Bachpana... - Page 4

Originally posted by: beauty14

This incident is not being seen by factoring age out. The incident itself is so impactful because it took place at such a vulnerable point in Shravan's life, where he had just learned that his mother had left and then to be ridiculed and humiliated by the one person he considered worthy of his pain, that was traumatizing.

And my point in the post in relevance to age is that we cannot undermine Shravan's suffering because of his "age", he was deeply affected by these turn of his events and rightfully should feel so because he as a person was humiliated and degraded in the eyes of a person he cared for so deeply. And we cannot also dismiss Suman's actions just because she was a "child woman", no, she was fully conscious and aware of what she was saying. She knew it would hurt him, but never realized what extent to which it would hurt him which is extremely insensitive and selfish on her part.

And at her age, she must be held accountable for her actions. Being a teenager myself, I find myself knowing the difference between right and wrong. And if I were put in this situation or found that another person was in this situation, I would hold Suman accountable because she DID understand that what she was doing was wrong and was only worried about maintaining a "reputation" that meant more to her than her supposed "friend's" emotions.

Originally posted by: poppinss

Exactly ttt1, I do not know if I got all those 't's 😊. Sumo cannot be judged without taking her age into account.

One more point that I would like to add is... young people are impulsive and Sumo sure was very impulsive. At that point she took an spur of the moment wrong call to do what she did.

But the gravity of her mistake would have descended on her immediately after. Sumo herself knows what she did was terrible and we have seen that she has been living with that guilt, since Shravan left.

I guess CVs would be showing that today.

Originally posted by: ttt1

Okay for the sake of simplicity legs list down what suman did wrong

1.she refused to accept Sravan as a friend is public

2.she made him do her homework

3.she gave this.dependenable friend the impression that she was his friend too

4.she listened to his issues as per her convenience

5.when he was in his worst possible issue ,she refused to acknowledge him as a friend ,that led to the school Callibg hin names

1-insensitve

2-childish /selfish

3-not.sure

4-sidelining issues without understanding the intensity of issues

5- this was rude and insensitive ,but again I doubt whether she realized if that day was different

Now in my opinion none of this is right ,or the right thing for a 'teen ' to do , I agree that she was insensitive self centred adn selfish in her 'teens' ,but my issue is ,has the crime and punishment been proportionate

Now let me list down sravan's mistakes

1faked a romantic angle

2gifted her a gift and created a situation to convince people believe she is a gold digger

3,reminded her of her aukat in public in front of people who were her friends (she did have a very colourful school life)

4.came to her to see her cry and made her aware of why she deserved to be treated like that

I don't think it's proportionate and why I feel so is cos of the difference in phase in life

Originally posted by: beauty14

Sumo cannot be judged without taking her age into account? Can you please clarify what you mean by that? Because earlier on you mention that you are not making Suman's actions inconsequential, but by saying that her actions are rooted from an impulsiveness and immaturity is undermining the hurt Shravan felt by her actions.

You cannot say that all her actions were impulsive because they were not. She made the conscious decision herself to become friends with him. To hide their friendship. And to repeatedly reject and humiliate him in public. She knew what she was doing was wrong as you pointed out, however she never cared to realize the extent to which her actions hurt Shravan.