Aarohi vs Akshara - why one has more substance than the other! - Page 4

Originally posted by: Fantasyera

@Bold It was akshara that didn't have anyone, aarohi had the whole family. It was shown in yesterday's epi when akshu was talking to kairav. Not for 1 or 2 months. But for 3 WHOLE YEARS.

@Gold bold Of course bitterness is allowed but the amount of hatred she has isn't, it's not like akshu intentionally caused sirat's death. Sirat was her mother but she was also akshu's mother as well. And the hurt she is feeling will be 10 fold for akshu. And manish said in yesterday in epi this aarohi's behavior has been going on for 12 years.

And like you are saying nobody likes to live in shadow, but do you think someone would like to get reminded of their someone else's death?? Especially if that someone is your mother?? And knowing that you were somewhat the reason, that she died?? Even of it's not your fault but the situation or circumstances that led to it, you would still feel guilty knowing that you were somewhat the reason that your sibling lost their mother because of you, your father lost his wife because of you, etc....

Arohi is hurt so is akshu, aarohi had the family while akshu dealt with this alone, aarohi is somewhat healing while akshu is still traumatized.

@Blue Who said she was naira's shadow?? Earlier in tracks it was shown that sirat was trying to be like naira and others were also expecting her to be naira but kartik clarified it and everyone understood even sirat. So how was she treated like naira's shadow??

From beginning both girls were treated equally as to avoid future conflicts, misunderstandings, etc..... It was aarohi who was competitive and looked down on akshu while akshu was brought up with being told to selflessly love her sister. And aarohi and akshu were/are completely opposite, so there was no chance of one sister becoming another's shadow. Both girls were good at completely different stuff, aarohi was good at studies and akshu with arts. If we are talking about shadows then shouldn't goenka prioritize arts better then to make aarohi the "shadow" ? But that's not the case, it's true they are compare but not in their abilities, but qualities, behaviors and perception?

@Red How is akshu's family not aarohis? Is she not kartik's daughter?? Nobody in the family treated her like an outsider, rather they showed more love and care towards her. If your talking about the singhanis then they are akshu's family first but they would NEVER discriminate between aarohi and akshu. They are way too good unlike goenka who wouldn't spare a child younger then aarohi. Bhabhimaa and devyani didn't had a problem with sirat, naksh at first had but later understood and accepted sirat wholeheartedly. So why wouldn't they accept aarohi then??

simply living around people who have been termed as so call family doesn't mean you had somebody to help you deal with trauma. Between Manish and Dadi it is quite apparent that they are done with Aarohi, but family especially older figures should not be acting that way to a child that faced so much childhood trauma. Akshara despite not being around always had a bond, and she left for three years not the entire leap time.

If you realise, Aarohi's competitiveness stems from the fact that her and her mother were always second in that house. Terming Akshara's trauma as 10 fold is undermining Aarohi's. Trauma is Trauma. The only reason I am even flagging out such points for Aarohi is because i have seen an obvious lack of empathy for her on the forum. The makers are going to make her vamp but as of now she is not one!

The entire shadow part has come as the reply, sirat was termed 'replacement' by the post writer and that is how she is viewed by the goenka's as well. So she was in Naira's shadow and her daughter is in Akshara's.

Again this entire part was a reply. The post writer said that it is akshara's family first. I don't feel that way, they both are the daughters of the families son. But taking it as a point I responded too it.

The Goenkas have given an equal amount of love for both Akshara and Arohi. The main problem is Arohi itself. Manish pointed out, at the beginning, itself where most of them said Manish is completely wrong but he was right Arohi has traits of Sheela within her. I may be wrong in saying but it is evident. He had an intuition from the very beginning. No one will tolerate her behavior for so long in fact 12 years. Now she has crossed the line. Who the hell is she to say to Akshara to go from the house. Akshara has her own right to stay and I don't know the fact why did Manish Kairav and Suwarna let this happen.

