WRONG TO BLAME GAURI - Page 12

Originally posted by: anjana.d

gauri jaisi bhi hai she is jagiya's choice. i still dont see how jagiya can play victim here.

Originally posted by: hooked

As I see it - if we can understand that 2 people can fall in love - then we shud also be able to accept that someone can fall out of love as suddenly too.

And its its not like this is the first time for Jagya. He did fall in love with Anandi and woo her passionately till she came back after turning 18. But then he found another candidate more appealing to his sensibilities and so he fell OUT of love with Anandi.

Currently he saw Gauri's lies and longtime deceits via BadePapa and he finds himself unable to look past it and has consequently fallen OUT of love with her. Simple !

Where is the question of man/woman come here ?

Men are as good and as bad as women. If we have a bias towards the woman coz we r a woman - then that is not fair to men and then we also give rights to men to be biased against women. Just take a look at the law in certain men dominated societies.

Evene a rape cannot be reported by a woman and accepted as such by a man unless she can find $ male witnesses. Meaning - a woman witness has no weightage. Does that seem wromng to us ? If yes - then how can we justify with siding with any side except humanity ?

J was wrong and G was wrong. But here we r discussing J wrt his parents and his ex-wife. Here J is their culprit and J deserves whatever form of punishment or rejection they chose to bestow on him. G is and was always an outsider. G may be J's culprit but she is not Anandi or Haveki's 100% culprit.l That honour goes to Jagya !!

Originally posted by: mahi12

😕so Jagaya jaisa bhi hai he was Gauri's choice why she is playing victim...he is accepting his faults even called himself a partner in sins of Gauri what she did with his family because he followed her but she is even not doing that sitting in complete victim mode ..and if she was his choice so that means he owes his life to her she can do whatever he cannot even say she did wrong with me ...because making a choice means give my life to that person let her do whatever wrong with me i should keep my mouth shut and do aarti of her ..jai ho Gauri mayiaa even an enemy won't have a wife , daughter , friend like you ...i am a woman too and i consider her the worst possible example of a woman .

Originally posted by: anjana.d

gauri jaisi bhi hai she is jagiya's choice. i still dont see how jagiya can play victim here.

Originally posted by: aparnauma

yes excatly my thoughts.

Originally posted by: aparnauma

@ mahi when it comes to cheating there is no contest who is the bigger cheater there.

This is a man who played with the lives of two women for five years before his cheating got found out..You compare that with Gauri's cheating???

What about all the lies he told her about his name parents native place?

He prevented from getting her engaged to another guy.All the while he kept the secret that he is a married man.

After all that cheating by him she went ahead and married him because she thought loved him and vice versa.

Gauri should not have behaved that way with B.She hid that from him.Anyway G insulting BS is like trying to spit on the sky.BS is a man of honour and his stature doesn't diminsh even if G insults him.

She insulted his family. But J insulted his family how many times?How come he doesn't realise that his insults bother them more than G's insults?

They are even in all respects.If you expect your partner to be truthful you also should be the same.

I think if Gauri could accept him and marry him after all the lies he told he can very well take her back.After all it's not like he has done no wrongs in life that he can't forgive her.

This is what I said before.I am saying it now also.

Gauri's insecurity and Jagat's inferiority complex are the root cause for the problems they face in their marriage.I do not think these are enough to break a marriage.

Originally posted by: aparnauma

@ mahi when it comes to cheating there is no contest who is the bigger cheater there.

This is a man who played with the lives of two women for five years before his cheating got found out..You compare that with Gauri's cheating???

What about all the lies he told her about his name parents native place?

He prevented from getting her engaged to another guy.All the while he kept the secret that he is a married man.

After all that cheating by him she went ahead and married him because she thought loved him and vice versa.

didn't he earn her forgiveness after that ...why you think he should keep giving her chances without any attempt from her side just because once upon a time he did wrong with her for that he should give her without any attempt from her side forgiveness and stay with her .here the question is no bigger or lesser cheater the question keep doing wrong and expect forgiveness and chance in free..she left him after coming to know his truth he earned forgiveness from her so why not she do so ?does that gave her justification she can do all with him? and he did that for her love but for what she did that ?

Gauri should not have behaved that way with B.She hid that from him.Anyway G insulting BS is like trying to spit on the sky.BS is a man of honour and his stature doesn't diminsh even if G insults him.

She insulted his family. But J insulted his family how many times?How come he doesn't realise that his insults bother them more than G's insults?

well wasn't he having flashbacks of his insults towards his family and crying ..i did wrong but i think he yelled at Gauri many times not to insult his family still she did so so he should give her another chance ?in free? without any attempt from her side any effort to show she won't do it again /?didn't she know he was dying to go back to his family so what kind of great life partner she is still planning and plotting to keep him away from them did J ever did so with her for any things she loved or dying to be with ?

They are even in all respects.If you expect your partner to be truthful you also should be the same.

so where he was so much lying to her after marriage ...when she was ever truthful to him ?

I think if Gauri could accept him and marry him after all the lies he told he can very well take her back.After all it's not like he has done no wrongs in life that he can't forgive her.

great did she do that on free ..she came back angry after coming to know his truth he said yes i did i don't care for you live or die i have no time and Gauri was no problem i still love you will marry you? please😕 he earned forgiveness from her why don't she do that then say or you say she even shouldnt do that get another chance in free to do more wrong next time with him or any other

This is what I said before.I am saying it now also.

Gauri's insecurity and Jagat's inferiority complex are the root cause for the problems they face in their marriage.I do not think these are enough to break a marriage.

her insecurity was her own produced not that he produced in her how many proofs she requires from him that he is with her.. sacrifice his life die then she will realize he was with me sorry this is no defence for her millions of wrong doings ...and btw these days marriages broke husband's kick their wives out wives kick their husbands out for a small insult and here Gauri broke trust of her husband this is quite a big reason to break marriage ..but the thing right now she is at fault so realize her mistakes and get forgiveness and trust of her husband all responsibilities is not of husband's but wives too ..she lied she is wrong ask forgiveness from him and get back her marriage otherwise get lost simple and fair approach he is not her brought pet that she keep on doing wrong and expect forgiveness for free each time without asking ...J is asking forgiveness from everyone not making them ask because he was wrong when he was wrong with Gauri he asked forgiveness earned her trust back or she asked forgiveness? no .he did ,.so now this time she should

Originally posted by: mahi12

ok i am very much confused and i am getting scared now my ears won't have a problem 😕because whatever i heard from Jagaya about Gauri is just an attempt to make him clear why he left Gauri why he came back to his family now ..what made realize they were right and he was wrong he even confessed bade papa told him truth and opened his eyes otherwise he would still be blind so where is dumping all blame on Gauri to get forgiveness 🤔is he over blaming her ?the things he is puttng on her singh familt already knows didn't they know with J's telling him that Gauri fed him for property share .etc ..and in between he is putting blame on him for listening to her blindly and following her and he is at fault too ..now right now he has just come to jaitser first time meeting with people so when they will ask him what happened between you and Gauri like lal singh did and bhairo asked him go back to Gauri for whom you left us so what he should say in return why he can't go back to her 😕is he got any reply apart from telling them truth what happened between him and Gauri ? is he putting wrong blames on her lying to family ..he is speaking truth not lying or we expect him to lie when anyone will ask him what happened between him and Gauri🤔