Anupama Serial, Package of Social Message 😒😒😒

Discliamer: Read it at your own risk. It can damper your mood.

Hello everyone!!

What’s up?? Bzy thursady. Koi Nahi, the weekend is near.

Today I read the news after that lot of things are spinning in my mind. I want to share with all what is not related to Anupama exactly. But most of the time, we all discuss social messages. And we watch Anupama serial, so I would like to talk about serial first.

Everyone is doing jai jai kaar of anupama for no reason. Even in a clip I saw, vannu uncle was now praising Anupama. Kavya, an educated and smart woman is portrayed as dumb, sitting idle at home and not an expert in house chores. Can anybody tell me how she was managing everything when she lived alone and did not know a single household chore? Kinju baby has also lost her identity, Singspraises of Anupama all the time, apni mother Nazar nahi aati bcoz woh khana nahi banati, ghar par nahi rehti, but she has forgotten that her values and good education are bcoz of her mother only, She does anupamaa anupaaam all the time, jiske apne baache toshu aur pakhi, kaise hai, everybody knows.

What is the social message in this serial; recently, the adoption track, that was a good one..

My point is really if this show is based on some social message then instead of playing kho kho with so many issues, one issue should be addressed or shown in such a way, should have such depth that it can touch chords of people.

Anyways, not worth talking about it; I have no expectations from serial. I just want… plz don’t sell serial on the name of social messages, don’t make fool of us. Just say, this is for entertainment only.

Off topic

My question is why do we expect from these serials. Cant we do anything as a good human being, not anything is in our hands?? There are many other issues other than this helpless housewife, rona dhona, the concept of 90's.

Today, there was news, that a 5 yr old girl was tied with a rope and left to suffer on the terrace in scorching heat for not doing her homework by her own mother. Horrible..I cannot explain how did I feel.. I stopped reading news in between. If just imagining this incident can make you shudder, what would be the condition of that girl?

In another incident which I witnessed myself from the terrace of my friend’s house, a mother was beating up her 12-13 yr daughter with a broom, hitting hard with fist, kicking- left no way to inflict pain–( animals ko bhi hum treat na kare kabhi aise). Seeing that, I was terrified and began to shiver. I came to know that this lady was a working woman, and her family was also nice.

I know a family where the mother is not qualified as such but has full control on her house; husband is very supportive and loving. She behaves with her daughter like a maid, asks her to do basic household chores, take care of her younger brother and scold her or gives her slaps on small issues or whenever feels like.

All are the incidents that I have discussed are from a metropolitan city. In first case,as soon as the father got a call from his father, he rushed to free her.

In 2 and 3 case, fathers are not biased against their daughters. 3 case, I know personally, father loves her daughter but remain quiet mostly to avoid an argument with his wife.

I used to think the root cause of the problem is a lack of education. For more than 1 yr, I have been teaching a few students who can not afford tuition ( only this thing came to my mind, small contribution), go to a govt. school. But reading today’s news and recalling other incidents which I have discussed above make me realize that other than the education, environment, and upbringing also matters a lot.

One more thing, whenever I see a child working in some dhaba, store, bahut dil dukhta hai. Helping in monetary terms is always not possible and is not the solution.

Why does nobody give attention and importance to these kinds of issues?? Abhi bhi women helpless hai, kya unhe appreciation nahi milta jo hum isse aage kuch dekhna hi nahi chahte.

What do you say?

PS: Not meant to spread negativity. I hope you will not mind this discussion other than Anupama. Seeing pic of that girl in the paper, I could not hold myself sharing it with you.

Originally posted by: ChirpyKiya10

I used to think the root cause of the problem is a lack of education. For more than 1 yr, I have been teaching a few students who can not afford tuition ( only this thing came to my mind, small contribution), go to a govt. school. But reading today’s news and recalling other incidents which I have discussed above make me realize that other than the education, environment, and upbringing also matters a lot.

Why does nobody give attention and importance to these kinds of issues?? Abhi bhi women helpless hai, kya unhe appreciation nahi milta jo hum isse aage kuch dekhna hi nahi chahte.

What do you say?

PS: Not meant to spread negativity. I hope you will not mind this discussion other than Anupama. Seeing pic of that girl in the paper, I could not hold myself sharing it with you.

