Was Safeena spunky or toxic? - Page 6

Originally posted by: Rekha_ji

First of all, she could be BOTH "spunky" and "toxic". It's incorrect to think of people as basic as "good people" and "bad people". We all have shades, which change with time or not. Was she spunky? Hell yes. What she toxic? Well let's explore that for a second...

Her boyfriend spends the night with another woman and lies to her about it - when she finds out, she gets angry and smacks the b*tch over the head with a bottle after the girl chases after her and provokes reaction.

But it's very interesting how the man can cheat and lie and he's fine, but the girl gets upset and she's toxic???

IF the roles were reversed, and it was a guy feeling protective over his girl getting too close to another guy and hit him with a bottle, nobody would even flinch or notice and say "toxic"...

Therefore making Safeena my personal HERO. I would have probably gone as far as pouring a pint of beer over the boyfriend's head instead but, this worked better in the film obviously.

Murad was actually the toxic one in this case, if we really wanna talk about it, clearly. He's a liar, he lies to the woman he loves, the woman who was willing to sacrifice everything for him. He broke her trust. He made a FOOL out of her, in PUBLIC. You just don't do that to someone. She should have smashed him through a table thinking about it now.

But anyway... I think mintyblue is just trying to find new and innovative ways to show how much she dislikes Alia Bhatt, and that's what this topic is really all about :)

Exactly. Some random hussy tries to make moves on my boyfriend and I'm supposed to be sistahs with her? Y'all nuts or what?

Originally posted by: Thatgirl16

Safeena had deep rooted toxic issues in her. This is patriarchy when twice she confronts the girls involved with her boyfriend but never has a clear conversation or gives an ultimatum to the boy. She could get all violent with Srishti's character or Sky but doesn't come to take her boyfriend head on.

Deeply patriarchal, toxic and manipulative

Please watch the scene again, as I have.

Safeena goes directly to her boyfriend and asks him for clarification. And then she walks away, from both of them.

She is then chased by the girl, the girl grabs her wrist, and pulls her, trying to make her stop, further provoking someone who is clearly very upset. She f*cking deserved it. Well Murad did, but Sky should've stayed outside smoking her fag and mind her own business.

How on earth is that "manipulative"????????????

Where s the manipulation?? I really don't get it. It seems like a random word thrown in to fatten up the argument/case.

If anything, Murad was the manipulator.

The fact that Safeena is being seen as "toxic" is the clearest definition of patriarchy.

Originally posted by: Mahisa22

Well you clearly either don't stay in India, or go out much. It's something people hear from their moms and aunts right from childhood: Do not get your daughter married in a household which has an unmarried nanad. I saw and heard it in multiple states all over India. Its as common as the proverbial bad saas. Even my PG room-mate rejected a guy a few days ago for this very reason: He had a sister living at home. My own cousin faced stiff opposition over marrying a guy (though it was an arranged match) because her mother was apprehensive about the guy having a college-going sister who was a few years younger than my cousin.

I have actually had girls tell me they prefer guys with sisters, doesnt matter younger or older as they are more understanding towards the restrictions and problems faced by women in India.

Also, my sister is married to a man w two sisters, whom she gets along with like they've known eachother years. Maybe some people just care more about what sort of guy they're marrying and not how many sisters he has.

If your in laws are going to be assholes, they will be assholes irrespective of whether the guy has an unmarried sister. That's not how you judge a family. Not even once did my parents think this way about my brother in law's 2 sisters. Infact even im close to them and they've even stayed with us on a holiday.

Originally posted by: aish.

Wow way to assume..or maybe I just belong to a society that has a different school of thought?

I have actually had girls tell me they prefer guys with sisters, doesnt matter younger or older as they are more understanding towards the restrictions and problems faced by women in India.

Also, my sister is married to a man w two sisters, whom she gets along with like they've known eachother years. Maybe some people just care more about what sort of guy they're marrying and not how many sisters he has.

If your in laws are going to be assholes, they will be assholes irrespective of whether the guy has an unmarried sister. That's not how you judge a family. Not even once did my parents think this way about my brother in law's 2 sisters. Infact even im close to them and they've even stayed with us on a holiday.

I said UNMARRIED sisters who live in the SAME HOUSE. A guy can have 10 sisters as long as they don't live in the same house as the wife does.

Obviously in a love marriage, you won't care even if your boyfriend has a harridan mom. Because you don't have a choice in that matter. But in arranged marriages where you CAN choose, then nobody in their right mind would want to live in a household with 10 other females.

It's not about anybody being 'assholes', it's about ego clashes and the toxicity which develop when you have other women constantly hovering over you and judging your every move and bitching about you a la high school mean girl cartels. This is why most women prefer to live alone with their hubbies, its mostly because of the mother-in-law or sisters-in-law. Of course there would be exceptions, but that's what they are---exceptions. And I'm talking a HUGE sample size.

Male in-laws don't cause any problems for brides (mostly), its the female ones who do.

Originally posted by: Rekha_ji

Please watch the scene again, as I have.

Safeena goes directly to her boyfriend and asks him for clarification. And then she walks away, from both of them.

She is then chased by the girl, the girl grabs her wrist, and pulls her, trying to make her stop, further provoking someone who is clearly very upset. She f*cking deserved it. Well Murad did, but Sky should've stayed outside smoking her fag and mind her own business.

How on earth is that "manipulative"????????????

Where s the manipulation?? I really don't get it. It seems like a random word thrown in to fatten up the argument/case.

If anything, Murad was the manipulator.

The fact that Safeena is being seen as "toxic" is the clearest definition of patriarchy.

I hope you read my next set of comments where I establish why blame Murad, why he should be held responsible and not Sky.

@Bold: Yes I absolutely agree with what you said except for she deserved it. No if anyone its Murad who deserved that bottle.

But with the girl who texted Murad and her treatment to her and not holding her boyfriend responsible is where I see her problem, her toxicity.

Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

I keep saying if Murad wants to be with that type woman its his choice 😆

Lol why would he have any problem anyway? When he does something she doesn't like, Safeena goes and beats other women, and carries on their relationship as normal

Originally posted by: Thatgirl16

I hope you read my next set of comments where I establish why blame Murad, why he should be held responsible and not Sky.

@Bold: Yes I absolutely agree with what you said except for she deserved it. No if anyone its Murad who deserved that bottle.

But with the girl who texted Murad and her treatment to her and not holding her boyfriend responsible is where I see her problem, her toxicity.

Murad didn't do anything with her, Sky kissed him. So she deserved a slap or a punch (not a bottle though)

Originally posted by: Anjalika01

Lol why would he have any problem anyway? When he does something she doesn't like, Safeena goes and beats other women, and carries on their relationship as normal

What if that bottle lands on him one day 😆

It would be his choice and his alone to forgive 👌

Originally posted by: Mahisa22

Murad didn't do anything with her, Sky kissed him. So she deserved a slap or a punch (not a bottle though)

Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

What if that bottle lands on him one day 😆

It would be his choice and his alone to forgive 👌

😂😂😂