Do you believe in Arranged Marriages?

Well, as i read in the update (thanks to coolkidpoo) it says Thakur is looking for as sundar, sushel and good girl for his son..

Do you think its right for the father to look for a wife for his son? Do you believe its right for someone else to look for a wife for you?

Well, i guess, its still the tradition today to listen to your parents and whoever they say to marry you will. But in my opinion, i just dont agree with arrange marriages. I feel you should find your soul mate your-self. I mean if someone else finds your soul-mate for you, then its that person's pasand not your's and then your stuck with them, unhappily. SO i would just rather have a love marriage.

I know parents want the best for there kids, but what if your kid is not happy? Then what? You just ruined his or her life na? I feel arange marriage is just a comprimise with your future, nothing else.

But i guess this revaz still works, that you dont even see your husbend before marring him. And I think that will happen in Vidhya's case.

_neelu😊

PS: I am sorry in advance if anybody is offended

hi neelu,

my again....sorry read your post have to reply.....

my best friend found a partner on her one... but do fly problem broke off...he was the man for her, she believed that and stay single....till a family-friend ask her to meet a person....I ask her if that is smart.... but she said to me: first she choose for her love and than for a arrange and we will see what comes out off it..... they met and she said yes, to this rista...I then ask her what about love..... she then replied: the moment she saw him, everything felt in place...and then after a year they got married.... totally in love with each other.... now 6 years later they have a daughter.....
and still happy.... so my point: an arrange marriage is a option and loves can be found in this way.....just keep a open mind about it...

VERy good thinking Shali. I also think in this way. good thinking. 👏

well....i think arrange marriages don't work offen....i mean if u r in love and ur parents also think that person is right for you then wats the prob? i don't beleive in arrange marriages!!cuz u don't know the person very well....if u parents agrre wid ya' then its great!!!but sometimes parents are ver unfair wid their children.....they emotional blackmail them...and THATS NOT FAIR!!

i agree.. I myself have done love marriage. initially our parents (from both sides) were not happy about it. They did not even attend our marriage. We did not elope or anything. We told them we are getting married on this date and if they like it we would love for them to be there. We waited for them to say yes to us for a full year. After that we went ahead and got married to each other. With 6-7 months both our parents started talking to us and things are ok. But my husband and I are so happy with each other. I dont think I could have found anybody better for me then my husband.

So yes parents are very UNFAIR and UNREASONABLE.

it depends how much u trust ur love or ur parents
u can also be happi in arange or luv marriage or u can't be happi for some reasons

I think arranged marriages nowadays are confined to holding a tray of teacups and mithai and sitting down there all shy...If the guy likes the girl then it is Mubarak ho ji,rishta ban gaye....
If ur talking those kinda arranged then i'm totally against it...

I dont mind if my dad says that we found a guy for u and hope things work out...I would agree to go out with him for a period of time(>1.5 years) knowing how he is and how we gel,then i;m totally on for arranged marriages...

And if arranged marriages are broken,i would say love marriages break at a faster rate

Originally posted by: negina

it depends how much u trust ur love or ur parents
u can also be happi in arange or luv marriage or u can't be happi for some reasons

Well, yea your also right to, it depends on whom you trust and who you think knows better for your life.

Originally posted by: shali

hi neelu,

my again....sorry read your post have to reply.....

my best friend found a partner on her one... but do fly problem broke off...he was the man for her, she believed that and stay single....till a family-friend ask her to meet a person....I ask her if that is smart.... but she said to me: first she choose for her love and than for a arrange and we will see what comes out off it..... they met and she said yes, to this rista...I then ask her what about love..... she then replied: the moment she saw him, everything felt in place...and then after a year they got married.... totally in love with each other.... now 6 years later they have a daughter.....
and still happy.... so my point: an arrange marriage is a option and loves can be found in this way.....just keep a open mind about it...

Hehe why say sorry shali?😆

Anyways, well you are right. What if whom your parent set you up with is the right person for you? But when you marry him, you dont really know that. You just feel my life is in the hand of this guy. Where is my life gonna go next. But when you marry someone you love, during the time of marriage you love him and feel good about the step your taking. Even if it ends up good or bad.

So i guess both types of marriages have there pros and cons to it😊

well i have no problems with arranged marriages
i myself am goin to have a arranged marriage
my parents found the guy but they gave me an oppurtunity to meet n speak with him
n just one meeting told me he was the one
n i said n now we r engaged

arranged marriage dont break often unless u r completely forced which is wrong
the girl n guy should meet n agree on the marriage

wut is love anyways
i dont belive u need love in the beginning
it comes after
it did in my case

n arranged marriages show u how to compormise
n u dont feel like now the lovey dovey honeymoon period is over like in love marriages
u get married n later figure out tat u dont realy love them

so im totally with arranged marriages as long as guy n girl r not forced