Aarohi vs Akshara - why one has more substance than the other! - Page 15

Agree that Aarohi was in a trauma,but why is she not understanding that Akshu was also in a trauma,infact double the trauma because she had lost her mother twice.That girl had just got to know that the woman who she has been loving as a mother all these years, suddenly from a third person gets to know that she is her step mother,but still loved her the same way.Sirat died just after almost 3 days from that incident, what must have gone through Akshara?

And after the revelation Aarohi wanted Sirat all for herself, she didn't want her to love Akshu. What if Akshu had claimed more rights on Karthik because she is his first wife's daughter?

Naira's name was never taken in front of the girls so that they don't know the truth,then how is it supposed that Aarohi has seen her mother as a replacement?And after Akshu got to know the truth,even if everyone spoke about Naira,what is wrong?

And Sirat was never demeaned in anyways...Manish was scolding Sheila and not Sirat,one needs to understand.

Regarding the trauma,Akshu gets panic attack, so she is weak according to you,Aarohi just blames her and vents out her frustration on Akshu and she has to bear them.How will anyone know what is going on in her mind until she tells it out properly?Akshubgets panic attack,so they have an idea what she is going through and Aarohi should speak,and everyone does sympathize with her for losing her mother.

Goenkas scolding Aarohi and coddling Akshu,are they supposed to keep quiet and watch Akshu getting blamed and insulted without any mistakes of her and not do anything?

We're again back to Mishti Kuhu phase....where people want to sympathize with one but don't want to treat people equal.

How come Aarohi have more substance when its Akshu who stayed away from family with an issue like panic attack(I've been a victim and I know). If I've to put someone down to feel good about myself then its my issue n I'm in serious need of help. Everyone doesn't have a family to support them... doesn't make their wrongs right. If Arohi is feeling this and that then hows it Akshu ki fault . She was as much a kid as her when these happened. Also she face more trauma than her. She lost Naira and had no idea of it till so long. How much ever we say Sirat was this and that it will always affect a child to know she isn't biologically her mother's as her sister. Even then she has such a beautiful heart to accommodate her bi##hy sibling.

Akshu is only weak towards Aarohi because of that stupid promise of Sirat that she takes ever so seriously. That's all I hold against her.

How fair is it to make Akshu ki life toxic just because she has unsolved issues. Being a doctor she should seek help first.

Originally posted by: umawanderer

I am so happy that this topic is really discussed for more than a week.

Character analysis this deep on both the FLs is so interesting.

The main thing helping is the Actress playing Arohi(Karishma?). Her portrayal is (at least ) likable to many. Making every one hope that she doesn't turn completely evil. Pranali's job is almost a little bit easy. She is the goody two shoes. Her pain is more visible. Her happiness is more visible. and The ML fell in love with her. she is in limelight.

It is always hard to play a character with negative traits. You know villain is acted good when:

1. Every one hates that character and mostly can not be redeemed(Ex: Vanraj from Anupama)

2. Most of the people does not agree with that person's work but still sympathize and try to find a way a fictional character can be redeemed. (Ex: Maya from Behadh.. although she started as a grey[?] character the writers were sure they wanted her to be completely black by the end.)

Many a times playing a grey character shows the acting capabilities of an actor.

But in reality, I feel the writers will not take this much deep into the character's psyche. From what I have seen, This is just your simple love triangle with toxic family. I really do not have much hope for the story.

And from what I have seen ITV does not do much awareness of mental health and character flaws. They are not much into trauma induced behaviors. ITV generally do not exactly do things outside the box. I do not say that there are no writers who do not show that these thing but they are really less. And problem is that those type of shows get easily axed of because of low TRPs.

For them there is no such thing as unrecognizable traumatic effect on a person. There is no long term effect if it is not affecting the physically.

Coming back to the topic,

Yes, Arohi can be a layered and complex character. But in the end, she will not be. The clue is in love triangle they are already setting up. She will definitely think that Akshara took something which was rightfully hers.

But seriously, except the acting, aren't these characters a bit caricaturistic.

You have the good girl, the self centered girl, The trophy boyfriend/husband.

No one gets a prize while guessing who gets whom.

