~~~~DOTW~~ !!Mismatch marriage!!

Page

Next Last

ammoos

@ammoos

Sparkler

+ 4

Posted: 15 years ago

Hi Everyone, for a change lets have a discussion this week.

The topic is

MISMATCH MARRIAGE

Do you think its ok with with much age difference between the spouses or is it unhealthy???

It goes with our show right😉

Well feel free to have your opinions.

No spamming😳

No Oneliners😊

No quoting for more than 3 posts😳

What are you waiting for..lets start..

Edited by ammoos - 15 years ago

Quote

Frequent Posters

rpmenon

@rpmenon

Rocker

Posted: 15 years ago

Will join when its in full swing.Right now,I am going to give a green flag.. 😆

Quote

Looks like you are new here. Register for free, learn and contribute.

s000

@s000

Dazzler

+ 2

Posted: 15 years ago

Well to be honest - we have all said that age does not matter in love.

Which is true

i personally would say it matters how the marriage was conducted liked was it forced - etc etc -or what was the purpose behind the marriage (i think u know what i mena by that)

but if it was done in cirumstencae like bandini - and DM not forchig santo then thats good - only when they both loved each other did they have an actual relationship - which i approve of!

I would not say it makes the marriage unhealthy - may be more difficult to handle espcially with the spouse having kids and all the talk that the world does but if the couple is happy then there is nothing to say!!

See my parents have about 10 years age diff - and their relaitonhsip is super - they have been married for about 30 years now ...so...

I personally am 20 and if DM(just DM no one else) came to me - i would not resist for one second - would not look at our age diff

xxxxx

and bade miyan - good idea something diff👏

Quote

xXS.ArtzXx

@xXS.ArtzXx

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 15 years ago

Nice discussion uma akka...In my opinion,no age 4 luv...For a happy lyf,luv must b the most imp factor between hubby and wife...lyk our sanraj...luv makes lyf beautiful...age doesnt matter in luv...

Quote

-SilverFlames-

@-SilverFlames-

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 15 years ago

Great topic Uma👍🏼.. Will edit my post later..

Quote

mrick

@mrick

Navigator

Posted: 15 years ago

Topic is great...and some things look good on reel but reality is different...many factors to consider...An age gap of 5 to 7 years is considered OK in our society.......

But not all men are DM and not all women are Santu...not all relatives r like Benba, Maulik, Hiten and Kadu etc.....so this represent a different scenario in different circumstances...

Also, in our soceity, Step anything..Mom or Dad, are considered Bad...especially Mom...cause Dads r bz outside and the home atmosphere is usually dictated by Moms.....

will continue later......

Quote

--Magnificent--

@--Magnificent--

Dazzler

+ 2

Posted: 15 years ago

Nice topic for a change Uma....
it all depends on how the couple's relationship is....its nothing new ,there are many couples in the world wid a lot of age difference between them and they r happy wid that....take our very own Dilip Kumarji and Saira Banuji .....parents all around the world want to find a good match for their children and even after looking at all possible angles sometimes those marriages dont work.....so i guess the saying is rite that MIYA BIWI RAAZI TOH KYA KAREGA KAZI .....

But i'm against cases where girls r forced to marry men thrice their age even today for some reason or another against their will...
.but if theres mutual love amongst the two people then why not .....l you are as old as u feel ....so it doesnt really matter ....

Quote

chalia

@chalia

Inactive

Posted: 15 years ago

A good topic for discussion Uma. A relationship becomes "unhealthy" due to many reasons and the age difference is not necessarily a definitive cause. Incompatibility, ego, lack of trust, adultery, lack of respect, family, and even monetary issues play a major role in corrupting the relations between a man and his wife.

Age is but a number but the mindset that goes with it is what is important. Using the example of Santu and Dharamraj Mahiyavanshi to deem an age difference of decades as meaningless may not be entirely fair since relationships do get exaggerated in a fictional mileau.

It is the circumstances on which the marriage is based upon and the willingness to accept the differences that impact on the nature of the relationship that need highlighting. So, success and failure with a background of considerable age difference is completely dependent on the individuals concerned and their dreams and priorities at that time. The biological clock, the marriage bed and the advent of offspring from this union all become root causes of dissent among the couple.

Health or ill-health impacts the marriage differently based on the participating individuals and i dont feel right about giving my vote emphatically to one side or the other due to the large number of variables that are in play in such relationships.

All in all, the stand is "different strokes for different blokes"! But, for Sanraj, age has never been a barrier and looks like even a decade apart may not impact the chemistry. I dare not comment on the performance graph scientifically since the Gopikas are likely to maul me cheerfully!😆

Quote

rianicia

@rianicia

Navigator

Posted: 15 years ago

In my own opinion, we all marry in hopes of one day finding happiness, why else would we do it. If marrying at a young age makes you happy, then do it, but if it does not work out, you have no one to blame. you followed your heart and did what you felt was right.

While getting older often (though not nearly often enough) equates to greater self-awareness and maturation, that's not the key to a successful marriage. On the contrary, the more one is concerned about self-fulfillment and self-love, the less likely one is going to be able to sustain a successful marriage, since marriage is largely about selfless devotion to one's spouse.

To me, maturity is something gained through experience. Some people in their 30s are not as mature than some 18 year olds. There's no way to determine a specific age for that. Depending on the events that unfold in each individual's life, maturity is different. I've met teenagers with a better grip on reality then people in their 30's.

The power to making the relationship healthy lies in the hands of the two souls into it.

Edited by rianicia - 15 years ago