Aditya Bhalla - A problem 12 years in the making

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Dharanija

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Posted: 10 years ago

#31

Originally posted by: always_a_TV_fan
what are you doing Anu ?😆
BTW - I will reply to your reply soon😳

so sry!
Double post!
Online frm mobile.. So! 😳

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Lucky

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Posted: 10 years ago

#32

Originally posted by: Asclepius
Nicely written! 👏BR]
Agree with most of the points.. . According to me ..ishita played a major role in this track !
Yes one side shagun ashok param suraj already spoiled him.. Other side ishita was covering up his mistakes.

Regarding ishita I hv some serious doubts...hw good parent she is?

She got ruhi.. Who is brought up by bhallas in good environment.. So it was quite easy to handle her!

But regarding adi ishita is wrong from the first day!

Let it be blaming shravan for fight while it was adi 's fault ! Raman was right in scolding adi!

Then anniversary thing where she gave false hopes to adi.. N even gave confidence so that adi can carry out his evil activities.

Then hidding things from raman abt that step mother story as well as medicine thing !

All these were wrong steps taken by ishita which just worsened the situation for all..
Even during shagun wedding adi burnt his hand n ishita took back her case..

So regarding ishita adi knows..anything he does ,will not get him into trouble.

Once you give a child that kind of power he is bound to use it to his advantage and to hell with everyone else.

All these things make me think ishita can't handle kids like adi.. Ishita thinks all kids just needs loves but it's not true.. Ishita tried to control adi was over protective and tried to cover up his mistakes thinking he will be good one day. But more things were covered up he got more bolder. This happens everytime you cover up. This is the only reason adi targeting ishita everytime.

Only raman can deal with him. Raman loves adi a lot! He is now with adi after long tym its like he is living his dream..he is not able or doesn't want to accept that adi can go away from him..but slowly he will realise..

Parenting is hard but loving your child with Blinders on and not seeing and knowing their weakness and covering up their mistakes makes it harder as the child knows and uses that weakness against you.! This is for both shagun n raman!

Raman is still aware of few things.. He is thinking adi changing for good..

But yes once he knows that hw adi was planning n plotting then like accident track.. He will punish adi for sure!

Raman n medical help can make adi a good person no one else can do that.
But for that raman should know adi evil intentions.
Which slowly he will observe!

Loved ur ps! Thanks for it! :)

Anu ki bacchhi... mere se itni mehnat karwaaogi😲 ? You are lucky I have patience 😎 😆

Thanks for your detailed reply 😊

See, Ishita's frame of reference is Ruhi & Shravan. And with Ruhi, Ishita got lucky because Ruhi was looking for Love. And Ruhi is young and 'mouldable'. With Adi, he doesnt want love, neither from her NOR from Raman. Adi thinks his mother's 'love' is all he needs. He is just looking for establishing his mother in the Bhalla house. This is the difference that Ishita didn't realise at the beginning. But, I won't fault her for this, because no one is born a parent.

My grudge with her is, she should have realised how dark Adi has become when the medicine and story incidents happened. If not earlier, now she knows this boy is upto no good. And when I say she is enabling the child this is what I mean. Today (perfect timing for me to reply to you btw), she was ready to apologise to Shagun when she knew its Adi who wants this ? I am not asking Ishita to hate Adi and kick him out. But at the same time I am not even asking her to bend to his every wish. 😳

About Raman, I disagree with you a bit. I still believe he should do more. He may be under the impression that his child is 'cured' but Adi's demand for an apology should ring warning bells in his ears.

and thanks for liking the PS 😳

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Lucky

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Posted: 10 years ago

#33

Originally posted by: ...EhSaas...
It's story about a family. mom dad and their two adorable daughter. when first daughter was born tgey were really happy but happiness was not long lasting after six months of her birth she had a fever and doctor gave wrong medicine to her and result was that she was suffering deafness. She couldn't hear properly and because of that she can't speak properly. Her parents were sad and don't know what to do but finally they took decision and decided that they will upbringing their daughter like normal daughter only without any sympathy or sadness and just like other kids she also join school just like her kids school and learn something new new and she was talented and confident and never scare to show her talent to other person and her parents were really proud of her and relatives neighbour were also good to see that. In this period tgey had another kid and they have special treatment to first kid but never ignore their another daughter and always their for them and there was never insecurity in any of kid. Everything was going good. When first daughter was 12 years old and she was coming from school due to her hearing problem she couldn't heard car horn and car hit that girl and she fell on footpath and brain hemrage and when took her hospital doctor declare that she is dead. It was greatest loss of of them. After doing all the last ritual of her when people who came to her funeral they said whatever is happend that's happend for good because that girl was disable and she could have been a burden for her parents for life time.
Moral of the story
For outsider she was burden to her parents but for her parents she was their life.

