should jagya retain his friendship with ganga? - Page 3

Originally posted by: sectoreight

Thanks everyone!! great replies. I will reply to certain points in detail later on.

But one thing I want to say now is that most people are saying "He was never interested in the rishta, he never proposed, her family went to him, he did not go to her family etc."

I feel that is not a valid thought process or factor.

Granted her family went to him, but she is under the impression that he said yes because he too genuinely likes her. Has he explicitly told her that he is marrying her out of duress? That is something only sumitra and he are privy to.

I also feel that once Jagya said yes, then it was a yes. It does not matter who proposed, and whose family initiated the rishta.

The fact that he was not interested in the rishta to begin with or that he did not propose, does not provide a legitimate excuse for him to have a girlfriend on the side. (Not saying ganga is the girlfriend here, that is a very long rope).

Also, once he commits to the rishta, he is under the commitment. whether or not saanchi has the right character traits to be a compatible match with him is a different discussion altogether. The fact that saanchi is manipulative should not colour our views towards protocols in the Jagya-saanchi relationship.

He should have told her that he was put under knife to say Yes.😆
That would have ended the drama. But they want to prolong the drama.

Second point.why do you think that he is enjoying the privilege of legitimate excuse. His commitment to ganga is made out to be in conflict with his commitment to the rishta by sumitra.
Tomorrow as a doctor Jagya may have an emergency(unconnected with ganga) when sanchi is planning SR. Will she sulk as some doctor's wives do? Sanchi as an idle housewife will always want to talk to jagya, plan things without considering his work as a busy doctor. She is forgetting that for him it is third time and so he wont be as enthusiastic.😆.

Here I will take Gauri's example. When gauri was busy as a doctor, Jagya sulked and got angry.
Sanchi will do the same. The problem with busy people is not giving enough time to the spouse and also spouse being too demanding.

Originally posted by: aa112233

This is a thought provoking question, and an interesting discussion.

Hypothetically, if Jagya was engaged to a suitable match selected by the Singhs, she would have helped Jagya in rehabilitating Ganga and settling her in Mangalore.

Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

Second point.why do you think that he is enjoying the privilege of legitimate excuse. His commitment to ganga is made out to be in conflict with his commitment to the rishta by sumitra.
Tomorrow as a doctor Jagya may have an emergency(unconnected with ganga) when sanchi is planning SR. Will she sulk as some doctor's wives do? Sanchi as an idle housewife will always want to talk to jagya, plan things without considering his work as a busy doctor. She is forgetting that for him it is third time and so he wont be as enthusiastic.😆.

Originally posted by: sectoreight

I think the scenario you mention is a one-off scenario. The emergency does not mean that he will have a long term attachment to the patient.

Ganga is a different type of issue altogether because he has emotional attachment to her.

I have edited and added some point. go through it.

What sanchi will do about the permanent emotional attachment of Jagya for anandi? Will she ask sumitra to take care of that too.

Originally posted by: charuluv_SV

but what about Jagya- Anandi friendship,if shiv thinks like this sameway as sanchi thinks then their friendship doomed long before and the relationship between singhs and sekars r surely on doubt, then Anandi always cried in her sasural.

Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

What sanchi will do about the permanent emotional attachment of Jagya for anandi? Will she ask sumitra to take care of that too.

Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

Here I will take Gauri's example. When gauri was busy as a doctor, Jagya sulked and got angry.
Sanchi will do the same. The problem with busy people is not giving enough time to the spouse and also spouse being too demanding.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

jagya ganga friendship should retain and jagya should tell sanchi to get lost

Originally posted by: sectoreight

The Jagya-anandi friendship and shiv being okay with it is very different from the Ganga-Jagya friendship.

Shiv knew clearly that anandi had no feelings left for Jagya.

He also knew that whatever overtures Jagya was making towards anandi were not because of any great love that Jagya had for anandi, ... but it was just that Jagya's ego was pricked and he was doing it out of 'badmaashi'/mischief to create misunderstandings between anandi and shiv. So he is fine with their friendship now and then too. He knows there is no love between the two.

Saanchi does not clearly know that Jagya has no feelings for ganga. The relationship is going strong from both sides. so naturally saanchi will have more agitation than shiv did.

This is really amusing. How shiv clearly knows?