WRONG TO BLAME GAURI - Page 13

Originally posted by: anjana.d

the first wrong was doen by jagiya by ditching anandi and hitching gauri..

uske baad hi uski brainwashing ka sawal aata hai naa.

pehli galti to usne hi kari which was of greatest proportions ab ye kehna ki gauri ne mera dimaag kharab kar diya tha is stupid. i agree with bhairon saa ... wo bachha tah kya ki gauri ne kaha aur usne kar diya.

UFF ..so when someone will ask him why you came here now first what he should answer i ditched Anandi hicted Gauri...thats why i came back 🤣

Originally posted by: mahi12

UFF ..so when someone will ask him why you came here now first what he should answer i ditched Anandi hicted Gauri...thats why i came back 🤣

Originally posted by: anjana.d

i really love your impartial views. yes i have been meaning to say all this. but i feared beign bashed.

the hting is GAURI IS NOT AS GREAT A WIFE AS ANANDI. but she is not all that bad either.

she did cook for him whatever she can, seh took care of a looser, put up with hsi alcoholism and his constant fights with everyone.

im glad you could see all this . i like both women , anandi more, gauri much less.

have you seen intention behind ... all recent cooking shooking challenge with mother in law .😆.and she tolerated his acholisim i believe she has always bashed him but what can we say such a great lover and wife that husband who was not a born drunkard with so much love became a drunkard 😆and o she really put with all fights she insulted him everywhere in front of people 😆and i believe that loser took more care of her than not so bad wife because he had no selfish intention behind his action but she did have her challenge

Originally posted by: mahi12

Originally posted by: anjana.d

are u a jagiya sympathier by any chance?

i have expalined and i think i have nothing mroe to add. we have reached a deadlock and it is better for me to excuse out of this discussion with you mate. no hard feelings.

lol why you are getting angry ...you dont want to discuss so leave it ..i am not his sympathizer by chance but fortunately i have a habit even not to lie about my enemy and put wrong blames on him now leave it no mood to prolong this discussion with you when you have said you cannot see anything beyond your hatred so its useless to explain to you ...tata

Originally posted by: anjana.d

are u a jagiya sympathier by any chance?

i have expalined and i think i have nothing mroe to add. we have reached a deadlock and it is better for me to excuse out of this discussion with you mate. no hard feelings.

Originally posted by: aparnauma

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Mahi I still do not think he is sincere in his apologies and he is wrong in ditching Gauri.That's all I am going to say about him.Both G and J deserve each other.

Even now he blames himself for his misfortunes but he still does not accept his mistakes and he blames Gauri for his mistakes.

Whatever said and done if he is in a bad shape it is because he deserves it.Compared to what all he did to A Gauri has not even done a fraction of it to J.

my dear the thing for J G you only need to see them don't bring Anandi here ..what he did with Anandi thats with her... G was not taking revenge from him for Anandi ..she herself did worst with Anandi ..if you see J G only G got no right do that with him G is not A ..she did wrong with him..he did he asked forgiveness she did she too do so i don't expect him to do her ghulami without any attempt from her side that will encourage her to do so more in future ...if i don't expect singh family and Anandi not forgiving J without him earning their trust and forgiveness ..prove him worthy of it if i don't put entire blame on singhs to throw J out when he betrayed their trust so i don't blame J either for kicking G out when she broke his trust big time .. i want acceptance for J back in singh family if earns their trust back... i expect same for G ...she did very much wrong with singhs she should earn their forgiveness and trust back work hard for it ...she did wrong with J ask forgiveness from him get his trust back like he did otherwise no ...this my approach .rest its your opinion ..about him blaming G i think he is not over blaming her right now only blaming her where she was wrong if someone asks from him what happened between you and her why you left her why you came here now ..so he has to answer ..right now he needs to make it clear why he is here what made him ..he is not lying but telling truth but this all is not getting him anyone's forgiveness since they all already knew it so in future he will find other way ...realize more clearly G was already pathetic and hopeless for them ..they already knew she was mastermind behind all those property share , bhabutii mission and all that ...they are angry with him because they didn't expected that from him despite whatever ...so he will realize that

Thanks hooked ..actually for me all characters are just characters i support the right blame the wrong ...for me wrong is wrong right is right ...yes where i understand a reason why a person is doing so i bring in but where not not ...right now i understood why J brought G issue i said i understand here if he continues to do that in future i will say wrong ..i don't know from where TM got this blame on me i am sympathizing with him am i asking A and singh family should forgive him now o he is crying ...😆but why i should hold him responsible for G's sins when she is solely responsible for them ..for him he is his ..he cannot hold himself innocent ..why he listened to her? for that i have heard him blaming himself but why i declare G innocent for all her crimes even for her wrong doing to him just because he did wrong with A and his family i don't understand this logic.. for doing wrong with G he asked forgiveness from her but she is showing off attitude so i still blame J here? ..sorry i don't see any reason ..for me both of them are sinners both should repent for their sins .G did wrong with J too here she should ask forgiveness from him...if she betrayed his trust earn it back ...if i hold grudge against J that doesn't mean i give G free credit to do wrong with him and sit back and mourn become victim and expect forgiveness without any effort...not acceptable by me ...this is what i am saying ..i don't see it is wrong 😆

Mahi - That's what I am saying if he expects to be accepted by Singhs after all the heart breaks that he has caused he should also take G back.

