I am referring to only ones whose outbursts and affairs are rather public and admitted by their own spouses or kids or themselves in some old interview.
Like Shakti Kapoor also once shamelessly defended his affairs and rude attitude and when asked what did he think of impact of this on his wife, he said what did she have to worry about? He bragged how he gave her money and bungalow and she had material comforts so she had nothing to complain of.
He never denied he had affairs or was crude at home or cheated his wife.
So when we talk of these types there is nothing wrong.
Counter abuse by fans who defend male stars or accuse Ash or Deepika or Kat of being cheaters etc is just whataboutery. Ash is also accused of being a bad bahu or being close to Amitabh. That is rumour mongering by male star fans to slander the woman. Sridevi or Hema had affairs with married men, is also true and not rumours as their marriages are also there for anyone to see.
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