Do you believe in Arranged Marriages? - Page 2

I dont know what is good or bad.. i think love marriage is more better.... arrange ? i wud faint.... 😆

i think arragned marriage is unfair, this is matter of life, i mean if u love someone thn u should marry that person, parents should not blackmail their kids into doing something that they dont want to do trust me i have been there and its not good

Well I would say....if you find someone and fall in love then that is great!...but sometimes you can't find that person on ur own and you need help, so if it is ur parents who are doing the introducing ...what is wrong with it?...rather your parents are the safest ppl to go to help find you someone, cuz they know you best and want the best for you!...I mean a lot of times ppl meet through common friends who set them up...they might like each other and get married...that too is arranged...but ppl don't seem to think of them that way just b/c it is a friend doing the introducing!!! ...😊 (BTW when I say arranged I mean someone introduces to a person, you have time to get to know the person, like go on dates...etc...and then you decide yes or no --- semi arranged 😊 . I don't agree with you see your life mate on the wedding night 😕 ...)

As for saying a love marriage will last longer...or an arranged marriage will last longer...I don't think that really depends on the kind of marriage it is...rather it depends on the couple itself, and how committed they are to one another... 😊

BTW great topic Neelu 👏

Great discussion! 👏

My take on love marriage:

I feel if we're able to find our partner it's great as long as our parents are fine with it. It's wonderful when everyone's happy. 😊 But we should be aware that if the shaadi isn't successful, it'll be our own fault - we shouldn't blame anyone else for it.

As far as arragned marriage is concerned, I think it's wonderful. Your parents are the best ones to find a life partner for you. They know you and can find a good match - I won't say perfect match as I don't feel the perfect partner exists.

None of us can predict which way of finding a partner guarantees a longer lasting marriage.

I'm engaged and it was a love aswell as an arranged marriage - our families would have wanted us to get married and I'm happy that our choices match 😊

my take is arranged marriage as long as ur parents dont force u to marry the person they chose....

in my case, my darling husband of 6 years was the 1st person who was introduced to me by my parents and we fell in love with each other insatntly.....9 months later we got married....and my husband has been treating me like a princess ever since.....its real fun and adventure in an arranged mrg since both wife-husband learn to make compromises and understand and trust each other....and the icing on the cake is the honeymoon period 😉

i know few of my friends back in india who had love mrgs and now they r very unhappy and couple of them r leading towards divorce.....

so conclusion is MARRIAGES are MADE IN HEAVEN....whether its arranged or love....doesnt matter 😊

good topic neelu 👏 👏 👏

how many arranged marriages haven't we seen where the husband and wife are so in love w/ each other? and how many love marriages haven't we seen lead to divorce? We can't say one's better than the other cuz well...we just don't know. Going into marriage with commitment is what's important...doesn't matter what kind of marriage is. Now...do i sound like a buddhi that's been married for 60 years?!? cuz i'm not 😭 😭

okay back to topic, if you ask me, i'd say let's just let fate do it's work 👏 👏

That doesn't mean I agree with parents forcing children to get married. There's a difference between telling their opinion and forcing their opinion. Okay before this turns into an essay, I shall quit...bye neelu 😆 🤗

Originally posted by: seelu

my take is arranged marriage as long as ur parents dont force u to marry the person they chose....

in my case, my darling husband of 6 years was the 1st person who was introduced to me by my parents and we fell in love with each other insatntly.....9 months later we got married....and my husband has been treating me like a princess ever since.....its real fun and adventure in an arranged mrg since both wife-husband learn to make compromises and understand and trust each other....and the icing on the cake is the honeymoon period 😉

i know few of my friends back in india who had love mrgs and now they r very unhappy and couple of them r leading towards divorce.....

so conclusion is MARRIAGES are MADE IN HEAVEN....whether its arranged or love....doesnt matter 😊

very sweet story and i completely agree with the last line...it's all destiny😉👏

ok my opinion on arranged and love marriages r going to be sum what the same as u guys. ok me starting:

marriage is about relationships, love and commitment.

Arranged marriages: even though it is hard for sum people to believe these marriages work out almost all the time. the parents help find their son or daughter a partner and ask them to meet them if they like each other have alot in comman n can see themselves being commited to the marriage, accepting all the relatonships that come along when u marry ur husband(mother-in-law n people) n u know u r perfect 4 each otha. Sum things i dun like about arranged marriages is that sum times the kids r forced to marry against there own will emotionally black mailed by there parents n sum times u dun meet them so seeing ur hubby or wife on the wedding night a big NO, NO.
Love marriages:u hav found the on for u n ur in love! love marriages give u the chance to find mr. right all by ur self and thats great! if u think ya i love this person, i will be committed to this marriage and accept all the realatioships that come with it.

soo i kinda believe in both! n good topic it made me think a little bit!

n seelu who rote marriages r made in heavan i have sumthang like that too.

Marriages are made in heavan but celebrated on earth the union of 2 unknown souls written from birth!~ its all destiny.

i think arranged marriagez are okay as long as the two get to noe each oder.. as for ppl saying parents are UNFAIR.. y do u sai that? oviously they wont get us married to sum drunk ass*ole or nethin rite.. they want what is rite fo us. so i dun think that they are unfair at all.. all ov us talkin like this.. half our parentz have had arranged marriages so how can u sai da the couples don't stay happy? arent ur parents happi?? i mean think bout it. if they are happy then so can we be. it all dependz.. unless u fall in love with sumone and want to marry that person then yea go ahead. buh love marriages are the one that break faster then nething. i am fine w/ both. buh i think i would trust my parents enuff to noe that they would not force nethin on me. and dey havent. i have had atleast 10 proposals so far. my parentz have left the final decision on me. and so far itz no becuz i am just 16 and till i am 20 i wudn noe if u wud find sumwun dat i wanna marri or not. til then it iz definately no. newyz all i am sayin is that ppl who were saying that "parents are UNFAIR" i guess u should ask ur parentz if they had an arranged marriage or not.

will i do beleive parents have all the right to choose a partner for there son/daughter

i do beleive in arranged marriages


i hope u understand what i mean even though i wrote alittle 😊