Kudos to you for doing what you can to the society. Every drop counts. Thank you for sharing it on the forum. Kindness/humility, like other things is contagious. So, I am hopeful this will offset several such smaller drops snowballing gradually for a better cause.🤗

The stories that you shared are heart wrenching. You are right, monetary assistance is not practical as it does not solve the root of the problem.

I too sometimes start thinking about, what is the right way to solve problems like this. Education is one way. Education does not necessarily mean college degrees. But exposure and experience is what shapes a person into better individual.

If you take each of those examples in your post – the first one was mom tying up her child because the child was not doing homework. If you think about possible reasons why she would have done that – 1) she has anger issues 2) peer pressure in school/friends

#1 must be solved with her getting help. There are many methods – medical, philosophical etc.

#2 – this must be solved at various levels. First, the mom needs to understand that homework is not a life & death situation that requires drastic punishment.

Second, the schools, teachers & the society at large must stop making a big deal out of homework, exams & being the best of the best.

This is a larger effort which requires a major change in the thought process of the society. But, we cannot boil the ocean. We should start small. Change what we can control…. i.e if you are a parent (not you per se) ensure you instill in your kids that experience is valuable than scoring marks. Teach kids that the most important thing in life is to be happy with what you have instead of dwelling on what you do not. How does one do that? It is by being an example for them to look up to. Children learn from their environment, their parents. 10 or 20 years down the road nobody will remember the scores in tests/exams or the homework. But, if you yell or pressurize kids, that memory will be etched in their minds forever!

I guess every social problem must be broken down and solved like this at the grass root level. Change what one can control. Hope others can follow the lead.

Linking this back to this serial, I wish even one or two such powerful dialogues will reach the masses. Alas!! we do not get that. I am still waiting for 1 TV show that does not care for TRPs but slowly, surely introduces subtle changes in the thought process.

Sorry, I did not realize I wrote such a long post, but still not sure if that helped answer your question. Yikes!! I now know how char Anupama feels when she starts her bhashan!! 🤔

I would suggest watch serial from. Beginning. Anupama jyaada padhi likhi nahi use English nahi aati so people think ki anupama praise deseve nahi karti but I want to ask kya praise deserves ksrne ka criteria yahi ki person ko engish aana और professional qualify sirf hona

Kya person ki own quality like care devotion kindness which anupama yeh kya praise deserves nahi karte

A Kya wohi log praise deserves karte jo bade stylish hoke और fluent English bolte है छ

Anupama bhale hi fluent English aur uska pronunciation sahi na ho but usne apne parivaar bache ki dil se dekh bhaal ki

Anupama to bhi sabki praise karti . Woh to vanraj ko praise karti hai leela ki praise karti hai, barkha bhabhi ko praise kiya yahan tuk kavya ko prai

se kiya. Why don't anupama too deserves praise

Anupama ne apne gehne bech kar kinjjal ke lye diamond ring khareedi because Rakhi told kinjjal ko diamonds ring pasand hai. Now tell kaun mother in law jo apne bahu ke liye apne gehne bech kar diamond ring khareedegs

Vanraj ko gobhi parathey nahi pasand but anupama ko pasand they

Anupama ne vanraj ki khushi ke khaatir 25year se gobhi ko parathey nahi khaaye aut na banahye

Vanraj aur baa ne yeh anupama ko lagataar taane maarte rahe

Infact sub ne bina anupama ke hi toshu aur kinjjal ki sagaaai karli . Sagaaai karte yeh bhi nat dekhs ki uski khud ki maa anupama sagaaai hai bhi ki nahi itni insult ke baad bhi anupama ne sabka dil se khayal. Rakha

Anupama ko cancer ka operations hua uske ek din baad hi anupama ne sabka dil se khayal rakha anupama apne parivaar ke prati dedicated thi but use in 26year mein २ percent bhi tareef nahi mili. Vanraj to ab praise kar raha hai if u have watched this serial. From beginning to vanraj और लीला ने तो कोई कसर nahi chodi anupama ki insult karne ki tum to paagal ho tum swarthi ho tumhsra ghamand tod ke rahoonga

Jub ki anupama roj roj vanraj ke liye protein shake banaye saara saman vanraj ko laakur de vanraj ko time se usla manpasand khana bsna ke de

