him for celebrating the anniversary because she not a real wife to him and then enforcing her right as her right as his wife. Why do confused?🤦‍♀️

Cafe date is definitely a no no!!!!

Originally posted by: sherry_24

I actually find that aspect of her character very irritating. Her interference in other’s life when she hates it in her life. And the fact that she conveniently chooses when she wants to be his wife when she to label herself as zimmedari! She can be so rude for him for celebrating the anniversary because she not a real wife to him and then enforcing her right as her right as his wife. Why do confused?🤦‍♀️

Cafe date is definitely a no no!!!!

This is what I have been trying to say for ages now....when Sai wants it, the shaadi becomes a zimmedari and a deal and a samjhota and when she wants then she has all the rights of being his wife?

She completely destroyed him when he tried to celebrate their anniversary because deal waali shaadi ki anniversary kyun manaye and his actions say nothing to her even if he says there is no vaada he is fulfilling and asks why they can't be husband & wife because she is 19 and wants to hear it in words and won't read between the lines or understand his actions BUT when he asks for space and she doesn't give it to him then it's also not her fault.

I have been saying that she needs to think about why he indulged her so much; why he spent so much time with her; why he gave her all rights over him. Guys don't just do that...you have to be really special for them and then they will even fly from Cape Town to California for you. If you aren't special and you are clingy then most of them WILL get annoyed and irritated.

As for spunk, there is a fine line between spunk and rudeness....sometimes being honest is good BUT there is a fine line between being honest and upfront and being honest and hurting the one person who loved you the most to the extent that they become this irritable, angry human.