Indians abroad.

Are children born to Indian parents living abroad easily accepted ? I mean second generation Indian kids .

Does he / she feel more at home in India than his/her own country when they go back vacations.

What are your experiences?

I was born and raised in the US, and I feel that I'm not as easily accepted by Indians from India. Even though I celebrate all the religious holidays, speak Gujarati, watch Hindi movies, listen to Film songs and everything else, I'm still treated differently because I didn't grow up in India.

My cousins all grew up in India, so when they moved here we always had different view points and in that I was never really accepted by them, in that they all stuck together and I was always left out of stuff.

But I still love India, and identify with it more than America. I couldn't live there due to differences in lifestyles, but India is my country.

Originally posted by: Buffie

Welcome to DM Madhu Di 🤗🤗

ISome infact hate it when in India,and the nature and accent of Indians per se 😕

They do??😕

I mostly met youngsters here who love going to India whenever they can.........

Actually, as a matter of fact, i disagree 😕
since i live in an asian community..east london is full of them and southall too, this country is full of a lot of indians..according to me anyway..so if its here..then its not at all much of a problem..
i was born and raised in the UK..but i always love to go back home..to my India 😳 its like refreshing all my memories and i don't quite know exactly why..but things seem so much more easier over there than it does there..even though i know about poor living conditions that apply to some
and well, my mum was born and brought up over there but she came back here after marriage..and it;s like you probably won't really even be able to say she comes from india cause she's really adapted to the environment over here but yes, she too loves going back to her city because after all that's where she comes from and you can never really forget that 😊
although i kind of do agree that when you go back, people treat you differently sometimes😕 like the thought that we're not living in india kinda makes the people there that we know feel weird i think 😕ermm..wont go into too much detail..

and minnie..buffie just touched on a point..and yes..she is right..over here we kinda call them 'retards' or 'freshies' lol..its truee..and people actually dont like going back there due to the conditions..but yaar..its not that bad anymore..its no longer an LEDC for a start hehe😊

Tina xx

Originally posted by: Minnie

They do??😕

I mostly met youngsters here who love going to India whenever they can.........

I said "SOME"......Yes,Some indeed dont have a great opinion about India and Indians..the most convinient point about which they start mocking is the accent....."OH!In India,no can can speak good english..Everyone have this bad accent....Everyone in india speak the way the stereotypical Punjabi truck driver/Madrassi/Bihari speaks blah blah"

Another point is the nature of Indians...."Oh!Indians are so interfering,they butt into everyone else's personal matters..."...Yet another point is "attitude"....."When we come to India,people arent too friendly towards us"..Hell,these people comes with loads of baggage and attitude and a superiority complex🤢,scorn the indians,who would want to befriend them......

And the acronym "FOB" 🤢a ka Freshie🤢 in the UK is my pet peeve...So its like"All fobs smell bad,none of the fobs can speak english well,all the fobs live in groups who wouldnt mingle with others,FOBS feel homesick,FOBS should go away back to India etc etc".....and none give it a think,as to why the "fobs" are there in the US/Uk in the first place..they cant ask their governments to stop outsourcing people/they cant stop the universities from giving admission to "fobs",but all they can do is ridicule them for their accent/conduct etc😡

These are a few things that I have seen and heard POI's say

Hey Madhu, welcome to Debate Mansion! 😊

Well me and my brother were raised in India and my other long list of first cousins were brought up in US. When they used to visit India I think they said they used to love it. They still love going to India. Infact they are the one who keep on pushing their parents every year to visit India. Their main attraction is shopping, food and sight seeing. We used to love them visit us and I used to even take them to my college (ofcourse, i had to lecture my cousin to not wear short skirt if she wants to come with me to my college 😆) and other social events. So i don't think they are not accepted there.

I don't know about others, but I strongly belive that my daughter who is born in US for her US is her home. Indian can be her second home. But she has her childhood friends, school, environment all here just like I have attachment to those small things in INdia she will be attached to thigns here so it's but obvious that US is her first home. Madhu you asked for expereince so here...Last year we went to india for vacation and my daughter just loved there with grandparents and all the fun in India. She cried as she didn't wanted to leave all neighborus and grandparents, but as soon as she came back to US in this cold brutal winter....she was all happy to see her school friends her toys her home and she said mommy i missed my bed and my friends. so guess she felt homely when she was back.

Hi Madhu, Welcome to DM. You have picked a nice topic. I am a typical Punjabi mother living in Canada with three Canadian born kids. I think it all depends on each indivudual parents Sankaars and family values. It definitely runs in your family. I was always a family oriented person from my childhood days. I used to welcome all my cousins coming from abraod and history repeats itself. Now when I go to India with my kids, they get so much attention that they love to go their. Now my nieces and nephews are growing up and my kids don't want to miss any of our family weddings. It takes them few days to start speaking Punjabi ot Hindi.
My younger child should be more Western than Indian, but my daughter is more attached to my side of the family than myself. I always lived with my husbands family and I hardly miss my own siblings, but my daughter says this all the time: "After all I am half SUDHIR and half KALIA. I want to meet my Mamu, Mosi and cousins.
Other side some parents don't take tjeir kids back home and they feel left out. I think we as India parents has more responsibility towards our kids than Western parents because they should know what our culture is.
Sorry Madhu, I want to discuss more, but I have to go home and pack because I am going to Vancouver for this long weekend. I will talk to you another time.
Thanks,
Neelam

Originally posted by: sowmyaa

Hey Madhu, welcome to Debate Mansion! 😊

Well me and my brother were raised in India and my other long list of first cousins were brought up in US. When they used to visit India I think they said they used to love it. They still love going to India. Infact they are the one who keep on pushing their parents every year to visit India. Their main attraction is shopping, food and sight seeing. We used to love them visit us and I used to even take them to my college (ofcourse, i had to lecture my cousin to not wear short skirt if she wants to come with me to my college 😆) and other social events. So i don't think they are not accepted there.

I don't know about others, but I strongly belive that my daughter who is born in US for her US is her home. Indian can be her second home. But she has her childhood friends, school, environment all here just like I have attachment to those small things in INdia she will be attached to thigns here so it's but obvious that US is her first home. Madhu you asked for expereince so here...Last year we went to india for vacation and my daughter just loved there with grandparents and all the fun in India. She cried as she didn't wanted to leave all neighborus and grandparents, but as soon as she came back to US in this cold brutal winter....she was all happy to see her school friends her toys her home and she said mommy i missed my bed and my friends. so guess she felt homely when she was back.

I agree with you Bindi. I think children regard the country in which they are brought up as their real home and why not. After all, my kids go to India only during the hols - so india for them is like a holiday resort where they go for a few days to have good food and be pampered by their grandparents. While UK is their real home, the place where they live.

At the end of the day, as long as they grow up into good human beings does it really matter which country they regard as their home? I often tell my chidren - don't worry whether you are an Indian, an Asian or British - you are a citizen of the world!!!