Aur vanraj kabhi anupama ko paagal bole kabhi ganwar kahe और jub anupama online dance class chalaye to yeh vanraj anupama ka ghungroo tode

Sharamn aani chahiye aise ehsaan faramosh vanraj type logon ko

Anupama ne kisi ka nuksaan nahi kiya hai to woh insult deserves nahi karte

Now anupama is saying she will learn new thing from bhabhi

Baekha bhabhi going to. Renovate kapdia sadan and anupama say she will also learn new thing from bhabhi during renovation

Anupama is openly accepting new thing new atmosphere bus usme aona, basic nature nahi chosa है and that will never happen ki anupama apna basic nature chode

Originally posted by: SmithaRam

Kudos to you for doing what you can to the society. Every drop counts. Thank you for sharing it on the forum. Kindness/humility, like every other things is contagious. So, I am hopeful this will offset several such smaller drops snowballing gradually for a better cause.🤗

The stories that you shared are heart wrenching. You are right, monetary assistance is not practical as it does not solve the root of the problem.

I too sometimes start thinking about, what is the right way to solve problems like this. Education is one way. Education does not necessarily mean college degrees. But exposure and experience is what shapes a person into better individual.

If you take each of those examples in your post – the first one was mom tying up her child because the child was not doing homework. If you think about possible reasons why she would have done that – 1) she has anger issues 2) peer pressure in school/friends

#1 must be solved with her getting help. There are many methods – medical, philosophical etc.

#2 – this must be solved at various levels. First, the mom needs to understand that homework is not a life & death situation that requires drastic punishment.

Second, the schools, teachers & the society at large must stop making a big deal out of homework, exams & being the best of the best.

This is a larger effort which requires a major change in the thought process of the society. But, we cannot boil the ocean. We should start small. Change what we can control…. i.e if you are a parent (not you per se) ensure you instill in your kids that experience is valuable than scoring marks. Teach kids that the most important thing in life is to be happy with what you have instead of dwelling on what you do not. How does one do that? It is by being an example for them to look up to. Children learn from their environment, their parents. 10 or 20 years down the road nobody will remember the scores in tests/exams or the homework. But, if you yell or pressurize kids, that memory will be etched in their minds forever!

I guess every social problem must be broken down and solved like this at the grass root level. Change what one can control. Hope others can follow the lead.

Linking this back to this serial, I wish even one or two such powerful dialogues will reach the masses. Alas!! we do not get that. I am still waiting for 1 TV show that does not care for TRPs but slowly, surely introduces subtle changes in the thought process.

Sorry, I did not realize I wrote such a long post, but still not sure if that helped answer yoru question. Yikes!! I now know how char Anupama feels when she starts her bhashan!! 🤔

😃

First of all, I should thank you for reading my long long posts, bhasans every time, and responding back.

Very often, you write long posts. Sometimes I feel, you are lazy or miser; don't like spending too many words; write a few lines, drabbles but you are too talented, express beautifully your ideas or opinion in few lines.

Today, after posting this write-up, I was thinking about whether I should post it here or not; what do you people will think; is it the right platform to share it ??

I am a resident of this forum only 😆 and I felt like sharing with you all.

Anyways. I always love listening to you, your viewpoint.

Originally posted by: ChirpyKiya10

Today, after posting this write-up, I was thinking about whether I should post it here or not; what do you people will think; is it the right platform to share it ??

I am a resident of this forum only 😆 and I felt like sharing with you all.

Anyways. I always love listening to you, your viewpoint.

Bring them on! I don't see why we cannot discuss them on this forum. After all, Anupama show is much about social messages even when not needed. 😊

Originally posted by: surabhi01

I would suggest watch serial from. Beginning. Anupama jyaada padhi likhi nahi use English nahi aati so people think ki anupama praise deseve nahi karti but I want to ask kya praise deserves ksrne ka criteria yahi ki person ko engish aana और professional qualify sirf hona

Kya person ki own quality like care devotion kindness which anupama yeh kya praise deserves nahi karte

A Kya wohi log praise deserves karte jo bade stylish hoke और fluent English bolte है छ

Anupama bhale hi fluent English aur uska pronunciation sahi na ho but usne apne parivaar bache ki dil se dekh bhaal ki

