should jagya retain his friendship with ganga?

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Posted: 12 years ago
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I have to put myself in saanchi's position.
Let us for a second take the manipulative character of specifically saanchi out of the picture ... and let it just be any wife/fiance.
I would feel bad as a wife/fiance if my husband decided to retain a friendship with a female friend that I was explicitly uncomfortable with. Even if I knew it was just a platonic friendship... I would be waiting for the other shoe to drop when I would find that the two of them had developed more than friendship relationship... and were in a full-blown affair.
The Jagya-Ganga friendship would be too much for me to handle even with my husband's assurances that there was nothing going on. I would still be insecure if my doctor husband were that close to a nurse.
I feel Jagya owes it to his future wife to sort of maintain a distance.
At the same time, The Jagya-Ganga friendship was on for a very long time before saanchi came in the picture, and not a newly recently formed one. So, I don't blame Jagya either.
What do you feel and why? Should ganga retain his friendship with ganga now ... or should he terminate it after his marriage?

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Posted: 12 years ago
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but what about Jagya- Anandi friendship,if shiv thinks like this sameway as sanchi thinks then their friendship doomed long before and the relationship between singhs and sekars r surely on doubt, then Anandi always cried in her sasural.
i dont think Ganga -Jagya friendship is bad at all,from J 's side its totally pure friendship so sanchi dont get insecure about it, from G's side even she loves him she didnt confess him and if he gets married to Sanchi, she will never interfere in J's life, she want only J's happiness and surely she went farawy from him eventhough if J didnt allow her.
And about retain his friendship it is doubt we all know sanchi's nature she will make everybody's life hell if J cont his friendship with Ganga so better to skip.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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jagya ganga friendship should retain and jagya should tell sanchi to get lost
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Of course he should retain it

why should he cancel it after marraige

has he asked Saanchi to give up ANYTHING post marraige

he has friendship with Anandi too should he give even that up

in any case it is so not ok to pretend something and give up ur life and commitments after marraige

if a girl does it its called man's dominant chauvinism

same thing applies to a man too

either u accept the man with his commitments and ideas or u get out of the fixed marraige , knowing u want something selse , its that simple .
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Its a hypothetical situation. Sanchi fully knows what she is getting into. She wants to take revenge on Jagya once the marriage is over as today's episode hints at.


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Posted: 12 years ago
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@TM, interesting question, more so because you have asked to put aside Sanchi's manipulative, nasty nature.

It is true that would-be fiancee may get insecure about the relationship like Jagya shares with Ganga. Here I do not think it is friendship, because friendship is essentially on equal terms - like Shiv-Ashima or Jagya-Lal Singh or Anandi-Phooli. And any person should not break his/her friendship just because his/her would-be fiancee is feeling insecure. Here the person should make her fiancee understand that the friendship is not at the cost of their own relationship and so, she/he should not feel insecure. Jagya-Ganga relationship is essentially a benefactor- beneficiary relationship, where the benefactor gives too much preference to his beneficiary (even more than his own family), he goes out with her, takes care of her needs and spends time with her, so any would-be fiancee will feel insecure because Ganga happen to be a woman. Now in such a situation, I think Jagya should limit his interaction with the beneficiary (Ganga) while ensuring that Ganga should get help, if she needs, it is not necessary that he should be near her (like going to Mangalore, he could have arranged somebody else to accompany her) to help her.

Even Ganga should understand that her benefactor is now going to marry and should distance herself from Jagya (I liked the way Ashima dealt with Shiv's marriage, that is like true friends) instead of saying to herself- how can she see him with some other woman.

And nothing can be expected with Sanchi in her present avtar, but any sensible girl would have herself come forward in this mission of helping a tortured woman (instead of being insecure and behaving nasty with the beneficiary and planning/plotting), that way she would be able to ensure that there is nothing more than a helping hand in this case for his fiancee and she could get some brownie points in the heart of her fiancee for helping him in his mission.

But in TV land, everything is twisted. Characters are either mahaan or planning/plotting. They are either too naive or too manipulative, only a few saving graces are there, that look real.


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Posted: 12 years ago
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Excellent thought provoking post 👍🏼...

i was questioning myself why this Cv's making the track so disgusting day by day ...

Ganga is the victim and she needs help ..so jagiya is the rural doctor who came to help the villagers who don't have the basic facilities to get treatment.

In society like india the major sections of victims are recognized by Doctors ,lawyers and police officers who are the first point of contact to victims.

they will help the people not only on the bases of law and even mostly on humanitarian bases ..because more than normal help they need the moral support personally to connect with the victim.

so Jagiya as the doctor who don't even writes the medicines for wounds on her body ..he even treating her mentally ..to bring up self confidence...that is all part of the treatment ..

it is his duty to treat a patient in every aspect when he took the charge ..their is no need to think otherwise or double meaning on that .

that's why every family will have family doctor in any society..they will know all our personal things and problems according to that they will treat us.

the only problem is why Cv's are messing up the track of beautiful relationship between Ganga and jagiya in to awkward and meaningless from the Sumitra and saachi POV..

why they are making a beautiful mother in to normal authoritative mother who not even understand her son's help only on humanitarian bases ..how many times he should shout to everyone that he is helping her because she is his responsible in terms of duty..

why this duplicity between the man's help to the women ..and women help to women ..when Anandi helps the victims she was supported by the family and even at her in laws house ..and when jagiya wants to help the poor girl they making it to nasty social angle everyone thinks and sees in different angle ..

even most of us forum people want love and romance in this relationship just because the look perfect with each other ..this is totally different in my POV ..love marriage romance or not and shouldn't messed up with duty and responsibility...It is insulting to both characters of jagiya and Ganga ...

i don't know how cv's bring their love in between this pure humanitarian based relationship ..i don't even give the status of friendship for both this characters..

friendship is between jagiya Anandi ..Ganga and jagiya are persons who suffered in the past emotionally..so they share the feelings in emotional and sentimental bases ..their is no authoritative mode where the friendship gets in to picture ..make your friend to listen to your thoughts and give him suggestions on what is right and wrong ..that usually happens in jagiya and Anandi's friendship .

