Warning bells for Nav - Page 8

Originally posted by: Noorain13

That’s from Akshara’s end. We’re talking about Abhinav here but if you’re opening up about Akshara, initially they showed some type of soul connection but I’m proud of how they dealt with it moving forward and not showed Akshara running after her ex and being disloyal to her spouse. When you have a past and a child together you can’t completely ignore everything no matter how happy you are and that’s completely normal so for Akshara to feel something wasn’t out of the blue.
I don’t think they ever showed Akshara was in need of someone to share something with in the show so those are just assumptions on here. They never showed her having to go through trauma in the show after leap so again just assumptions on here. She might have initially in the first year or so which wasn’t shown and nor do we know how Abhinav dealt with it.

We were talking about a marriage. A monogamous marriage involves two people and both have equal contribution to it, the first deal of a monogamous marriage is emotional loyalty, if wife is emotionally involved with her ex husband then the marriage is not an ideal marriage, not for me, I won't speak about other people. Physical intimacy is out of the question however lack of physical intimacy being a valid ground for divorce brings an important ground for assessing a marriage but since everyone is content with no physical relationship or attraction between a married couple for 6 years then I wouldn't dwell on it. The initial wasn't day 1 of their relationship, we are talking about those 6 years they spent in Kasauli away from Abhi after spending 6 years with Abhinav, Ak could feel Abhi's presence in a muffler, she could feel his closeness when he walked into her house that is not a woman who has spent 6 beautiful years with her husband and this is not a marriage as I mentioned monogamous marriage demands loyalty. Ak could feel Abhi's presence when he came to her house on his bike, this was after Ak's temple confession and multiple attempts to move on with her husband. It was Ak who said she couldn't move on with Abhinav in those 6 years because she was stuck on Abhi this was after Abhi got to know about Abhir. You are painting picture of a marriage which was based on conditions of not sharing emotional or physical loyalty, what marriage is this? Those 6 years were anything but a marriage.

Originally posted by: OnTheBlock

What? Oh absolutely a great husband! Who actually gave SPACE to his wife to open up on her OWN TERMS and her own TIMELINE.

Why would any decent life partner bring up anything to trigger their spouse when the spouse itself wasn't clearly ready.

Trauma and processing of that trauma, healing and recovery is never linear. It takes months, years and even decades to come to terms with a traumatic event.

Abhinav build a home for Akshara to take solace in, find comfort in...be ready to reveal or NEVER reveal her past. Thats on Akshara. The onus was on Akshara whether she wanted to reveal her past struggles or not. Why would any decent partner force her when she clearly wasn't ready. Ajeeb.

Recovery and healing mandates a safe space, which he created for her. That's why it was so easy for her to reveal everything so easily when her past triggered her.

But the timeline and right to that conversation and that reveal had to Akshara's and hers only. The onus to reveal or not reveal her struggles was on Akshara. Had to be her choice and on her preferred time. If that time was NEVER, then nobody has the right to force it out of her or bother her about it.

Anybody trying to force their spouse's trauma out of their system or accelerate someone else's trauma processing and healing because of their own concern can never be considered a good partner.

May be he is not a bulldozer to push his wife beyond her limits and her comfort zone

Originally posted by: Annabethhoney

May be he is not a bulldozer to push his wife beyond her limits and her comfort zone

Absolutely. Abhinav is not a person to throw room-destroying, furniture-breaking, Screaming-shouting, threats-and ultimatum-giving manchild tantrums if the other person doesn't do what they want. He's not that immature or selfish.

He's the husband who's respectful enough of his wife's need for space and her boundaries and worked hard to build such a comfortable home away from her actual home that she actually prefers the former.

He created a safe space for her regardless of whether she ever wanted to reveal anything or not.

On top of it all, AK who was born with a golden spoon in her mouth, who knew BP had lot of money still made Abhinav work hard. She never considered him her husband, she just used him

Abhinav was always respectful towards Akshara and their relationship and that’s what mature relationships look like. You give each other time and space to be yourself, to move out of your own insecurities and fears and finally trust. Most importantly he waited for Akshara to be ready, and eventually Akshara too was able to transfigure what once was just respect and friendship to now love. She was able to overcome her trauma and again trust someone as her partner. That good Abhinav has been to Akshara.

Also, I have watched the episode and Akshara did not say Abhimanyu is better than them at all, she said he is better than her. And it is interesting how her apologising to Abhimanyu is not getting acknowledged but ismein bhi uske character ko mock kiya jaa raha hai. She said it clearly today, what I have been saying from a long time, she was not trying to take Abhimanyu away from Abhir, but just trying keep her child with her. It was always fear driven emotions that lead her to hide things because she was afraid to lose her child. She has in fact said this earlier too that she cannot trust Abhimanyu and Manjari, so her fear and insecurities have constantly been hinted. As simple as that. She even mentioned in the court that she will tell Abhir about Abhimanyu even if Abhimanyu loses. She understood Abhimanyu’s pain as evident in today’s episode and still is blamed of rejoicing his pain. She never claimed to be flawless and has acknowledged that she is flawed but mentioned that despite that she has Abhinav by her side to correct her. I don’t think she is the bad person she is constantly made to be.

Truth is Abhimanyu started all of this with WD, and then everything happened as a chain reaction and they all faced the repercussions to that, and will continue to face the same in future too. Abhimanyu is in pain okay, but so are the others. We see parallels of him hallucinating Abhir, similar to Akshara doing the same few episodes back. We see him falling on the ground and crying, similar to what Akshara did the judgement day. Its not a single character’s pain. They all are suffering instead, so how is one character’s pain bigger than the others’?

Originally posted by: Annabethhoney

May be he is not a bulldozer to push his wife beyond her limits and her comfort zone

Beyond her limits and comfort zone? Maybe that is why Ak spend 6 years making and selling jam only when Abhi pushed her to become a therapist in Birla hospital, even fought his family when they decided to shut her department down.

I would take a partner anytime who pushes me beyond my limit and comfort zone so that I can become a better person, a leader and an independent women

Originally posted by: AvantikaP

Beyond her limits and comfort zone? Maybe that is why Ak spend 6 years making and selling jam only when Abhi pushed her to become a therapist in Birla hospital, even fought his family when they decided to shut her department down.

I would take a partner anytime who pushes me beyond my limit and comfort zone so that I can become a better person, a leader and an independent women and not sit an cry abla naari all day.

Nowhere I need a man who spends his day doing aan ji,na ji, ji ji ji.

i rather spend life with a person who is not push over and gives me space enough to be independent by myself than him pushing me or help me to achieve something…anyway people have different choices

Originally posted by: Annabethhoney

i rather spend life with a person who is not push over and gives me space enough to be independent by myself than him pushing me or help me to achieve something…anyway people have different choices

Good night

Originally posted by: AvantikaP

Good night

Sweet dreams…😴

Originally posted by: AvantikaP

On top of it all, AK who was born with a golden spoon in her mouth, who knew BP had lot of money still made Abhinav work hard. She never considered him her husband, she just used him