Anupama to bhi sabki praise karti . Woh to vanraj ko praise karti hai leela ki praise karti hai, barkha bhabhi ko praise kiya yahan tuk kavya ko prai

se kiya. Why don't anupama too deserves praise

Anupama ne apne gehne bech kar kinjjal ke lye diamond ring khareedi because Rakhi told kinjjal ko diamonds ring pasand hai. Now tell kaun mother in law jo apne bahu ke liye apne gehne bech kar diamond ring khareedegs

Vanraj ko gobhi parathey nahi pasand but anupama ko pasand they

Anupama ne vanraj ki khushi ke khaatir 25year se gobhi ko parathey nahi khaaye aut na banahye

Vanraj aur baa ne yeh anupama ko lagataar taane maarte rahe

Infact sub ne bina anupama ke hi toshu aur kinjjal ki sagaaai karli . Sagaaai karte yeh bhi nat dekhs ki uski khud ki maa anupama sagaaai hai bhi ki nahi itni insult ke baad bhi anupama ne sabka dil se khayal. Rakha

Anupama ko cancer ka operations hua uske ek din baad hi anupama ne sabka dil se khayal rakha anupama apne parivaar ke prati dedicated thi but use in 26year mein २ percent bhi tareef nahi mili. Vanraj to ab praise kar raha hai if u have watched this serial. From beginning to vanraj और लीला ने तो कोई कसर nahi chodi anupama ki insult karne ki tum to paagal ho tum swarthi ho tumhsra ghamand tod ke rahoonga

Jub ki anupama roj roj vanraj ke liye protein shake banaye saara saman vanraj ko laakur de vanraj ko time se usla manpasand khana bsna ke de

Aur vanraj kabhi anupama ko paagal bole kabhi ganwar kahe और jub anupama online dance class chalaye to yeh vanraj anupama ka ghungroo tode

Sharamn aani chahiye aise ehsaan faramosh vanraj type logon ko

Anupama ne kisi ka nuksaan nahi kiya hai to woh insult deserves nahi karte

Hi Surabhi,

I totally agree and respect your pov.

Vanraj ka toh chor hi do, uss jaise insaan ko punishment milni hi chahiye. but makers ne aisa kuch bhi nahi dikhaya, aapko nahi lagta aisa nahi karke woh V jaise logo ko badawa de rahe ha.

Abhi jo yeh dikha rahe hai lady saara kaam kar rahi hai .. husband ko pooche bina bahar nahi nikalti ha, yeh I think 90 se bhi pehle ka concept hota hoga. aaj ki house wife ke saath bhi husband kaam karte hai, bacche bhi sambhalte hai, Even kids ki himmat bhi nahi hai apni mummy se badtammezi kar jaaye. haan aaj ki generation hai woh argument karti hoi toh maa house wife ho ya working usse koi farak nahi padta .

Now my point is ki ek ko mahan dikhane ke chakar mei baaki women ko toh dumb mat dikhao plz. It's not about language, it's not about qualification, Tell me one thing jo working woman hai, for once working woman ko bhi chor do, kya ek qualified ladki ko khana banana nahi aata, ghar ka kaam woh nahi karti. why to show ki Anu ke alawa kisi ko kuch nahi aata?? Nahi bhi aata toh iska matlab sab useless hai. kavya akeli rehti thi, uske electricity bill, ph bill, khana, safai toh uska koi kaam nahi hota tha. shah house mei aise dikhaya hai, usee jaise usne paani ka glass bhi nahi uthaya. Job hi nahi mil rahi usko. Woh toh bilkul hi bekaar hai. RD ko jaise pata hi nahi, kuch bhi ghar ke kaam kya hote hai.

