Acha Aadmi? - Page 5

Originally posted by: rhondasa

Abhinavs acchayi doesnt reduce with his decision to marry Ak coz his intentions are not malignant....Akshara herself proposed the idea to him because she felt he was worthy and he had earned that right. He accepted it not coz of any evil intentions, he was ready to take up the responsibility and duty of a father.

I am not saying that Abhinav is evil. If Ak hadn’t proposed I don’t think he would have initiated anything but I think his acceptance even after Ak proposed was not right, it was selfish. He did not spare a thought for Ak or what all this implied but just took the opportunity. By agreeing to marry that day, he created an invisible barrier of debt and gratitude for Ak. Instead if he would have given her space, time and support to process her trauma and then if Ak and he wanted to marry, they would be in a real relationship rather than fake one. But he wasn’t thinking of Ak when he said yes, he was just thinking about himself and his desire to keep the child.

As I have written in my previous post, I am not bashing him for anything else except the marriage decision. To his credit, he did advice Ak to tell Abhi about Abhir during Kasuli visit. When he realised “aisan ka pati” part, he wanted to walk away. But all this doesn’t justify his decision back then.

No person/ckt is entirely good or bad, but in Nav’s case because he is labelled Acha Aadmi, even his wrong is looked at as been righteous.

Originally posted by: DotDash

He should be made external affairs minister or sent to conflict zones around the world, hopefully he could resolve all conflicts with his “peace, respect and trust” offerings 😂😜

No one asked him to be a hero/superhero. He just had to be an ideal life partner. He definitely came out as a better life partner than the man who crazily loved her.

Originally posted by: DotDash

I am not saying that Abhinav is evil. If Ak hadn’t proposed I don’t think he would have initiated anything but I think his acceptance even after Ak proposed was not right, it was selfish. He did not spare a thought for Ak or what all this implied but just took the opportunity. By agreeing to marry that day, he created an invisible barrier of debt and gratitude for Ak. Instead if he would have given her space, time and support to process her trauma and then if Ak and he wanted to marry, they would be in a real relationship rather than fake one. But he wasn’t thinking of Ak when he said yes, he was just thinking about himself and his desire to keep the child.

As I have written in my previous post, I am not bashing him for anything else except the marriage decision. To his credit, he did advice Ak to tell Abhi about Abhir during Kasuli visit. When he realised “aisan ka pati” part, he wanted to walk away. But all this doesn’t justify his decision back then.

No person/ckt is entirely good or bad, but in Nav’s case because he is labelled Acha Aadmi, even his wrong is looked at as been righteous.

Imo he didnt do any wrong by accepting Aksharas offer, he offered her security and gave her respect. Akshara might have been in a vulnerable state when she asked him to be the father, but he proved right by being worthy of that position. Akshara also deserves a second chance at love, marraige and who can be a better half then Abhinav himself.

Originally posted by: DotDash

He should be made external affairs minister or sent to conflict zones around the world, hopefully he could resolve all conflicts with his “peace, respect and trust” offerings 😂😜

I think thats the parallel they want to draw between abhim and abhin....one with his 6 àbs, and goodluck, born priveleged, a doctor....quintessential hero but disappoints, throws ak out at her lowest, even though hes the lover and husband.

Then there is an orphan, poor, a common man, but an acha aadmi he is nothing special, but becomes a hero for ak and abhir by being there for ak at her lowest, even though hes a stranger.

So far I have not seen any reason to call him Not So Accha .. and I don’t want him to be not so Accha either .. but I wish the production house had written this track better and did not make this a sort of contest between fathers where the mother and her thoughts are rarely ever shown and many in the audience then accuse Akshara of being bad mother and having no bond .. etc .. but he has so far been Accha Aadmi as per me ..

Originally posted by: DotDash

1. Yes,it’s perfectly ok for people to get remarried whenever they choose to. I have never personally seen circumstances you have mentioned so won’t comment on it. Looks like you have ground level experience of this, and better view of it. I presume these women when they got remarried were looking forward to a better, full life with a new person.

But is that what happened in the story. Ak clearly asked him to be just “father ji” not husband (which will be my next point, if he wasn’t living with her as a husband, then how do we say “good” husband). It was a paper/contract/convenience marriage, not a real relationship. So here is a pregnant woman who inspite of having complicated pregnancy is not ready to go back home, nor seek financial help from them, is financially dependant on him during pregnancy, had a traumatic delivery, wakes up after 4 days and straight away ask him to marry her but just to be father of her child but not her husband, is she really in sane mind, is she really giving herself a second chance? And if a guy knowing all this agrees to the marriage then what are his reasons? Didn’t he agree to the marriage because he also just wanted to be the father of the child.

I am not saying that Abhinav is evil and that this was his master plan from beginning. If Ak hadn’t proposed I don’t think he would have initiated anything but I think his acceptance even after Ak proposed was not right, it was selfish. He did not spare a thought for Ak or what all this implied but just took the opportunity.