Originally posted by: aparnauma

Mahi - That's what I am saying if he expects to be accepted by Singhs after all the heart breaks that he has caused he should also take G back.

What he expects to receive he should give.

without her asking forgiveness ...? isn't he sitting in their feet ?but what she is doing showing attitude ...are both comparable situations ..not for me

What I meant was G as a spouse to J was not even half as J was as Anandi's

G is not A...why A's credit be given to her i don't understand ..compare J and G dont bring A if you think J as spouse did more wrong with G than her i will agree with you but the case is different...

spouse.When he himself has a history for being such a lousy spouse what right has he got to condemn G.

he has history to do wrong with A for that history he should give free credit to G.for her wrong doings to him then singhs for their history for their many mistakes should give free credit to J forgive him ..this is no reason ..it means if did wrong once in my life i should give free credit to every wrong person to do wrong with me and free forgiveness ...

J has given enough reasons to make Gauri insecure that was from their first visit to haweli.

he has enough reasons to make her secure he was chipku with her following her still she was insecure then she should check her brain because it is not at right place

Please take note that I am no supporter of Gauri. But I still do not agree with the way J handles his relationships.be it his family be it with Anandi or now with Gauri.

i am not supporter of any..but still i am not judging J G relation on basis of J A..these are two not one and cannot be compared ..G is not A neither J did with G what he did with A...

Even when asking for forgiveness he was saying that G made him do all those things.But you tell me is he small kid that he could be so easily led astray?How does expect forgiveness when he has that attitude.

why you want forgiveness for Gauri with her this i don't care for you attitude ?😕is he over blaming G? ..is he saying she made me abuse Anandi , she made forcefully marry her ..no where he is blaming her is he wrong ? is he lying no ...when people ask from him what happened why are you here now so what he should say you tell?

I am pasting from one of my previous posts about on the same issue-

They chose to be together against all odds.Because they thought they were perfect for each other...

J thought Gauri was a perfect partner for him in a A could never be.She was educated,urbane,smart and not to mention beautiful.

G also found more or less the same reasons in Jagat.

THe sceanario in which they met was perfect and things were rosy.

But after marriage on their first visit itself J realised that what he threw away was not as useless as he thought.That was what brought about the insecurities in Gauri.Which were the reasons for their fights.Soon after they finished their MS Gauri moved forward professionally and J couldn't.and that made him feel inferior and he was also depressed all the time.He realised that he needed his family also at that stage.

Gauri's insecurity and Jagat's infeririority complex are the root cause for the problems they face in their marriage.I do not think these are enough to break a marriage.

If you think J should'nt continue his relationship with Gauri on the basis of all the things that she has done then G also shouldn't continue her relation ship with J.

These two have failed the tests that life had given them.Their worst points came out.

If you can not accept your partner at his/her worst then what kind of love is it.

Love is not blind.Love is accepting a person/partner with all his/her faults and working around those flaws and making a relationship a sucess..

That's why for me redemption for G and J comes from continuing/resuming their relationship accepting each other with all their faults there by resurrecting their relationship from the ashes that it has been reduced to. The child will help them in the beginning and may be later on DS too.

I hope this explains my stand on the issue.If you do not find it convincing I cannot help it.Even if you do not agree with it also it's fine by me.

We will agree to disagree and leave it at that.

rest black i have answered you many times ..if you think loving a person is loving at his worst please let me know where G was at her best to J ? Can you tell ..her countless insults , her treatment to badi massi, her not listening to him result miscarriage , her runing his career these all she was at her best that now he found she is worst ...😆loving a person at his worst means when you expect that person will change when that person proves to you after breaking your trust i did i don't care ...then a person cannot even make a compromise because it too is based on trust ...no relation stays without trust ...who breaks your trust he needs to rebuilt it not you ...J doesn't owe his life to G whatever she do with him he keep giving her chances because he loves her when will she prove anything ?and i disagree because this is clearly no one day finding fault and leaving story because she was wrong many many times but still he ws glued with her with this expectation one day or other everything will change now this hope broke with I i don't care attitude so what reason is left for him to go back to her and love her when she proving i don't care for you 😕and sorry child cannot be used as a tool if G wants forgiveness ask forgiveness from everyone including J too for her wrong doings..then surely get forgiveness after winning the trust she broke ...who stops her then ?but if she doesn't do so get out ..frankly speaking she is not a baby she should be left for all her sins with free credit every one keep giving her chances ...no way ..well i disagree with you completely at many points and yes we should leave it i don't think either i can make you agree or you can😆 ..we had these debates many time still same not any point of agreement 😆