Congatulations it's a girl..wat ..wat?? - Page 7

Originally posted by: Believe

true😃After marraige girls busy with their own world..... i agree with Qwerty😊

thnks vinu. Also a girl is never interested/involved in her parents life as the son...i think it should continue that way rather than create an imbalance of kinds... Girls are paraya dhan...isnt that a fond concept!!!??

can you imagine a mother who is always partial to her only daughter(has sons). When her daughter got a girl child she make unnecessary problems in the hospital and make the girl uncomfortable even in her delivery bed.
much later when the girls father died mother has full financial authority. when the girl was in a desparete condition to overcome some money problem the brothers asked her mother togive two laks rupees. she gave it but within 6 months she make the girl to return the money and the mother hand it over to one of her sons. The mother never think her grand child (girl) from daughter's side while giving gifts but only onece brought some ornaments and said somthing inappropriate.
The girl give back the ornament to her mother when she returned.The girl is of the mind that her mother never loved her but done her duties towards her, therefrore she wiil never accept any gift from the mother but it is her duty to lookafter her if necessary. The girl is my wife, in our marriage there was no dowery, talking about share of property or ornaments since the girl was much adamant that she will not marry a person seeks dowery.

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

thnks vinu. Also a girl is never interested/involved in her parents life as the son...i think it should continue that way rather than create an imbalance of kinds... Girls are paraya dhan...isnt that a fond concept!!!??

Friends, it is not correct that the girl is not interested in parents like the son.

I don't know what is going on other states , us, or uk but in Kerala much before than the IT kids gone to the above mention places , our girls as nurses gone and by virtue of their hard earned money the economy of this city state get better. These girls bring their siblings to the dream worlds and get them employed. I respect them and the labourers working in Middle east more than all becuase they themself economically well and the State as well, no mention to the family.( the new generationm kids may be not interested about the family (mycousins, nices uncle,aunt are settled in different part of world some of them are of the nature of disrespecting India, Kerala.).My experience ,not intended to offend any body. I am in a hurry, time to go for duty.

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

thnks vinu. Also a girl is never interested/involved in her parents life as the son...i think it should continue that way rather than create an imbalance of kinds... Girls are paraya dhan...isnt that a fond concept!!!??

Oh Qwerty..😊 I love it when girls and dhan are used in same sentence..!!!!😛 No wonder when girls are born , people say Laxmi ghar aayi hain.😉

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

i think the debate is more political... if you are woman or have girl child, or have been discriminated as a girl you take a stand against discrimination. if you are guy.. he expresses his overly affection if he has a daughter.. or just tries to play "smart", I would prefer a daughter...

the fact remains, discrimation is there in the cociety as a whole...... and until thats there you cant blame individuals for discriminating.....

Very true Qwertoo.. To each his/her own...

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

😆 right and girls cant be better budhape ki lathi since either her MIL is beating her or she is beating her MIL either way she is busy bickering.. so sons are the real "sun" in the parents life...😊

Arrey qwerty... sons are also too weak after getting beat up by either mother or wifey in the saas/bahu jamela...hain naa...😆

Sareg , I like your idea about parents having retirement options...Unless the parents choose to give that away in daughters dowry or son's education..😕

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

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thnks vinu. Also a girl is never interested/involved in her parents life as the son

grrrrrr😡

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

...i think it should continue that way rather than create an imbalance of kinds... Girls are paraya dhan...isnt that a fond concept!!!??

chalo ... atleast considered as Dhan .. even then I dont' know why people need dowery on top 😆

Article for Gulf news... really brings to home the point(atleast a part of it) that I wanted to make when I started this post!

Pregnant with burden of an age-old dilemma

http://archive.gulfnews.com/articles/07/09/29/10156812.html

09/29/2007 07:20 PM | By Nita Bhalla, Reuters

New Delhi: From day one, my unborn child has been under the scrutiny of practically everyone I meet in India, from my neighbour to beggars on the roadsides of the capital - each praying that my baby will be a boy.

"I will distribute sweets to the entire neighbourhood if you have a boy," said my wealthy neighbour who owns a call centre company in the suburbs.

Others have an ulterior motive for blessing me with a boy.

"Please give me some rupees," said the pig-tailed little girl in ragged clothes who knocked on the window of my taxi as it stopped at the traffic lights in bustling New Delhi.

"God will bless you with a son," she adds, looking down at my hugely eight-month pregnant belly.

In this conservative patriarchal society, no one asks if you want a boy or girl. It is taken for granted.

Family name

A son will carry on the family name, become the breadwinner, look after you when you are old and, for some faiths, ensure your soul's salvation after death by performing your last rites.

For many Indians, girls are a burden you can do without.

First, you have to worry about protecting their chastity. Most Indians believe a woman should be a virgin at the time of marriage. Then you have to pay for their upkeep - feed, clothe and educate them. And all for what? For her to get married and contribute to another household.

But most importantly, if you have a daughter you will most likely have to pay a substantial dowry to get her married off, despite the practice being banned.

"People see a daughter as a wasted expenditure ... 😲," said one women's rights activist.

Some are so desperate for a boy that they will risk their own health and that of their baby's, choosing to deliver at home with no medical help rather than in a clinic where there have been reports that newborn boys are stolen or switched for girls. "I have given birth to all my children at home," said Najma, my maid, who is a mother of four girls. "Each time, I thought it was a boy and didn't want to risk the clinic stealing it."

Quick ultrasound

In India, curious soon-to-be parents cannot just pop in to see their obstetrician for a quick ultrasound to know whether they should buy pink or blue booties. (which is so much of a disappointement for parents like me...who want to know the sex of the unborn baby for innocent reasons like choosing the colour of their clothing!)

Sex determination tests have been outlawed since 1994 as many parents and doctors will abort a girl. Signs outside hospital radiology departments warn you that disclosing the gender of your baby is a crime and you are made to sign forms pledging you will not ask the sex of your child.

During the ultrasound, the sonographer slides the transducer across your gel-covered bulge - careful not to move it too near the foetus' developing sex organs in case you spot something you should not in the fuzzy black and white image.

But despite tests being illegal, the United Nations says 2,000 female foetuses are illegally aborted everyday, leading to skewed sex ratios in many parts of the country. "It's so easy to find out, you just pay them some money and even the most reputable hospitals will tell you," said a friend whose wife recently gave birth at a top New Delhi hospital.

Sex selective abortions are a lucrative business here.

Reporting on doctors dumping unborn baby girls in dry wells or hiding foetuses in the septic tanks of their clinics - while having a human being growing inside me - has given me a new perspective on the value of life. I will be sure to celebrate the birth of my child with much fanfare - boy or girl.

TallyHo...I too read this article in Gulf News it really made me sad 😕and the part in red... I got to know the sex of my second child (girl) when I was 6 months pregnant we were thrilled. 😳

The Medical peoples and Educated Dr's why giving these information to Couples ??? 😳 I feel its wrong to know the sex of the unborn baby 😕Couple have Any probs to Wait 10 months??? 😳 ....Panish the Dr's n Couples who doing like this Practice n things..... 😳 then these kind of abortion will reduce. 😳