Originally posted by: DiscoDhokla

But in the show its shown Aarohi gets what she wants. It looks like Aarohi is the princess and Akshara is her slave. I don’t see Akshara getting any special privileges that Aarohi doesn’t get. Infact- it’s quiet the opposite. Akshara was made to get out of the house. Family treats both daughters as equal. It’s the Twitter and daughters who don’t treat each other as equal. Aarohi always talked how akshara is sirat’s step daughter. And by that logic of hers isn’t akshara should be privileged kid? But we see opposite. Aarohi pretends like akshara is outsider in the house. And akshara wants to throw herself upon aarohi. Both should get a life.

Originally posted by: mahaan18

The Goenkas have given an equal amount of love for both Akshara and Arohi. The main problem is Arohi itself. Manish pointed out, at the beginning, itself where most of them said Manish is completely wrong but he was right Arohi has traits of Sheela within her. I may be wrong in saying but it is evident. He had an intuition from the very beginning. No one will tolerate her behavior for so long in fact 12 years. Now she has crossed the line. Who the hell is she to say to Akshara to go from the house. Akshara has her own right to stay and I don't know the fact why did Manish Kairav and Suwarna let this happen.

The question over here is not about Manish being a nice person or not. The question over here is that why she has to blame Akshara for everything. What did she do.? All the time she keeps blaming her for Sirats death in fact she keeps saying that Sirat is my mom. She keeps making her feel guilty for the mistake which she hasn't done at all and she had to go away from her family. She clearly din even have the support she was all alone and Arohi at least had family members vansh kairav suwarna akhilesh. Akshara accepted Sirat as her own mother with which Arohi din like that. The fact is that since childhood Arohi has looked down upon Akshara. Manish was happy for Arohi when she won the competition and when she topped the mbbs exam and She made fun of her even during the project competition and blamed her for not coming no1. Nobody in the family has treated arohi like an outsider. The fact is that she has never accepted Akshara as her own sister the day when she got to know that Akshara isn't sirat daughter. When it comes to favoritism it happens in every family, for example, Naitik used to prefer naira over Naksh more but Naksh and naira never had a distance of brother-sister relationship similarly for Kartik Keerti as well. Of course, the mistake lies also with the Goenka family as well for not conveying it to Arohi regarding how bad sirat mother is.

Exactly my point!

Aarohi outrightly blames Akshu for everything from the day she got to know that she is not her real sister.When Sirat was ill and Akshu was taking care of her and poorly did her project and Sirat got to know about it the next day and pampered her,Aarohi blamed that Akshu is buttering Sirat,like seriously?

And Manish was absolutely right regarding blood relations in this case.Manish never said anything bad to Sirat,he only scolded her to keep Sheela away from the kids.

Originally posted by: mahaan18

The question over here is not about Manish being a nice person or not. The question over here is that why she has to blame Akshara for everything. What did she do.? All the time she keeps blaming her for Sirats death in fact she keeps saying that Sirat is my mom. She keeps making her feel guilty for the mistake which she hasn't done at all and she had to go away from her family. She clearly din even have the support she was all alone and Arohi at least had family members vansh kairav suwarna akhilesh. Akshara accepted Sirat as her own mother with which Arohi din like that. The fact is that since childhood Arohi has looked down upon Akshara. Manish was happy for Arohi when she won the competition and when she topped the mbbs exam and She made fun of her even during the project competition and blamed her for not coming no1. Nobody in the family has treated arohi like an outsider. The fact is that she has never accepted Akshara as her own sister the day when she got to know that Akshara isn't sirat daughter. When it comes to favoritism it happens in every family, for example, Naitik used to prefer naira over Naksh more but Naksh and naira never had a distance of brother-sister relationship similarly for Kartik Keerti as well. Of course, the mistake lies also with the Goenka family as well for not conveying it to Arohi regarding how bad sirat mother is.

Originally posted by: Bluehue

Why does one need to be doctor to be considered educated and ambitious? Akshara is well educated along with being well trained in music and vocals. And she wants to work for an ngo very noble pursuit and a unique goal.

Why does one having panic attacks considered to be weak? Akshara went toe to toe with one of the best heart surgeon "ambitious doctor" Far more accomplished then arohi and yet she is weak because she has panic attacks. It's 21st century people can we please not call mental illness a weakness.

A degree is part of a person but a person is more than his/her degree. Caring and kindness doesn't make someone weak it makes them better. Being vengeful,egoistic,selfish and bitter is not being emotionally independent.