Coming to saachi ..when she was introduced in to the serial she was stubborn and straightforward girl with modern thoughts leaving her manipulative angle .as a educated and modern girl she has every right to ask jagiya and confirm that what feelings does he exactly possess for Ganga..their is nothing wrong in asking and getting clarification as it is question of better future ..instead making him fool on his back 😡..


so if saachi is a right thought person she shouldn't not question on jagiya about his duties and responsibilities...
Edited by vasiraju - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Usually men distance themselves from women who try to restrict them. Especially men like Jagya.

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: SPuja

@TM, interesting question, more so because you have asked to put aside Sanchi's manipulative, nasty nature.


It is true that would-be fiancee may get insecure about the relationship like Jagya shares with Ganga. Here I do not think it is friendship, because friendship is essentially on equal terms - like Shiv-Ashima or Jagya-Lal Singh or Anandi-Phooli. And any person should not break his/her friendship just because his/her would-be fiancee is feeling insecure. Here the person should make her fiancee understand that the friendship is not at the cost of their own relationship and so, she/he should not feel insecure. Jagya-Ganga relationship is essentially a benefactor- beneficiary relationship, where the benefactor gives too much preference to his beneficiary (even more than his own family), he goes out with her, takes care of her needs and spends time with her, so any would-be fiancee will feel insecure because Ganga happen to be a woman. Now in such a situation, I think Jagya should limit his interaction with the beneficiary (Ganga) while ensuring that Ganga should get help, if she needs, it is not necessary that he should be near her (like going to Mangalore, he could have arranged somebody else to accompany her) to help her.

Even Ganga should understand that her benefactor is now going to marry and should distance herself from Jagya (I liked the way Ashima dealt with Shiv's marriage, that is like true friends) instead of saying to herself- how can she see him with some other woman.

And nothing can be expected with Sanchi in her present avtar, but any sensible girl would have herself come forward in this mission of helping a tortured woman (instead of being insecure and behaving nasty with the beneficiary and planning/plotting), that way she would be able to ensure that there is nothing more than a helping hand in this case for his fiancee and she could get some brownie points in the heart of her fiancee for helping him in his mission.

But in TV land, everything is twisted. Characters are either mahaan or planning/plotting. They are either too naive or too manipulative, only a few saving graces are there, that look real.



I agree with your most of your points ..

yes as a doctor he should be clear in his personal life and social life ..to what extent he can help the person without getting harm to his personal life ..

i think CV's desperately wants to postpone the jagiya's drawing line to personal and social life..

by now he should have learnt to manage skills of balancing personal life to professional life ...so that everyone can understand the jagiya's intentions towards Ganga
Edited by vasiraju - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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This is a thought provoking question, and an interesting discussion.

Assuming the Singhs had found a different match for Jagya - say a young widow or divorcee doctor who is genuinely goodhearted and is interested in working in rural areas, i.e. someone whose life goals are compatible with Jagya's and who comes from a family similar to the Singhs. This person would also have come forward to help Ganga and would have supported Jagya in helping Ganga, she might have even become Ganga's friend but she would certainly have been uncomfortable with the level of interaction that is shown between Jagya and Ganga - J seems to be obsessed with doing each and everything for G himself, and shows an attachment to her and her child that goes way beyond regular friendship.

If news of Jagya alone accompanying Ganga to the divorce court without any of his other family members being present reaches the fiancee or her family, it is natural that they might feel uncomfortable and worried.

A typical fiancee would have raised this with Jagya and if he had reacted strongly, would have considered re-thinking about the engagement, a self respecting woman might even consider breaking it.

Agree that Ganga herself should have maintained a distance from Jagya from the beginning. Her interactions with Jagya and the Singhs went beyond the regular boundaries of a woman who was given shelter. Even a close friend of the family who happens to stay over for a few days will not presume to interfere in the host family's affairs as Ganga did with the Singhs. Ganga should have distanced herself from Jagya at least after the engagement, like Ashima did from Shiv.

Sanchi is so clearly etched out as a negative character, a spoilt brat who is infatuated with her sister in law's ex and stoops to any level to marry him by her drama and unethical actions.
It would have been much more interesting to the see the interactions between the characters had Jagya's marriage been fixed with someone else.

Hypothetically, if Jagya was engaged to a suitable match selected by the Singhs, she would have helped Jagya in rehabilitating Ganga and settling her in Mangalore. Jagya's attachment to Ganga comes from various reasons - his guilt over Anandi and his need for redemption by helping another vicim of child marriage, the friendship that had grown between him and Ganga when both of them were wounded by life circumstances etc.
After Ganga leaves for Mangalore and Jagya's marriage, he would have naturally started to focus more on his wife and family.

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