Drashti took me back to my past.... - Page 6

Ankita Don't worry Dear some times GOD does miracles.

well i'll just say time is d best healer..i m telling from my own experience...u might feel world ending nothing left bt try to find better things in life spend time wid frnds n family...i admire ur decision...i passed through another situation..our riligion werent diff bt some other issues bt than we broke off n he moved on very easily which made depressed n than i decided to move on was tough bt i cud n m really happy now infact happily married..

heyy sireesha,I wish ur miracle line comes true....coz thts the reason i left him so that he has ample time to think what he wants..... my love or the so called jannat by breaking my heart.... but you dnt know such people they are really strong ppl....not like us for whom love is everything... thats what i observed in him....he loves his religion more than me perhaps..... I dnt know what future has in store for me coz i dnt expect anything... but i know its near to impossible that he 'll ever accept me as i am....

you're so strong and have such character! God bless you...you're such an inspiration!

heres some more detailing about him......
hes a socialist sort of person and is a well known personality in the social circuit....And the aim of his life is to be a theologist like Zakir Naik...(you must have heard him on peace tv) he loves me but hes too proud of his religion...according to him i m following the wrong religion and everyone in this world should be a muslim... ridiculous i must say!!!! and one more thing....my parents came to know everything but he denied infront of them.... and then we were secretly involved for sometime.... but then i realised hes not worth breaking my parent's trust.... I f he could't accept me infront of my parents... how 'll he accept me before the society??? He was never positive about this whole thing coz he knew i would never convert....i tried convincing him in every possible way.....but he was really "kattar muslim" types.... so i saw no hope and cut all contact with him.... i told him that i'll always love you but i cant be with you and meet you secretly like this if theres no future coz this way it may bring disgrace to my dignity and character....also i dnt want our relationship to lose its purity.... so we can't be in any sort of relation now....The day you get the aim of your life....that 'll be the day i would come to meet you and will ask you a question,"R YOU HAPPY??" till then I'll pray to allah and all my Gods of which you make fun that may they keep you happy...

Just back to say tht somethings are just not meant to be no matter how much you try but if you leave your choices open and dont say that it is your last love then perhaps you will someday find someone....who may not be like him but be someone you will love and stay with forever by his side :)

Originally posted by: ankita02

I have tried just everything...he loves me a lot....n i love him a lot.... but he says i will have to convert to his religion after marriage... n m totally against it... i respect all religions but m really attached to my own traditions n culture.... Converting to his religion means I cnt put sindoor of his name after marriage,cnt keep karwachauth....n many many things.....i dreamt of with him... but hes too religious n strictly follows the Quran....according to which muslim men cnt marry hindu women.... or the marriage is islamically not accepted... I gave him eg. of srk n gauri....n tht v cn opt for court marriage but he says he ll not commit a sin or shirk by going against Quraan.... I dnt understand how can you make God happy by breaking someone's heart....??? So dear the real problem is this .... n i dnt think it can be sorted out....ever....i cud have convinced my family anyways... n wud have won even his family's heart.....but this was the issue tht v dint agree on.... maybe he didnt love me as much as i do coz otherwise he would never have said this....according to him i can read his scriptures n Quraan n if i like it then i should convert with my own will....but the thing is however good it may be....i cud never have done that coz i dnt beleive in such things....m very secular while he thinks his religion is the best.... I never liked this thing in him.... I told him i can do everything for him to show his family but he should atleast accept me as i am.....but everytime there was no solution to this issue....

Hi Ankita! I am happy with the decision you made. If you are willing to accept him as he is (without expecting him to convert into a Hindu), then he should also accept you for who you are. He should be willing to give up his religion for you instead of asking you to convert to his. You should also be willing to give up your religion for his love, but he should not expect that from you. If he follows his religion so strictly, then lets say that you changed your religion and you get married to him, then you might still have problems in your married life. He will always expect you to do everything according to his religion. This will only hurt you more even though you are with the person you love. Unless you are willing to accept the other person the way they are, it will be very hard to make a Hindu Muslim marriage work!

vallanki....
When did i say i can't convert for him??? i was willing to do everything but i just asked him to let me be myself atleast when i am with him alone....and that i could convert for the world but inside i 'll worship god as i did from birth and follow my religion.... I 'll follow both the religions....but he didn't agree... N Sorry to say but I dnt think its infatuation... atleast from my side... because its been 5 months since i broke up with him stil the pain is the same and even if i would never have confessed to him what i feel for him.....and we would never have been in a rellationship even then i would have missed him the same....

Originally posted by: ankita02

vallanki....
When did i say i can't convert for him??? i was willing to do everything but i just asked him to let me be myself atleast when i am with him alone....and that i could convert for the world but inside i 'll worship god as i did from birth and follow my religion.... I 'll follow both the religions....but he didn't agree... N Sorry to say but I dnt think its infatuation... atleast from my side... because its been 5 months since i broke up with him stil the pain is the same and even if i would never have confessed to him what i feel for him.....and we would never have been in a rellationship even then i would have missed him the same....

I understand Ankita. you loved him, no doubt, but not to that extent where you can leave everything for him. You have strong love on your own traditions, customs which you dint want to leave for him/your love. You dint have enough love to fargo your love n belief on your traditons. You are giving second thoughts..that makes difference in love. You are asking him if he can give away his customs. you are questioning his love!! Both are not in true love..I would rather say this way . You are ready to live without him but not without your customs n family. It is good, one way. Hope, you forget him soon enough to move forward in your life. Best wishes with you always.