Yup... exactly my point! They are turning her into a vamp, looks inevitable as if now and I have stopped watching the show. My only motive was to shed light on the substance her character has that could have been used to portray a much better story than the typical itv triangle you described (that too very accurately 😆)

Originally posted by: vismaya

Agree that Aarohi was in a trauma,but why is she not understanding that Akshu was also in a trauma,infact double the trauma because she had lost her mother twice.That girl had just got to know that the woman who she has been loving as a mother all these years, suddenly from a third person gets to know that she is her step mother,but still loved her the same way.Sirat died just after almost 3 days from that incident, what must have gone through Akshara?

And after the revelation Aarohi wanted Sirat all for herself, she didn't want her to love Akshu. What if Akshu had claimed more rights on Karthik because she is his first wife's daughter?

Naira's name was never taken in front of the girls so that they don't know the truth,then how is it supposed that Aarohi has seen her mother as a replacement?And after Akshu got to know the truth,even if everyone spoke about Naira,what is wrong?

And Sirat was never demeaned in anyways...Manish was scolding Sheila and not Sirat,one needs to understand.

Regarding the trauma,Akshu gets panic attack, so she is weak according to you,Aarohi just blames her and vents out her frustration on Akshu and she has to bear them.How will anyone know what is going on in her mind until she tells it out properly?Akshubgets panic attack,so they have an idea what she is going through and Aarohi should speak,and everyone does sympathize with her for losing her mother.

Goenkas scolding Aarohi and coddling Akshu,are they supposed to keep quiet and watch Akshu getting blamed and insulted without any mistakes of her and not do anything?

Bold: I am sorry that i might sound rude in what I will say next, that is not my intention. We CANNOT measure trauma, it is a very nasty thing to do. Trauma is trauma do not measure it based on how many times or what someone has faced. Not just for now (the show) but in general too. Trauma can be projected in many ways and coping mechanisms can vary as well. But please do not try to measure trauma.

Purple: Akshara must have gone through hell and there is no denying that, as a young child she has faced so so so much, no child should have to face that. But in the light of her trauma, Aarohi's trauma is over looked, which I find wrong.

Blue: I disagree, they way she was treated was disgusting. She was treated like a replacement and that is no secret not to even Aarohi

Green: No, do not twist my words. I have never called Akshara weak because of her panic attacks. In fact time and again I have clarified this point, if anything I am glad at least one show has that mental health is important.

Pink: Absolutely not, but is it necessary to shut her down completely so that she can never open up to them? Is it necessary to blatantly flaunt that Akshara is your favourite granddaughter? Why can't they sit her down and ask her to open up? Why can't they address her concerns? Why can't they san and both show that they love them equally? Why all the sympathy for Akshara and only reprimands for Aarohi?

Thx for filling up ..

I have a fair idea of the leap but not the details..thx for explaining...this however doesn't explain why arohi is venting out on akshu ..shouldn't she be projecting her anger towards the goenkas if they were so mean to her mother ? 😕 in that case she should have maintained a distance with all of them and go live with her maternal family....also sirat died while saving akshu doesn't mean that akshu made her do that. She may not have understood this when she was a child but now she is an adult.

Plus , whatever traits I noticed about her can't be attitubuted to her childhood alone . What's this "woh mujhe nhi mila toh.." crap? She wants abhimanyu but what does abhimanyu want, does she care ? 🤔 this superiority complex is due to the childhood trauma ? "Wo ga rahi hogi apna sa re ga ma pa kone mein..ye kuch nahin karti vas baithi rehti hai"..who is she trying to prove that she is superior ? Goenkas or abhimanyu? .I find mahima Birla better than her..I relate to her situation more than arohi..she is bitter and mean , nasty towards her jethani and in laws , probably over the years , constant comparisons in the family and workplace made her like that..as a gray character, mahima Birla stands out.. her back story would be more convincing to me

I don't understand the motivation behind arohis actions as of yet..

Originally posted by: _charu_

Thx for filling up ..

I have a fair idea of the leap but not the details..thx for explaining...this however doesn't explain why arohi is venting out on akshu ..shouldn't she be projecting her anger towards the goenkas if they were so mean to her mother ? 😕 in that case she should have maintained a distance with all of them and go live with her maternal family....also sirat died while saving akshu doesn't mean that akshu made her do that. She may not have understood this when she was a child but now she is an adult.

