Females Working After Marriage...

Hi Guys,

Just want to ask few questions...

1) After a child is born who will have more responsibility father /mother?

(a)Answer in every ones mind will pop up is both. But, when parents get divorce or separated why mothers are given first preference for child stay??

(b) Is mother having more responsibility towards her child coz she spends more time, because father might be working abroad or going office from 9-4 job etc

(c)Should females quit there job after giving birth to a baby so that they can give there own teaching and values( and can spend quality time with them as every one want to see there child grow)

(d)Is it right that babies are given to Grand parents for the take care? As parents step out to work.(cant mother be in home and see there own child)

Note:- females who need to work to run there family because husbands income is not sufficient for the family is optional but I am talking about those girls who work because they have simply studied and even though if they don't work there home can easily run by husbands income.

Cheers,

Ahmed

Originally posted by: reeps

HOT topic! 😆 😆

There is no right or wrong answer. IT's all about personal preferences. Usually, mothers do take and have more responsibility.... just cause daddy ain't gonna feed the baby or the family. Earning money is all good, but you can't eat it. 😆 ...

Anywho, I can't say for others, but right now... me thinks that I will work, and raise a family at the same time. 😊 ... and responsibility is taken, so if I take my baby's responsibility, it is mine 😛 ... and you know, it is not about money or leaving a silly job to take care of kids.... it's about dreams and wishes, and the urge to satisfy your creativity, etc...how can anybody expect a wife to quit her dreams just like that??..and I believe both can be done at the same time. YOu just got to fine-tune yourself. 😃 Waise bhi, now a days, companies offer very flexible hours for mothers, so, mothers can work, and take care of babies. lol, why can't dad do the same?? .... as far as quality time is concerned, it can be an hour-two, doesn't have to be the entire day, and one doens't have to kill their own dreams to achieve that.... waise bhi, as kids grow up...what to do then?? Sit back at home?? world is growing fast... and if you aren't going with it... just gonna end up on a couch somewhere.... when you can go ahead and make a difference in others' lives, too....

How come it always comes down to my kid, my this... can take care of the world as mine. 😳

No idea if I am even answering your questions... but I have said what I feel. 😊

Persy

Persy

Persy ji waise bhi you have indirectly answered and expressed your feelings too but it seems career is more imp to you.😃. and as you tell me why cant dad do the same... so you if they do can you agree that guys will have more rights on child if parents get seperated...

it will be quite easy if you answer every question 1 by 1😊

any way thanks for your valueble inputs

Originally posted by: guess_gallery

Persy ji waise bhi you have indirectly answered and expressed your feelings too but it seems career is more imp to you.😃. and as you tell me why cant dad do the same... so you if they do can you agree that guys will have more rights on child if parents get seperated...

it will be quite easy if you answer every question 1 by 1😊

any way thanks for your valueble inputs

Great! YOu made a good assumption based on my answer. 😃 😆

Actually, I go to school.... right now, I am gonna go get ready to get to class; hence, can't answer all your questions one by one. Maybe, I shall try later.

BUT to put rest to your assumption... I have dreams to fulfil, and I am NOT the kind to give up on dreams, but I didn't say I give more importance to career than family. If you dind't notice, I said that BOTH can be done at the same time! BOTH can be done with the same amount of passion. I have a universal opinion on the question.... I want to and I will take care of myself, my kids, family and the World.😃 .... my world is not limited to raising my would-be kids.😆 (no offence to house-wives, you got a huge responsibility, too) NOthing wrong with spreading your wings.😛

I am not sure why you h ighlight what you did, and you skip the important part in between😕 .... and yes, why can't dad do the same? Share the responisbility, so both husband, and wife can work?😕 ... again, all this has got nothing to do with money.😊

As far as rights are concerned, both parents have equal rights to the kids, unless ofcourse something is the matter iwth one of the parents, and the court decides otherwise.... again, I believe this is done on case-by-case basis.😃 And the person who can provide a good future, and better emotional support is given more responsibilites by law, I believe.😕 Again, me no lawyer...can't answer the question.

That's all for now. Got to run.😛

Persy

These are my opinions.. I respect different views of different people... please respect mine too😊

Originally posted by: guess_gallery

Hi Guys,

Just want to ask few questions...

1) After a child is born who will have more responsibility father /mother?

