Mohans reality check - Page 2

Can't edit again. But I meant, once he's sober, Kastur will go ahead and he might make it known then.

Aren't we all writing how we perceive it?

Putting in effort for what? He does not love her for what would he put in effort? Have sex with her without feeling any love for her? Sorry but that would put him way down in my eyes ... am better off with him making no effort in this regard till he falls in love ... i have never denied that he did wrong with kastur by marrying her because of the mess he was in, when she loved him ... but i don't think he had no sense of guilt or did not feel bad about what he was doing to her ... in fact him wanting to take care of her, wanting to protect her is due to the burden of that guilt as much as it is due to the fact she is his wife. He does not love her, he knows it, he can't give her love (not at the moment atleast) but he wants to try his best to keep her happy despite that because he feels that sense of guilt and not just because he is married to her.

And yea all of him not having thought about it or how he planned to avoid it is hypothetical only ... who knows may be when he got married he did think about it and thought some day he might actually do it 🤣 you never know 😛

No, putting in the effort to at least try to get to know her, forge an understanding, relationship with her, etc etc. So far he's just taken it as it came along.

Originally posted by: Soaps1

And yea all of him not having thought about it or how he planned to avoid it is hypothetical only ... who knows may be when he got married he did think about it and thought some day he might actually do it 🤣 you never know 😛

Why can't I edit...

I already said he did wrong with kastur, didn't i? I am not even arguing on that ... him trying or making an effort to form a relationship with her, yes under normal circumstances he would have ... but here the situation is different ... if he has guilt he will also have fear ... fear that she will find out the truth someday ... and knowing that if he tries to form and start a relationship with her and they end up forming one won't it make that much worst and that bigger a dhoka, when she eventually finds out? Its more like he has put himself in a situation where either way its a mess, he in his own way is trying to make that mess as smaller as possible. I don't know if you will get what i am trying to say or not but when you do something wrong, the guilt or fear of it at times stops you from even the effort to correct it. Only way he can make it alright is if he tells kastur the entire truth and that he can't because of fear ... with time i think his trust on her will grow and that is when he might put the fear aside and be able to make the progress you are hinting at

I understand what you're saying, soapy. And I agree with it. The only difference is that you focus more on the reasoning, while I focus more on the actual action. I don't disagree with what you've put forth, that he has reasons for it all, and why he's gone about it the way he's done.

Well glad i got so many view points.On personal experience lets say my husband and i had an arranged marriage.Yes true we were near strangers on our wedding day.It took us some time to get to know each other.But the fact is we both took as much effort to make it a sucess.If i was in Kastur case i will ask cause it is my right as a wife that the marriage is real.The fact it is an arranged marriage is no excuse at all.

waisey i just realized kastur or no one asked him yet why he does not have ding dong ... i mean he only told her he does not love her ... did not say anything more cause kastur never asked him even if its an arranged marriage why you don't make an effort did she? 🤣 If she had then would be mohan's real test ... as to what he would say 🤣