Plus , whatever traits I noticed about her can't be attitubuted to her childhood alone . What's this "woh mujhe nhi mila toh.." crap? She wants abhimanyu but what does abhimanyu want, does she care ? 🤔 this superiority complex is due to the childhood trauma ? "Wo ga rahi hogi apna sa re ga ma pa kone mein..ye kuch nahin karti vas baithi rehti hai"..who is she trying to prove that she is superior ? Goenkas or abhimanyu? .I find mahima Birla better than her..I relate to her situation more than arohi..she is bitter and mean , nasty towards her jethani and in laws , probably over the years , constant comparisons in the family and workplace made her like that..as a gray character, mahima Birla stands out.. her back story would be more convincing to me

I don't understand the motivation behind arohis actions as of yet..

As has been said in earlier posts on this thread, how a person deals with psychological issues is not cut and dried. Behaviors take different forms, often unconnected to the underlying cause. The superiority complex is because she was made to feel inferior, so she is driven to prove herself better than others. Her going after Abhimanyu is one of the ways it is manifested because Abhimanyu is obviously prize material, someone who has bested aarohi. Anyways this is just how we are trying to see aarohi but the makers are only writing a one dimensional character which is why she is given lines like that... Even akshara, given her past, should not logically be the kind of bland and boring goody two- shoes that she is shown as.

We're just trying to lift this mediocre show a little above its commonness by our discussions😁

... which ofcourse is not going to work because it will just follow the usual route. 🤢

Also aarohi is not really a completely nice person... she can be, she is sometimes, but also a terror mostly. That was how she was spoken of as in the earlier episodes when the girls were children. Her issues with akshu is what we're discussing here. And as I said earlier, so far aarohi has just been avoiding akshu... she doesn't want to do the sisterly thing with her. It's only when akshu keeps clinging to her and does not give her space that she rudely pushes her away.

I really hate the way they are showing akshu too, kartik - naira's daughter... such a clingy, mindlessly sweet creature.

I watched this show from akshu intro to the medical camp fire rescue of abhimanyu.... couldn't take it anymore.

Things i absolutely hate:

#1 portrayal of Arohi.... I'm not saying i like her, because you can't, the way they've portrayed her. But i connect to her more as she's "supposed" to be the educated/modern girl.

The CVs need to understand that being ambitious about your career isn't mutually exclusive to being a "good girl" as per societal norms. The portrayal of arohi as a selfish and unable to balance her ambitions with her love for family makes me cringe and another attempt to re-enforce toxic mentality that a career woman can't be a "good bahu"

#2 Portrayal of Akshu.... despite being the FL she has my zero sympathies because there's a difference b/w being selfless and being a doormat. Like in the wishing well scene, she knew she likes what was developing with abhi and wanted it but the next min she's ready to sacrifice it to her sister??? like why?? just to get back one relationship she's ready to destroy 3 lives and 2 families' happiness. Such immaturity (i know she must be only like 20 something---- but ain't she Naira's daughter and Akshara's 1.0 granddaughter ---- i guess i defeated my own point; her mom wasn't any less wreck less 🤢)

So, in conclusion, glad I stopped watching this show in time!!

Originally posted by: lovereading14

Aarohi:

Aarohi has faced clear childhood trauma, she saw her mother running after Akshara and then dying because of it in front of her eyes. At a such a young and tender age it is an extremely traumatic experience. The immediate resentment towards her sister is a natural response. It is often misplaced anger and guilt.

In most cases this decreases over the years but the show in the first episode itself made it quite apparent that her wound is still quit raw. As a result Aarohi has resolved to being academically inclined. She is an emotionally independent and ambitious woman who knows what she wants and works hard for it. She is competitive and clear headed.

Her bitterness towards her sister is quite apparent (thankfully saves her from becoming two faced) but is also hurtful and maybe even excessive. This flaw makes her human and emotionally vulnerable.

So we have an educated, independent, strong woman.

I really want Akshara to hit her head and say---

Even I ran after you and you car..and I met near death accident..Did I blame you?