Originally posted by: journalgirl321
If I may jump in here...
Quite frankly, I personally don't understand the obsession with wanting to see Kunal and Mishti's bond strengthen (sorry for not mincing my words here, I'm just trying to be honest). It won't really do much in terms of development for either character to get along. The fact of the matter is, Kunal will always see it as his duty to accept his older brother's wife (and in this case, happiness), no matter who she is.
we are not obssesed with mishti and kunal bond, like other bonds in the show, this bond has its own charm... so i just want to light that charm...
so for u kunal just accepts his elder bro wife , even it gives happiness to him or not, so kunal should accept mishti, if not immediately but after some time he should accept her as his bro loves her, but kunal made sure every possibility to keep mishti away from him , either its good way or bad way... kunal just didnt like or hate mishti under influence of meenu, when meenu questioned kunal did mishti say about her birth parents to him during court ship phase, kunal said NO and he got angry but abir asked him , did she try then kunal remember, mishti wants to open up but he didnt give her chance and he defended mishti infront meenu saying, its unitentional and they are honest and he only honesty in his relation... so kunal is aperson who needs honesty than anything...
Even if we did see Kunal and Mishti getting along, I don't know if it would be completely believable. There are several well fleshed-out reasons as to why Mishti and Kunal didn't get along in the first place. In order to evaluate these characters and their relationships, it's always a good exercise to try putting yourself in their shoes. Personally, if I look at it from Kunal's point of view (and I'm offering his POV because that's what I see the most clearly), Mishti will always be the girl that stood him up and broke off their relationship in front of both families without a second thought to his feelings. She will always be that girl who makes decisions impulsively (without thinking about their implications), and then watches the consequences unfold and affect people around her. And unfortunately for Kunal, these people usually end up being the people he loves and cares about. On the other hand, when we look at it from Mishti's point of view (and I had to think on this for a while, because Mishti's POV is a little harder for me to understand, seeing as how she doesn't seem to have the same kind of multi-dimensional thought when it comes to her relationships), Kunal will always be the guy that always looked down upon her, and wasn't quick to understand and accept her relationship with Abir. And the thing about both these characters is that neither one of them are quick to forgive and forget.
hold on dear....
mishti and kunal had a clear cut talk when mishti said NO, she clearly ek dusre ke point prove karne ke liye hum rishte nahi nibhana chahiye, for me mishti said NO only to him but all the family came out as they both are not coming inside, so technically mishti never said NO infront of family, mishti even after knowing what ever she liked in kunal is done abir, even tough she thought of taking forward, but when kunal said its like a deal and courtship is choti project and for this silly courtship he troubled abir, to get dates fixed and shayri, ballonns, everything,then mishti literally broke, final nail coffin was when kunal said he cant believe mishti as his father did harm to maa, then mishti broke as she needs her life partner to trust her than love her, so mishti said NO to him and kunal is not in right senses to take mishti's words but mishti clearly "YE KOSISH NAHI KARNA NAHI CHAHTA THA AUR MEIN KISI AUR SE KOSHISH KARWANA NAHI CHAHTA" , so kunal was never in that relation nor he want to try to get to know the girl, he just need a person who listens to him and do what he wants and says, he clearly said this mishti, I ALWAYS DID WHAT EVERYONE SAID BUT I WANT MY LIFE PARTNER TO DO EVERYTHING FOR ME". i hope u can understand my words as u have seen more kunal's POV right?
coming to your point, if u remember first epi of our show, where kuhu says to waiter when he asks mishti's food order, kuhu says " she will first read this menu 2 times then she will analyse what will be reaction if she eats this item or that item, then she again checks everything and then she finally decides, so mishti is girl who takes time and thinks twice in food then think what will be her thoughts about life partenr?
