Females Working After Marriage... - Page 2

Originally posted by: sunp

Am also curious😉😆, sunp as this question is asked second time. My reference to "Hey Guys" means both Boyz/Gurlz, Guys/Gals - being misunderstood😕?

Originally posted by: sunp

in this context yeah, there are lot of ways you can take it, if you know what I mean😉

Yup.. LOL...one way can lead to this - 😆

1) After a child is born who will have more responsibility father /mother?

To me it is weird question .. it is mutual decision of parents to bring a child in this world ... so how come only one is more responsible .. to me both are equally responsible ... roles can be different but there is no hard and fast rule for who plays what. It entirely depend upon circumstances and personalities of parents. to me people who already preset their mind that particular task(related to child upbringing) doesn't belong to them are somewhat incapable of taking anykind of responsiblity in the first place. No one can live a life according to a rule book

(a)Answer in every ones mind will pop up is both. But, when parents get divorce or separated why mothers are given first preference for child stay??

probably women are more capable of playing both roles compare to men😉

on seriouse note ... reality is most of the time divorces happened when a man decided to step out of a relationship (exceptions are there ofcourse) so if despite being father he decided to move according to his own desires than he wouldn't be a good choice to raise a child which demand compromises in life . 😊

(b) Is mother having more responsibility towards her child coz she spends more time, because father might be working abroad or going office from 9-4 job etc

nope , both have equal responsiblity .. we are wired differntly as LH would say , so mother and father affect a child differently. specially preschool period the most important learning period where both has to work togather for better development of a child.

Even if wife is stay home mom .. a child still need a father

(c)Should females quit there job after giving birth to a baby so that they can give there own teaching and values( and can spend quality time with them as every one want to see there child grow)

Love Raj's answer here 😆 ....

(d)Is it right that babies are given to Grand parents for the take care? As parents step out to work.(cant mother be in home and see there own child)

nope.. To take their blessing is different .even their presence is also good ..I am not in favour of giving babies to them altogather . I have the same reason as that of qwerts . it creat role model confusion .. a professional caretaker or babysitter can never be role model but grand parents surely can so there is a clear difference . Plus it is not fair to grand parents either who have already raised their children and now in old age they are given a huge responsibility again .. let them enjoy their life yaar.. somewhat free of responsibilities and everyday tensions 😃

Parents should always be main responsible people for their children in any case whether wife is staying home either in joint family system or nuclear family or whether she is working.

Note:- females who need to work to run there family because husbands income is not sufficient for the family is optional but I am talking about those girls who work because they have simply studied and even though if they don't work there home can easily run by husbands income.

I think most of husbands specially from our culture doesn't realize one improtant requirement of their wives as a human , interestingly they recognized it for themselve and that is self expression to me it is equally important as that of food or shelter. It is unique to every person so can't decide on basis of some role model that a person can do exactly the same . a career is a very descent way of self expression for a woman and I think any loving and concern partner would like his wife to be satisfied and happy 😊 after all a happy wife can keep her husband happy and can maintain a healthy environment at home.

As far as compromises are concerned .. both partners has to compromise according to their own circumstances , blue print of other's life can't provide a guide so generalization sometimes creat more problems than solutions

Originally posted by: Morning_Dew

1) After a child is born who will have more responsibility father /mother?

To me it is weird question .. it is mutual decision of parents to bring a child in this world ... so how come only one is more responsible .. to me both are equally responsible ... roles can be different but there is no hard and fast rule for who plays what. It entirely depend upon circumstances and personalities of parents. to me people who already preset their mind that particular task(related to child upbringing) doesn't belong to them are somewhat incapable of taking anykind of responsiblity in the first place. No one can live a life according to a rule book

Just the same way as only one of them ends up delivering the baby.... It was another thing if one delivered the arms other the legs then they used a manual to assemble the baby...😆😆

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

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Just the same way as only one of them ends up delivering the baby.... It was another thing if one delivered the arms other the legs then they used a manual to assemble the baby...😆😆

mujhay pata thaa tum mairi post ki dhulai to karogay par this is too much

😆

abhi bhi sudhar jaao .. ye aajoo bajoo kay log sari GFs samait lay jaingay ... or tum akailay khaday rahjao gay 😛.. kia samjhay ..😆

Originally posted by: Morning_Dew

mujhay pata thaa tum mairi post ki dhulai to karogay par this is too much

😆

abhi bhi sudhar jaao .. ye aajoo bajoo kay log sari GFs samait lay jaingay ... or tum akailay khaday rahjao gay 😛.. kia samjhay ..😆

ok dewey..🤗...😆point taken

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

Just the same way as only one of them ends up delivering the baby.... It was another thing if one delivered the arms other the legs then they used a manual to assemble the baby...😆😆

Omg Qwerts...🤣 😆 You are cracking me up.....😆

Originally posted by: guess_gallery

Hi Guys,

Just want to ask few questions...

1) After a child is born who will have more responsibility father /mother?

Usually mother but generaly whoever is more nurturing parent

(a)Answer in every ones mind will pop up is both. But, when parents get divorce or separated why mothers are given first preference for child stay??

Again because mums have that maternal instinct most of the time due to pregnancy... Not to say adoptive mothers feel any less... Plus mother nature has assigned mothers to carry and feed the baby so I guess she becomes the natural choice...

(b) Is mother having more responsibility towards her child coz she spends more time, because father might be working abroad or going office from 9-4 job etc

Probably because the wife takes care of the domestic and husbands needs too , she gets the honor defacto...

(c)Should females quit there job after giving birth to a baby so that they can give there own teaching and values( and can spend quality time with them as every one want to see there child grow)

Not always ... but if she is the primary caregiver in the marrige then yes... But a crack mother or a mean mother should not be anywhere near the child to impart anything really...

(d)Is it right that babies are given to Grand parents for the take care? As parents step out to work.(cant mother be in home and see there own child)

What's wrong with the grand parents? I think grand parents are patient and more attentive in some cases then the young overworked mothers are.... If the mother HAS to go out to work then it is fine to leave the kids with grand parents if they don't mind....

Note:- females who need to work to run there family because husbands income is not sufficient for the family is optional but I am talking about those girls who work because they have simply studied and even though if they don't work there home can easily run by husbands income.

If the mother is going to be miserable staying at home then I think she is not going to be a good mother to the child or wife.. All these quirks have to be straigtened out before marrying a career person.... It is too late to think about it after the child is born...

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

Just the same way as only one of them ends up delivering the baby.... It was another thing if one delivered the arms other the legs then they used a manual to assemble the baby...😆😆

Going by your logic. It takes two to make the baby. So then if one takes up the job to deliver the baby then ideally it is other's job to sit at home and take care of the baby.😆

Originally posted by: Maya_M

Going by your logic. It takes two to make the baby. So then if one takes up the job to deliver the baby then ideally it is other's job to sit at home and take care of the baby.😆

Originally posted by: Maya_M

Going by your logic. It takes two to make the baby. So then if one takes up the job to deliver the baby then ideally it is other's job to sit at home and take care of the baby.😆

What about maa ka kaleja...kya woh tilmila nahi utthega or is it thing of the yore...Office may phone ki ghanti baccche ka ma ma kahke rona nahi yaad dilayenge? how will you work in such a situation?

Men are crude.... maa ki godi mey sar rakh key sone may jo sukoon hai - you want to put a baap ki godi - something unheard of....😆.... A the risk of sounding stereotypical to the feminist I'd say.. Women are naturally endowed with that exquisite finesse for motherhood...Men are just incidental in giving them that opportunity ..😊....