Arohi was selfish even before any trauma occurred to her and her mother has enabled her to treat akshu like shit from the day she was born And even took promise from akshu to let arohi treat her like shit even after she dies by "apni behan ka dhyan rakhna"

Akshara is not clingy she went away from her home because of arohi and only came because kairav tricked her. The only fault she has is not reprimand arohi for all the nonsense she speaks about her.

She might be educated but she is clearly not ambitious, and she is not strong. A typical FL. Because any woman who is career oriented, even the slightest bit modern and wears pants and t-shirt is of course villainous and and an out right vamp.

She is not weak because of her panic attacks... i never said that in fact kudos for displaying mental trauma as a very real thing. She is weak because she doesn't have backbone, she is weak because she can't give it back to her sister and she is weak because she can't stand up for herself.

My point is the fact that aarohi is very easily termed selfish for her bitterness and egoistic for her trauma. Just because akshara's trauma has taken the face of panica attacks and aarohi's has taken a more self destructive and bitter form akshara automatically becomes the bechaari and Aarohi becomes egoistic? People deal with trauma in different ways, trauma takes different forms. They both faced childhood trauma, but forget helping Aarohi through her bitterness and projected anger but she was neglected and her trauma was not even acknowledged. There is no empathy for her but buckets and buckets for Akshara.

Bold: SHE WAS A CHILD! she saw the way her mother was treated, she knows her mother was always second best and she knows she will never be loved the way Akshara is. Akshara is not only clingy but down right annoying (the actress doesn't really help either). And Akshara is older she should no better. She is reminded everyday that she is not good enough, that akshara os the favourite and that is why she has a burning need to come first, that is why she is so competitive. So why no understanding for her?

Originally posted by: lovereading14

She might be educated but she is clearly not ambitious, and she is not strong. A typical FL. Because any woman who is career oriented, even the slightest bit modern and wears pants and t-shirt is of course villainous and and an out right vamp.

She is not weak because of her panic attacks... i never said that in fact kudos for displaying mental trauma as a very real thing. She is weak because she doesn't have backbone, she is weak because she can't give it back to her sister and she is weak because she can't stand up for herself.

My point is the fact that aarohi is very easily termed selfish for her bitterness and egoistic for her trauma. Just because akshara's trauma has taken the face of panica attacks and aarohi's has taken a more self destructive and bitter form akshara automatically becomes the bechaari and Aarohi becomes egoistic? People deal with trauma in different ways, trauma takes different forms. They both faced childhood trauma, but forget helping Aarohi through her bitterness and projected anger but she was neglected and her trauma was not even acknowledged. There is no empathy for her but buckets and buckets for Akshara.

Bold: SHE WAS A CHILD! she saw the way her mother was treated, she knows her mother was always second best and she knows she will never be loved the way Akshara is. Akshara is not only clingy but down right annoying (the actress doesn't really help either). And Akshara is older she should no better. She is reminded everyday that she is not good enough, that akshara os the favourite and that is why she has a burning need to come first, that is why she is so competitive. So why no understanding for her?

Akshu as of now is weak only when it comes to Aarohi, otherwise she does stance for a right thing,like she did with Mahima in the ngo.

Akshu is fragile,probably because she has lost both of her mothers and her father also...whatever the matter maybe,Aarohi has no right to tell Akshu to get out of the house just for her happiness...hope somebody stops her this time from going...Akshu is as much heir to the Goenka family as much as Aarohi is.

Just because she is educated,in an unexpressed trauma,doesn't mean Akshu is weak,is not in a trauma and nor does it give Aarohi any right to blame her for everything including her mom's death.

It's not like family doesn't love Aarohi.they love her,get happy in her happiness, sad in her sadness and also sympathizes for losing her mom,but that doesn't mean they should not scold her for misbehaving with Akshu for no fault of Akshu.

Thank God that some strong person in the house like Manish and Dadi are with Akshu and Akshu Kairav Vansh bond is also strong enough...hope it remains the same in future when Abhimanyu will be the center of discussion for marriage between Akshu and Aarohi and she blames Akshu baselessly,which she will do for sure.