As a outsider It's easy to say that raman should leave adi because he is criminal and brat but as a parent not easy to leave his kid. It's not about first born or last born kids are kids.

As per above story scenario is differnt but issue is same parenting. Thar girl parents neither dump their first daughter nor ignore their second daughter for first kid.

I will say not only adi but in ruhi case too they need to be careful because the way she is behaving lately is actually weird and innocence is missing.

About character u said it all I won't add anything. Already my post is too long

Good post and sensible too

Your post isn't long at all Jaya 😳

thanks for replying and THANKS for sharing that story. As heart-wrenching as it is, it is such a tale of parental love... Makes us put things into perspective 😊

and you know I do agree about your point about Ruhi also.

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Juggaadd

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Posted: 10 years ago

#34

Excellent post Lucky. I am in full agreement with you. Each and every line of yours is correct. Shagun is not going to change any time soon. So, putting her aside, it is Ishita and Raman along with the rest of the family who ought to take responsibility in correcting this 12 year mistake. But both of them are behaving cautiously, taking baby steps to gain Adi's love and trust before they begin to show him the right path. They know how spoilt Adi is. Raman witnessed it and was heartbroken to see his son think he can get away with anything because of a powerful father. In a way, he has been protected all this time. It is disappointing to see Raman succumb to his longing and forget about the accident track.

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Lucky

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Posted: 10 years ago

#35

Originally posted by: Metamorphmagus
Excellent post Lucky. I am in full agreement with you. Each and every line of yours is correct. Shagun is not going to change any time soon. So, putting her aside, it is Ishita and Raman along with the rest of the family who ought to take responsibility in correcting this 12 year mistake. But both of them are behaving cautiously, taking baby steps to gain Adi's love and trust before they begin to show him the right path. They know how spoilt Adi is. Raman witnessed it and was heartbroken to see his son think he can get away with anything because of a powerful father. In a way, he has been protected all this time. It is disappointing to see Raman succumb to his longing and forget about the accident track.

Thanks Sneha 😊

I think both Raman & Ishita have fumbled with Adi. And I dont think they can objectively look at this anymore. Especially after the update I just read. If Ishita is ready to apologise to Adi, she is enabling him more, even after knowing his real intentions. And Raman, yes - he has been blind when it comes to Adi. He did receive a jolt in the accident track, but doesnt seem to remember that side of his child or thinks his child is completely cured!

I think they need real counselors. not the quack (sorry to use this word 😛) who asked them to play happy family

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--Megha--

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Posted: 10 years ago

#36

Awesome post. 👏

The curious case of Adi Bhalla (he is no more Khanna I hope 😛)

When the track started, I had hopes that it will be about Adi's struggle to accept Raman n see other people's goodness but alas. 😆 I m stupid to keep expectations from CVs.

Firstly we never saw Raman making any efforts to build a bond between Adi n himself. Bed wetting is a real serious issue, while Raman did tried to discipline Adi when he was beating up Shravu but he shud have spoken with Adi some Man to Man talk after he knew the whole thing.

The problem with Adi is - he has lived his life with wrong morals n 12 years of teachings cant be wiped out overnight as u rightly put. 😳

I dont know about serial story but in reality - it will be difficult for Adi to accept Ishita as his mom n leave Shagun even after he knows what Shagun actually is in real. Love doesnt understand the right or wrong. Adi just loves his mom n whatever he does is for his mom's wellbeing or giving her back her rights - in this he is not getting that he is ruining his own life.

Raman firstly shud not expect Ishita to be Adi's Ishima coz he is a different child - with Ruhi it was much easier coz Ruhi was deprived of mother and father's love so Ruhi could easily consider Ishita as a mother coz Ishita filled in the deprived love.

Raman shud keep Adi away from Ishita coz he knows Adi hates her and can hurt her and is Adi is getting hurt himself in the process.

Raman shud talk to Adi n know n understand what he wants n explain him what realities r or what he can have.

Raman majorly is in a bad situation here coz he knows that if he utters one bad word to Adi then Adi with Shagun will leave the house, n Shagun's influence on Adi is not gud. But that doesnt mean Bhallas shud listen to all demands of Shagun n dance according to her tunes.

The PROBLEM - Raman n Ishita r not talking 😆, it all takes is a TALK- talk as responsible adults on how to parent Adi. They r thinking on their own. Raman has his own way n Ishita is using her own way. If just these two come together n agree on things like how to approach disciplining Adi then something constructive will come up.