Let me give you an example, Harsha khullar, a famous Gyaneocologist of Gangaram hospital. She has been working for 40 yrs in the medical field. you know woh 24* 7 ph par rehti hai,kab hospital aana padta hai nahi pata. Once she said to me," Sam, I have taken 2 months' leave only after my delivery. Woh bhi ghar jaa Kar kaam bhi karti thi.. In her entire career, she went on holidays for 10 days only I got to know this, when I met her few yrs back. Woh apne ghar par time spend nahi kar paayi toh woh ek acchi maa nahi hai ya achhi patni nahi hai, acchi DIL bilkul bhi nahi hai. I have seen ladies, literally crying in front of her for child; kitne logo ko unhone maa banne ki khushi di hai. Out of the way jaa kar jo bhi help kar sakti thi, unhone ki hai like adoption,. apne 1-1 patient ke liye kitni dedicated hai, I cant tell u. itna renowned and paisa hone ke baad bhi unhone apni life enjoy nahi ki hai.

Ok leave this example, yeh toh qualified and working lady ki baat thi

Apt ke bahar construction work chal raha, ek majdoor lady chote se baache ke saath waha kaam kar rahi hai 49 deg temp mei. ek chulha bhi hai, dikhta hai khana bhi banati hai, bacche ko bhi saath saath dekh rahi hai. yeh working hai ya non- working, kya yeh kaam karna ambition hai ?? yeh lady ke paas toh thaang ke kapde bhi nahi hai. life enjoy karna toh bhool hi jao.

Anupama to fictional character hai. Mujhe makers se complaint hai. Maa chahe educated ho uneducated ho, working ho ya nonworking, sab apne ghar ka apne tarike se khayal rakhti hai.

Aur yeh jo dikhaye hai toshu, pakhi nikamme.. yeh toh aajkal bilkul bhi nahi hai. kids bahut independent hai. housewives bhi ghar par nahi baithti poora time, gym, yoga classes, kitty party, they have their social life and mere yahan toh har bacche, chahe ladka ho ya ladki, cooking, baking sab aata hai. apni coffee, milkshake, sandwich toh woh khud hi banate hai.

Aaj ki post meri , exactly anupama ko lekar nahi thi, kuch doosre issues, jinki taraf koi dekhta bhi nahi hai, unko lekar thi.

And yess maine shuru ke episodes dekhe hai, really they were good, story line was also nice. Thats vy we love this serial and do so much matha pacchi. but limit se jaada kuch bhi dikhaye, chahe love , hatred, harassment and Maa jaap not acceptable

Sorry, not meant to offend anybody.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

I would suggest watch serial from. Beginning. Anupama jyaada padhi likhi nahi use English nahi aati so people think ki anupama praise deseve nahi karti but I want to ask kya praise deserves ksrne ka criteria yahi ki person ko engish aana और professional qualify sirf hona

Kya person ki own quality like care devotion kindness which anupama yeh kya praise deserves nahi karte

A Kya wohi log praise deserves karte jo bade stylish hoke और fluent English bolte है छ

Anupama bhale hi fluent English aur uska pronunciation sahi na ho but usne apne parivaar bache ki dil se dekh bhaal ki

Anupama to bhi sabki praise karti . Woh to vanraj ko praise karti hai leela ki praise karti hai, barkha bhabhi ko praise kiya yahan tuk kavya ko prai

se kiya. Why don't anupama too deserves praise

Anupama ne apne gehne bech kar kinjjal ke lye diamond ring khareedi because Rakhi told kinjjal ko diamonds ring pasand hai. Now tell kaun mother in law jo apne bahu ke liye apne gehne bech kar diamond ring khareedegs

Vanraj ko gobhi parathey nahi pasand but anupama ko pasand they

Anupama ne vanraj ki khushi ke khaatir 25year se gobhi ko parathey nahi khaaye aut na banahye

Vanraj aur baa ne yeh anupama ko lagataar taane maarte rahe

Infact sub ne bina anupama ke hi toshu aur kinjjal ki sagaaai karli . Sagaaai karte yeh bhi nat dekhs ki uski khud ki maa anupama sagaaai hai bhi ki nahi itni insult ke baad bhi anupama ne sabka dil se khayal. Rakha

Anupama ko cancer ka operations hua uske ek din baad hi anupama ne sabka dil se khayal rakha anupama apne parivaar ke prati dedicated thi but use in 26year mein २ percent bhi tareef nahi mili. Vanraj to ab praise kar raha hai if u have watched this serial. From beginning to vanraj और लीला ने तो कोई कसर nahi chodi anupama ki insult karne ki tum to paagal ho tum swarthi ho tumhsra ghamand tod ke rahoonga