Mishti never thinks impulsively and she dont think of implications, mishti is over thinker not impulsive thinker, she always had a analysis of what people will feel if she takes the step, she thinks more and thats the her decisions are always at end not at start, for example, if mishti is a impulsive thinker then she should say she doesnt like kunal's rishta or kunal when kunal blindely said all words to mishti,but mishti understood that she has no proof to make kunal to show her side and she is not at fault.
you said both mishti and kunal are not easily forgive and forget, but for me mishti is easily forgive and forget and in some cases kunal too, mishti easily forgives kuhu, kunal, meenu, etc., mishti never shown keeping any grudges for them, even tough they hurt her, she just want to keep good things and be positive, she let go off person easily...
if u say mishti is not a person who dont forgive and forget, then she should never forgive or forget what kunal did to her after rishta break up, meenu just made kunal's male EGO up, if u remember kunal had a monolouge where he says, im not this kind of person and i never insult girls or do any that kind of stuff, so kunal also easy to forgive and forget but just his male EGO is shown...
finally your point, mishti never gave damn to kunal feelings, like really kunal ever gave any damn importance to mishti's feelings? he just dont want to break the rishta because he had a heart break, so he dont want anyone to undergo it... so he never break the rishta...
do u really think a girl should accept a guy, even after knowing he dont trust her, its just a deal for him?
for your info, kuhu is a impulsive thinker, she just act on what she see but never think of consequences, best example is when kunal spiked nannu's drink, kuhu is ready to say for family that kunal spiked the nannu's drink but mishti stopped her.
I think the turning point in their relationship that many people may have seen was when Kunal asked her for her insight on the topic of birth parents. But I, for one, didn't really see it as anything at all. If I've understood Kunal correctly, he asks everyone, literally everyone for advice. Heck, he's the same guy that asked Jugnu out of all people for advice about love! So I really didn't make much of that scene.
i dont know why u think mishti and kunal's turning point is , kunal asking advice to mishti on birth parents, but for me, as me and nandu said earlier, its preleap thing when kunal is happily want to have a bond with her bhabhi, in more pankh scene and when meenu said to kunal, abir is going away not because of mishti but because of mehul... so kunal left his things for misht at that scene only, if u clearly go trough that epi, GD of mishbir and kuku talk on card ceremony and meenu kunal talk on card ceremony...
kunal takes advices from the person he thinks of, for god sake dont demean kunal, as he just asked jugnu about love, he is CEO of a company he has good brain but he dont know how to reciprocate it...
as dont like mishnal so u never want to analyse it, so u can never see depth of it, its fine as its your POV...
if u really want to give a try then see epi 216 where kunal analyses how abir still loves mishti and mishti too loves him , so he wants them together and in one scene kunal said to parul all this happened because of me and i supported maa, in nannu's spike issue, because kunal had a rough idea when mishbir met with accident in jungle, out of all people kunal aksed mishti is she fine? i mean the same kunal who never bothered to hurt and demean mishti asked her well being?
from his words from parul and abir its clear that, kunal hold responsible for nannu's spike kaand and that lead too mishbir going too much...
The bottom line is, Kunal is the type of person that forges relationships that he sees as necessary to keep his family intact. And when it comes to his "relationship" (if you even want to call it that) with Mishti, it's important to remember that there's a reason why Kunal fell for Kuhu, Mishti's polar opposite (and I think that says a lot about what Kunal couldn't accept in Mishti, and what Mishti couldn't accept in Kunal). Even if their relationship were to develop, I don't see it being anything beyond Kunal feeling obligated to accept her because she's what keeps Abir happy. Because Kunal knows that as long as Abir is happy, the family will stay together.
kuhu is not opposite of mishti, kuhu is opposite of kunal, so kunal fell for her, if u remember epi before holi, abir gave a push to accept a marriage proposal, kuhu made him realise past doesnt matter at is past, so kunal fell or like kuhu at that tym only, kunal was ready for rishta as its kuhu not mishti, but meenu ne rishta swap kiya, kunal was not ok with mshti from first meeting only, kunal always bother about kuhu's felings than mishti's feelings, kunal always think about how kuhu felt when maa ne rishta badal diya, i should say sorry to kuhu, even kunal asked mishti about kuhu so that he can sorry to her...
I: if u think, kunal accepts mishti just because she keeps abr happy then kunal should accept mishti long back not now, even when mishti didnt accept or realised her feelings for abir but he seen how mishti and abir feel each other, the hug after pub drama by shwet...
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