2. Now if it was paper marriage for 6 years, even though they were living under the same roof but were not in a real relationship, then how come he was a good husband for 6 years? Just living under same roof and providing monetary support (Ak was doing her part too) makes him a good husband? real relationship isn’t needed? In my view, during their 6 years together they were at best flat mates who shared a house, finances and a kid together (🤦🏻‍♀️). She didn’t give him any more right, he never asked for more as per their agreement. He maintained emotional and physical distance. So if she was living with someone as a flat mate (even though it is labelled as husband in world’s view), why should he prevent her from pursuing any career, or taking any decision. Why should he impose himself on her when he started developing feeling? It definitely makes him a decent person for keeping his side of deal and respecting boundaries that they agreed but not a good husband coz he isn’t a husband in any sense yet.

They started a real relationship only after Udaipur track. From what writers have shown they get along well and resolve their differences quite amicably. But I think this is because they weren’t emotionally involved yet. They do have compatible personalities. But in my opinion when you start to get emotionally involved with a person, dynamics of the relationship could change. So good husband? - he could be eventually but I don’t think they are there yet.

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I am not bashing him for anything else except the marriage decision. To his credit, he did advice Ak to tell Abhi about Abhir during Kasuli visit. When he realised “aisan ka pati” part, he wanted to walk away. But all this doesn’t justify his decision back then. And I do not agree with the narrative going on that he is a good husband as I don’t think he has been in a husband role yet.

As I have written in my previous post, No person/ckt is entirely good or bad, but in Nav’s case because he is labelled Acha Aadmi, even his wrong is looked at as been righteous.

You think most marriages are based on emotional intimacy in real life?

Originally posted by: shubhK2308

You think most marriages are based on emotional intimacy in real life?

Originally posted by: MuguetDScorpion

No one asked him to be a hero/superhero. He just had to be an ideal life partner. He definitely came out as a better life partner than the man who crazily loved her.

As regards to being a life partner, as I said before he wasn’t a life partner until udaipur track when they agreed to start married life for real. Call him an excellent flat mate for 6 years. And so we are comparing apples and oranges. I agree Abhi-Ak relationship was messed up but Nav-Ak haven’t had a real relationship yet.

Originally posted by: DotDash

1. Yes,it’s perfectly ok for people to get remarried whenever they choose to. I have never personally seen circumstances you have mentioned so won’t comment on it. Looks like you have ground level experience of this, and better view of it. I presume these women when they got remarried were looking forward to a better, full life with a new person.

But is that what happened in the story. Ak clearly asked him to be just “father ji” not husband (which will be my next point, if he wasn’t living with her as a husband, then how do we say “good” husband). It was a paper/contract/convenience marriage, not a real relationship. So here is a pregnant woman who inspite of having complicated pregnancy is not ready to go back home, nor seek financial help from them, is financially dependant on him during pregnancy, had a traumatic delivery, wakes up after 4 days and straight away ask him to marry her but just to be father of her child but not her husband, is she really in sane mind, is she really giving herself a second chance? And if a guy knowing all this agrees to the marriage then what are his reasons? Didn’t he agree to the marriage because he also just wanted to be the father of the child.

I am not saying that Abhinav is evil and that this was his master plan from beginning. If Ak hadn’t proposed I don’t think he would have initiated anything but I think his acceptance even after Ak proposed was not right, it was selfish. He did not spare a thought for Ak or what all this implied but just took the opportunity.

2. Now if it was paper marriage for 6 years, even though they were living under the same roof but were not in a real relationship, then how come he was a good husband for 6 years? Just living under same roof and providing monetary support (Ak was doing her part too) makes him a good husband? real relationship isn’t needed? In my view, during their 6 years together they were at best flat mates who shared a house, finances and a kid together (🤦🏻‍♀️). She didn’t give him any more right, he never asked for more as per their agreement. He maintained emotional and physical distance. So if she was living with someone as a flat mate (even though it is labelled as husband in world’s view), why should he prevent her from pursuing any career, or taking any decision. Why should he impose himself on her when he started developing feeling? It definitely makes him a decent person for keeping his side of deal and respecting boundaries that they agreed but not a good husband coz he isn’t a husband in any sense yet.

They started a real relationship only after Udaipur track. From what writers have shown they get along well and resolve their differences quite amicably. But I think this is because they weren’t emotionally involved yet. They do have compatible personalities. But in my opinion when you start to get emotionally involved with a person, dynamics of the relationship could change. So good husband? - he could be eventually but I don’t think they are there yet.

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I am not bashing him for anything else except the marriage decision. To his credit, he did advice Ak to tell Abhi about Abhir during Kasuli visit. When he realised “aisan ka pati” part, he wanted to walk away. But all this doesn’t justify his decision back then. And I do not agree with the narrative going on that he is a good husband as I don’t think he has been in a husband role yet.

As I have written in my previous post, No person/ckt is entirely good or bad, but in Nav’s case because he is labelled Acha Aadmi, even his wrong is looked at as been righteous.

So what makes a great husband?