Jub ki anupama roj roj vanraj ke liye protein shake banaye saara saman vanraj ko laakur de vanraj ko time se usla manpasand khana bsna ke de

Aur vanraj kabhi anupama ko paagal bole kabhi ganwar kahe और jub anupama online dance class chalaye to yeh vanraj anupama ka ghungroo tode

Sharamn aani chahiye aise ehsaan faramosh vanraj type logon ko

Anupama ne kisi ka nuksaan nahi kiya hai to woh insult deserves nahi karte

😆

Ab batao yeh kya baat hui.

vanraj office jaata tha, toh dopahar ko gobhi ke paranthe bana leti

office mei Vanraj ko uski khusboo thodi na aa jaati.

Uske saamne bhi apne liye bana leti toh bhi kyaa,

Vanraj kitna bhi bura hai but khane ke liye mana kare, aisa bhi nahi hai.

agar anupama ko gobhi grate hai nahi karni thi ya phir bechari tag achieve karan tha- 25 saal se gobhi ke paranthe nahi khaye behari...toh koi kya kar sakta hai.

Anupama show is only about social messages with no head no tail storyline! This is the main reason of drastically dropped TRP.

Thank you for making this post ! It’s heart wrenching to read how parents treats their kids! It can leave long term effect on child’s psychology! This is not at all good for child’s mental health.
There are so many ways to teach child in positive manner.
What an irony! There is population who struggles hard to have a child and look at these terrible parents who literally harass their child physically and mentally.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

I would suggest watch serial from. Beginning. Anupama jyaada padhi likhi nahi use English nahi aati so people think ki anupama praise deseve nahi karti but I want to ask kya praise deserves ksrne ka criteria yahi ki person ko engish aana और professional qualify sirf hona

Kya person ki own quality like care devotion kindness which anupama yeh kya praise deserves nahi karte

A Kya wohi log praise deserves karte jo bade stylish hoke और fluent English bolte है छ

Anupama bhale hi fluent English aur uska pronunciation sahi na ho but usne apne parivaar bache ki dil se dekh bhaal ki

Anupama to bhi sabki praise karti . Woh to vanraj ko praise karti hai leela ki praise karti hai, barkha bhabhi ko praise kiya yahan tuk kavya ko prai

se kiya. Why don't anupama too deserves praise

Anupama ne apne gehne bech kar kinjjal ke lye diamond ring khareedi because Rakhi told kinjjal ko diamonds ring pasand hai. Now tell kaun mother in law jo apne bahu ke liye apne gehne bech kar diamond ring khareedegs

Vanraj ko gobhi parathey nahi pasand but anupama ko pasand they

Anupama ne vanraj ki khushi ke khaatir 25year se gobhi ko parathey nahi khaaye aut na banahye

Vanraj aur baa ne yeh anupama ko lagataar taane maarte rahe

Infact sub ne bina anupama ke hi toshu aur kinjjal ki sagaaai karli . Sagaaai karte yeh bhi nat dekhs ki uski khud ki maa anupama sagaaai hai bhi ki nahi itni insult ke baad bhi anupama ne sabka dil se khayal. Rakha

Anupama ko cancer ka operations hua uske ek din baad hi anupama ne sabka dil se khayal rakha anupama apne parivaar ke prati dedicated thi but use in 26year mein २ percent bhi tareef nahi mili. Vanraj to ab praise kar raha hai if u have watched this serial. From beginning to vanraj और लीला ने तो कोई कसर nahi chodi anupama ki insult karne ki tum to paagal ho tum swarthi ho tumhsra ghamand tod ke rahoonga

Jub ki anupama roj roj vanraj ke liye protein shake banaye saara saman vanraj ko laakur de vanraj ko time se usla manpasand khana bsna ke de

Aur vanraj kabhi anupama ko paagal bole kabhi ganwar kahe और jub anupama online dance class chalaye to yeh vanraj anupama ka ghungroo tode

Sharamn aani chahiye aise ehsaan faramosh vanraj type logon ko

Anupama ne kisi ka nuksaan nahi kiya hai to woh insult deserves nahi karte

Jay jaykar toh kinjal bhi deserve karti thi jab woh sharp working woman thi and professional dresses mai kam par jati thi but writers killed her personality due to whatever reason!