Adi needs counselling but he also needs a supportive n loving home. 😳

P.S- Sorry for grammatical mistakes - was doing some other work n too lazy to fix them 😛

Edited by mnr123 - 10 years ago

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Juggaadd

@Juggaadd

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Posted: 10 years ago

#37

Originally posted by: always_a_TV_fan

Thanks Sneha 😊

I think both Raman & Ishita have fumbled with Adi. And I dont think they can objectively look at this anymore. Especially after the update I just read. If Ishita is ready to apologise to Adi, she is enabling him more, even after knowing his real intentions. And Raman, yes - he has been blind when it comes to Adi. He did receive a jolt in the accident track, but doesnt seem to remember that side of his child or thinks his child is completely cured!

I think they need real counselors. not the quack (sorry to use this word 😛) who asked them to play happy family

That "Happy Family" thing is crap. What kind of a counselor comes up with a solution for bed wetting in just one session? She hardly asked him any questions. If anything his answers revealed he has a problem with his father.

Seeing Ruhi happy, everyone has high hopes from Ishita. Adi and Ruhi are completely different cases and it is not fair to compare. I remember the time Ishita took Adi shopping for school clothes. She was polite yet firm and I was very impressed. Now, she is just staying quiet to not hurt Adi. But really, there is no hurting. That kid might throw a few tantrums. At least everything will be out in the open and they can tackle the problem. This secrecy is not helping.

I saw the episode in bits. Ishita say something like "Bacche ke saamne kya self respect? Kya ego". This argument is valid once or twice but not every single time.

Edited by Metamorphmagus - 10 years ago

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-K.13-

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Posted: 10 years ago

#38

Beautiful and sensible post! Adi is the truly product of his environment (ignoring all the "creative liberty" taken by the CVs with his character).

This track is shaping up so all the blame for Adi's actions is falling on Shagun's "brainwashing." We have heard that justification from so many characters in the last few days, but is that 100% true? No way! Shagun may have poisoned his thought process but the Bhalla parivaar including Ishita have constantly endulged him. Collectively everyone has failed Adi, and it will be even harder to help him now than before. Additionally by allowing things to escalate and then taking a disiplinarian's role (like in the accident track), Raman is further convoluting Adi's thought-process.

Who knows how this track will end but someone needs to step up to the plate for Adi. It's unsettling to see such vicousness from a child. The sense of entitlement Adi has is one thing, but it has gotten out of hand.

Thank you for such a well-versed post! It's amazing to me that despite the fact the CVs seem to royally butcher so much of their story when it comes to dealing with sensitive issues, the original target audience is still able to engage in a practical discussion about them.

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Lucky

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Posted: 10 years ago

#39

Megha, Monal, Sneha and Krishy... I read your replies... I will comment later tonight 😳

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MERARAI

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Posted: 10 years ago

#40

Originally posted by: --mancityfan--
I have to say that children are influenced by people around them and adi so far has had mostly airhead and cockroach around him and hence has learnt planning and plotting and value of materialistic things and now by the time he has somewhat reached a place where he can have right influence and guidance he has gotten to the age where unlearning things he has learnt earlier is bit impossible

And to be honest Raman and his family in their quest to keep him happy are not showing what is right and what is wrong

The adults are busy feeling sorry for themselves...they fail to remember their ghar ka chirag has been away from them for six years. Mr. Bhalla said his piece about not enabling Adi and did nothing to tell his grandson he doesn't get to blackmail his father. Toshiji's moods are directly linked to the presence or absence of Adi in the household. This much laad pyaar of an already spoiled child only reinforces his manipulative behavior.

Raman was a victim of Shagun's master manipulation of Adi when he was barely 6 that won her custody of their son, and he's been nothing more than a puppet in his mother's hands. Yet Raman has never once considered how much of Adi's demands since they moved in with the Bhallas has to do with Shagun pulling strings behind the scenes. Adi has a volatile temper much like Raman.

What he needs urgently is help from a real mental health professional with experience to see right through the manipulative natures of Shagun and Adi.

If Adi doesn't get help soon he is going to be menace to society in the long run. He's already bullying and venting his rage on Ruhi at school. Adi's behavior was already out of control that resulted in Amma's accident. Why didn't Raman keep tabs on his son to make sure he was on the right track after the court hearing?

Why is Ishita supposed to get Adi back into the family fold for the Bhallas and none of them step up to take responsibility? Raman can't have it both ways...he wants Ishita to solve his dilemma and fix the situation so his Adi bonds with him again, yet as a father he's enabling Adi's behavior by indulging his eveyr whim and failed to show Adi his boundaries. The Bhallas are over the moon with having Adi in their midst that they haven't realized they have enabled him to rejoice in the power they have handed him to manipulate every one of them to get them to do what his mother desires... a relationship that is very unhealthy as it stands.

Imagine what becomes of Adi the adult at this rate. Shagun will get to see the fruits of her parenting very soon.