Obviously mothers take more responsibility but fathers on their part should not take it for granted. It is in the best interest of the child if both the parents share the responsibilities.

(a)Answer in every ones mind will pop up is both. But, when parents get divorce or separated why mothers are given first preference for child stay??

Mothers are known to be more attached and tuned to their child's need than the father, so its only natural. However, the physical, mental and finfancial conditions of a person are taken into account before deciding.

(b) Is mother having more responsibility towards her child coz she spends more time, because father might be working abroad or going office from 9-4 job etc

Traditionally, yes that was the reason, nowadays its because fathers (not all) feel it is the more accepted social norm. Earlier it was thought that fathers become too tired after their work to take care of their child but what about now, the mothers work as long and as hard on their job and yet they still find the time and energy to take care of their child. It's high time fathers do the same, its only about multi-tasking.

(c)Should females quit there job after giving birth to a baby so that they can give there own teaching and values( and can spend quality time with them as every one want to see there child grow)

Why should they give up their career and dreams. They can persue their dream and spend quality time with their child at the same time. Taking 6 mths maternity leave is different and giving up their career is completely different. Moreover, teachings and values can be instilled by the father as well.

(d)Is it right that babies are given to Grand parents for the take care? As parents step out to work.(cant mother be in home and see there own child)

If they do it to shirk responsibility or take advantage of their situation it is completely wrong. However, if they arrange for a professional help to assisst the Grandparent/s it can really be a beautiful experience for the child 😊

Note:- females who need to work to run there family because husbands income is not sufficient for the family is optional but I am talking about those girls who work because they have simply studied and even though if they don't work there home can easily run by husbands income.

Its not about money but about following one's dreams and both the husband and the wife should support each other in fulfilling theirs.

Cheers,

Ahmed

My reply in Blue

1) After a child is born who will have more responsibility father /mother? Both

(a)Answer in every ones mind will pop up is both. But, when parents get divorce or separated why mothers are given first preference for child stay?? First preference is not given to mother. Child's future is first priority. In most cases a mutual decision is reached and father allows the child to stay with mother or doesn't fightt for the child mostly because they find it difficult to handle a child alone.

(b) Is mother having more responsibility towards her child coz she spends more time, because father might be working abroad or going office from 9-4 job etc. Responsibility has nothing to do with time spent. When a kid goes to school then most of his time is spent with teachers and that doesn't mean that parents now has less responsibility. Quality time is more important than quantity time and it varies for each family.

(c) Should females quit there job after giving birth to a baby so that they can give there own teaching and values (and can spend quality time with them as every one want to see there child grow) I believe fathers have values too to impart to the child. They also yearn to spent quality time with children. So both quitting job to teach values and lesson is impractical. It should be a mutual decision based on what is best for your family.

(d)Is it right that babies are given to Grand parents for the take care? As parents step out to work. (cant mother be in home and see there own child) Babies are under care of grandparents, babysitters or daycare depending on parents' discretion. If a parent thinks that she needs to be with the child then that is her choice. If she thinks that she should join work and still be able to spent quality time with her child then that should be a choice too. Afterall a mother knows what best for her child. Who are we to comment?

Note:- females who need to work to run there family because husbands income is not sufficient for the family is optional but I am talking about those girls who work because they have simply studied and even though if they don't work there home can easily run by husbands income.
I choose not to comment on the proclamation above.

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

Only as far as development and confidence/character building in the first 4-5 years...Mothers shouldnt work until their babies are about 4-5 years...

Opinions depends on person to person, but I beg to differ on point quote above.

Development of confidence/character - You mean to say if mothers cannot devote initial 4 -5 years with sibilings, then child lacks confidence / character?

Why mother only is responsible for this development phase what is the Mr. contributing, its his baby tooo ?

These 4 -5 years as easy as it sounds professionally might impact big time. In fact in some cases women might not get over it and be accustomed to working culture.

As far as child development is concerned - both can be working can plan thier time, so that not only the kid - they also get quality time together and make best to inculcate good things to thier child. Confidence will only come in when the child is exposed to outer world - thats works well when you have kids enrolled in good quality day care + Learning centers from start.

Basically comes down to how a person can juggle every aspects of child's need/development/love/etc along with working on one's career. Balancing both the lifes - there are pros and cons both ways but I see it makes more sense for continue work rather then sitting at home for "development" which is not even gauranteed.