Originally posted by: guess_gallery
Hi Guys,
Just want to ask few questions...
1) After a child is born who will have more responsibility father /mother?
Both have equal, but not necessarily identical responsibilities!
(a)Answer in every ones mind will pop up is both. But, when parents get divorce or separated why mothers are given first preference for child stay??
Because women are better at multi-tasking, and they have a better support system i.e. relatives, friends, neighbours to fall back upon in case of emergencies. (all that time spent chatting over the phone or over the backyard fence does come in handy!)
(b) Is mother having more responsibility towards her child coz she spends more time, because father might be working abroad or going office from 9-4 job etc
More time spent doesn't equal more responsibility. Like I said earlier, equal but not identical reponsibility. Also, a woman who stays at home does much more than simply take care of the child, so she already has added responsibilities. Being in a 9-5 job is not a good enough excuse to shirk from your duties towards your child even if as Qwerty put it " men are (merely)incidental " in the creation of parenthood!
(c)Should females quit there job after giving birth to a baby so that they can give there own teaching and values( and can spend quality time with them as every one want to see there child grow)
A child needs values from both parents , so a woman quitting her job and staying at home will not guarantee perfect values (especially if she was making mega bucks and is now at the mercy of her husband to buy her the latest Louis Vuitton handbag!😉). However, I would add here that as and when I have a child I will quit working to see my child grow (actually I am lying! I am paranoid, and won't be able to trust anyone else with it!😃)
(d)Is it right that babies are given to Grand parents for the take care? As parents step out to work.(cant mother be in home and see there own child)
Depends. I was raised by a grandparent and grew up to be perfectly normal with no role-model confusion. If the parents are handing over the child so that they can have their pre-parenthood lifestyle, then it's a complete no-no. However, if the grandparents offer to help and are not inconvenienced by the responsibility, then why not? Sometimes grandparents want the responsibility in order to prevent stagnation, and boredom in their post-retirement lives. Personally, if I had to, I'd rather let my parents take care of my child than a stranger.
Note:- females who need to work to run there family because husbands income is not sufficient for the family is optional but I am talking about those girls who work because they have simply studied and even though if they don't work there home can easily run by husbands income.
The idea that women should work only if their husbands need financial assistance doesn't gel with me. In my opinion, women should work for their economic independence. Today she might have a husband who is rolling in money. Kal agar woh na ho, ya phir uske saath "woh" ho???
Cheers,
Ahmed
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