Originally posted by: MonalSingh
Good post and an apt one too. I fully agree with you that Adi is totally out of control now, he needs real professional help. No miracle or selfless love can cure him now.
As people say, it takes a combined effort to fail a child, same thing happened for Adi as well. He is a 12 year old kid who spent last 6 years of his life definitely not as a "kid". Needless to say, his mind was poisoned by his mother from the day their parents got separated and before that he was taught and lured to materialistic things, terming them as the only needful ones. Later his mother and Ashok dad sometimes intentionally and sometimes unintentionally showed him how to plan and plot to get the things that are needed no matter what. Unfortunately, he learnt those tricks at a age that would stick to his mind for the rest of his life. Hence "overnight" change is impossible, even months of care, love and concern won't change him either.
Since Raman and Ishita want to be his parents, their actions need to discussed elaborately. Raman loves him to the core and as an estranged father, it's quite natural. Previously, he was obsessed for his son's recognition, acceptance and company. But the accident track changed him and he himself realized that his obsession wouldn't do any good to his son in the long run. And since then he didn't give in to any of his wicked demands and that's a remarkable progress from him. Raman made it very clear to Adi that he wouldn't be there to save him if he commits any crime, rather he would be the first one to hand him over to the law enforcement authority. Yes, Raman still yearns for his son and sometimes it goes overboard as well but the old Raman who would do anything for his son at the drop of a hat is long gone.
I liked the Ishita who strictly grounded Adi when he made an illogical demand back in June, I guess. Adi needed that avatar of Ishita from day one since he stepped in to Bhalla house, a combination of love, care and strictness. One might argue that if she did so, Bhallas would have taken it wrongly and scolded her. But if she had taken all of them into her confidence from the very beginning, things could have been much different; specially when everyone wanted Ishita to be his mother. Now It's too late and she is caught between situations dug by herself but one would feel sorry for her too. I think she also wanted Adi's acceptance just like Raman did and there she faltered. She advised Adi's counseling for urinary incontinence, then she also should have advised for some professional help to reform his erratic behavior as she's the one who knew the real intention of Adi till now. But as she's expecting his acceptance, she's left it to kismet.
Raman and Ishita's mutual decision of making Ishita as Adi's mother perhaps worsened the situation most. Even if he needed a mother, the timing was not correct. One can't be a mother of a kid in a day or months and it's next to impossible when the person is a stepmother whom the kid loathes. Besides, unlike Ruhi, Adi has his own mother. Just because his mother is evil, he wouldn't discard her someday.
Yes, Adi needs a loving and supportive atmosphere and IshRa should work on that but as you rightly said nothing will work unless he gets real professional help asap. He will only get to realize the love, care and concerns of IshRa once he sees them from a different angle and to achieve that, he needs a proper professional help from a third party.
Sorry for the long essay...
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