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I hate this discrimination against girls and boys. It's so old fashioned to think that boys are far better than girls. I have a boy (7yrs) and girl (4yrs)but never felt that either of them should be treated different. 😛

Giving birth to a boy does not make you more superior to someone who has girls, if you can make your children excel in whatever they want to persue irrespective of their gender then your battle of being a parent is won.

I feel people who talk negative things about girls should not be entertained... and those MIL who think that their grandchildren should be boys well they are just rejects from HELL....

the descrimination between boys and girs is disgusting and pathetic. it is a lame reaosn for a father to beat his wife, her in laws kicking her out (it still happens in some parts of india!). People need to stop thinking like they did in the dark ages and get in with the pregrame! sure boys are stronger than girls(scientifically proven) but girls are smarter and deserve the SAME and EQUAL respect as boys. its frustrating to me when i here, "oh its a girl...next time i hope you get lucky)! i wonder if india realises that there is actually a shortage of girls there?!!

Question: Some educated people say that they would rather have a boy so that they don't have to go through the seperation period. I am utterly confused here, don't the boys go and live in a seperate house later? Then, how does is it matter if it a girl or a boy? 😕 I am just talking about the modern, educated people. I can understand this concerns in a joint-family, but why do the nuclear family preachers do that?

But anyway, I think it is silly to do this kind of discrimination in today's world. And, what is worse is when relatives poke a nose and wish for a male child. I hate scenarios when parents keep trying till they have a son. One of my dad's friends had four daughters. They finally stopped after losing hope. One of my mom's friends was frustrated beyond a limit when her in-laws forced her to abort her second child when they found out it was a girl again. One of out distant relatives decided to take that decision herself when it was a girl-child again. After hearing cases like this, I asked my mom one day if they decided to have a second child because they had a girl. She just kept looking at me and told me later that they wanted two children irrespective of gender. I believe them and I am happy about that.

I have a friend here in college who has 3 sisters and 1 brother. What sucks is even all the sisters think that it was a right decision. I wonder how it would feel to know that you were just a product of trial-and-error. What irritates the hell out of me is the fact that these girks are then taught the same thing and they undergo the same process in the want of a male child.

Disgusting is all I have to say about this whole phenomenon. When I see things like these happening, it sucks life out of me. IMO these things do not serve any purposes. Girl or a boy, they are gifts of God and they should be cherished.

Rutu, Mindset is due to carrying name(Vansh). Girls get married and adopt the boys last name. So she is not carrying her parents name any further.

That is all, so that security gives them the feeling of being secured.

Originally posted by: Swar_Raj

Rutu, Mindset is due to carrying name(Vansh). Girls get married and adopt the boys last name. So she is not carrying her parents name any further.

That is all, so that security gives them the feeling of being secured.

Oh yeah... vansh aage badhana hota hai na? But a name matters so much? Just because you won't have the last name after marriage, you have little/no importance? You are still that same people's daughter... so, what if you don't have the same last name? Wouldn't her child be a continuation to the vansh also?

Thank God, neither my parents nor I think that way. I would have felt very much cheap if I was one of them.

Originally posted by: rutumodi915

Oh yeah... vansh aage badhana hota hai na? But a name matters so much? Just because you won't have the last name after marriage, you have little/no importance? You are still that same people's daughter... so, what if you don't have the same last name? Wouldn't her child be a continuation to the vansh also?

Thank God, neither my parents nor I think that way. I would have felt very much cheap if I was one of them.

so many women retain maternal last name too these days! so i don't understand that logic ( lack of it) either..
well said @ 1) would have felt cheap and 2) trial and error humiliation 🤢

Oh God, I have heard this carrying name thing so much really... I mean it really beats me.. does a boy or son even knows or remembers his grandfathers grandfather name????? Actually I have asked so many guys about this and the answer is No.... So how does that really matter... carrying the name thing... 😕

I had heard somewhere that a son ek ghar ka naam roshan karta hai.. and a daughter do gharo ka naam roshan karti hai.. 😊

One of my building friend parents gave birth to four daugthers in the want of a son... 🤢 Another gujju family same thing.. that time I was in school and use to think god please give them a son otherwise puri baarat peda karenge... My mom use to laugh and say sweta gets tensed if so and so lady is preg again... Well finally they had son...

The trend is changing albeit slowly.. In Cities, one may find mindset changing to a lot extend but in villages and smaller towns there is still a long long way to go.. saying this cos have actually seen it....

Education is the key... so many families do not even educate their daughter properly.. which really gives her a major disadvantage as far as her life is concern... Without education she has to be a dependent on her father/brother/husband... and go thru all sorts of things... I really wish all parents would give best education to their daughter so that she is independent and would face any situation life throws at her..

Mind set has to change in regards to a girl child... unless and until that starts to happen, I see no change.. I think the youth of today has a lot to do in this regard...

Dowry.. By giving one, girls parents instead of stopping the dowry system... stimulates the dowry system... Why Why Why.. 😡 the money you give in dowry.. utilize that money in giving education to your daughter and make her independent and self sufficient...

Say No to Dowry.. if all the marriageable girls parents say No to Dowry.. from where will the boys parents find families who are ready to give them dowry. Definately they wont keep their sons unmarried if they find all girls families saying No to Dowry... 😉 That will ultimately buried this dowry system.... 😳

There are many couples who go for adoption, adopt a girl child... 👏 A friend of mine, SIL recently adopted a girl.. Another family I know wanted to adopt a girl but cos they would have to wait for 2+ yrs to get one, as the number of families for adopting a girl was big.. they finally adopted a son...

Though trend is changing towards a girl child, a lot needs to be done...

This really happens in india 😕 . From where i grew up. both girls and boys were treated equally and this was in INDIA. 😊 ..and this was a village too

i think the debate is more political... if you are woman or have girl child, or have been discriminated as a girl you take a stand against discrimination. if you are guy.. he expresses his overly affection if he has a daughter.. or just tries to play "smart", I would prefer a daughter...

the fact remains, discrimation is there in the cociety as a whole...... and until thats there you cant blame individuals for discriminating.....

Originally posted by: sweta01

Oh God, I have heard this carrying name thing so much really... I mean it really beats me.. does a boy or son even knows or remembers his grandfathers grandfather name?????

i have heard this among locals, most of them prefer boys for family support but i guess the trend is changing now becoz most sons even choose to live separate 😆 😆 😆 regardless of that any kid born to a family is a blessing but narrow minded people choose to sideline what doesnt suit their taste and culture. preferring one over the other in the name of genetic lineage is a lame excuse!