Aditya Bhalla - A problem 12 years in the making - Page 2

I don't want to feel any kind of hatred for that child lekin CVs have pushed the boundaries too far.
He has become an out and out villain and that's really sad to know considering he is just a child.

Ofcourse his parents' divorce and sub-standard upbringing is the reason for such moronic behaviour but then again, it all comes down to the fact that he is not the only child with a turbulent past.

I agree he's being manipulated but then i feel, everybody has a sense of right n wrong but he doesn't seem to have any of it. :/
Im not talking about the current events here. Clearly, Shagun is to be blamed here. But the events of the past where he sent Ishita to jail and when he sent Ishita to that Bachelors' party, Not even one ounce of remorse about blunder he has done? Not even after Param took a u-turn and not even after Raman's confrontation with him? Not even one 'ye maine kya kar diya?'
That's where the kid has failed me. And i refuse to empathise with him after that. :S It's heartbreaking to think of a kid like that, but the CVs have left me with no options i guess. :/

Originally posted by: kpkplove

Even starving for 12 yrs without any clothes, shelter and loved ones can make one a criminal like adi. There is no justification for this criminal.😡

Good post and an apt one too. I fully agree with you that Adi is totally out of control now, he needs real professional help. No miracle or selfless love can cure him now.

As people say, it takes a combined effort to fail a child, same thing happened for Adi as well. He is a 12 year old kid who spent last 6 years of his life definitely not as a "kid". Needless to say, his mind was poisoned by his mother from the day their parents got separated and before that he was taught and lured to materialistic things, terming them as the only needful ones. Later his mother and Ashok dad sometimes intentionally and sometimes unintentionally showed him how to plan and plot to get the things that are needed no matter what. Unfortunately, he learnt those tricks at a age that would stick to his mind for the rest of his life. Hence "overnight" change is impossible, even months of care, love and concern won't change him either.

Since Raman and Ishita want to be his parents, their actions need to discussed elaborately. Raman loves him to the core and as an estranged father, it's quite natural. Previously, he was obsessed for his son's recognition, acceptance and company. But the accident track changed him and he himself realized that his obsession wouldn't do any good to his son in the long run. And since then he didn't give in to any of his wicked demands and that's a remarkable progress from him. Raman made it very clear to Adi that he wouldn't be there to save him if he commits any crime, rather he would be the first one to hand him over to the law enforcement authority. Yes, Raman still yearns for his son and sometimes it goes overboard as well but the old Raman who would do anything for his son at the drop of a hat is long gone.

I liked the Ishita who strictly grounded Adi when he made an illogical demand back in June, I guess. Adi needed that avatar of Ishita from day one since he stepped in to Bhalla house, a combination of love, care and strictness. One might argue that if she did so, Bhallas would have taken it wrongly and scolded her. But if she had taken all of them into her confidence from the very beginning, things could have been much different; specially when everyone wanted Ishita to be his mother. Now It's too late and she is caught between situations dug by herself but one would feel sorry for her too. I think she also wanted Adi's acceptance just like Raman did and there she faltered. She advised Adi's counseling for urinary incontinence, then she also should have advised for some professional help to reform his erratic behavior as she's the one who knew the real intention of Adi till now. But as she's expecting his acceptance, she's left it to kismet.

Raman and Ishita's mutual decision of making Ishita as Adi's mother perhaps worsened the situation most. Even if he needed a mother, the timing was not correct. One can't be a mother of a kid in a day or months and it's next to impossible when the person is a stepmother whom the kid loathes. Besides, unlike Ruhi, Adi has his own mother. Just because his mother is evil, he wouldn't discard her someday.

Yes, Adi needs a loving and supportive atmosphere and IshRa should work on that but as you rightly said nothing will work unless he gets real professional help asap. He will only get to realize the love, care and concerns of IshRa once he sees them from a different angle and to achieve that, he needs a proper professional help from a third party.

Sorry for the long essay...😛😆

Originally posted by: GanBarunFan

Great post.. I also had a lot of empathy for Aditya in the beginning of the track .. But the part where the CVs turned him into the one playing mind games... The connection ws lost. All of adi's other 'kaand' were acts of a child acting out as the adults in his life failed him.. By not giving him a structure, a sense of discipline and a clear vision of right and wrong. But 12 year olds don't have capability of hatching schemes of mind games to intimidate adults. Cvs failed him there.. Turned him into a juvenile villain rather than a child needing help. So it's hard to have empathy for him...

And though now he's again acting like a 12 year old spoilt brat who doesn't know the word 'respect for others', by acting stubborn, demanding what he wants(orchestrated by his narcissistic mom's own evil schemes) .. But the relatable boat has already sailed.

I blame it on the CVs for losing their steam in the middle... Sometimes when you butcher a character.. It's hard to redeem them back if the boundary is pushed too far out.

My honest opinion.. I can be wrong.

Thank you for the sensible post.

Originally posted by: appuss

The boy needs medical help... nothing else can undo the damage.

Originally posted by: Bruce_L

Nice post LD.

'A child is a child till he behaves as one'. I agree.

But how he is brought up, that also matters the most. IMO.

And personally I thank you for that PS.

Originally posted by: maaloo

Wonderful post... Very well said. ..

Originally posted by: always_a_TV_fan

yes, hence my conclusion. He needs professional help. Because neither his parents (biological & adopted/step) can look at this objectively any more. Everyone is marred by an opinion & emotion.

Originally posted by: victo

When a child has no one in surrounding who can taught the right and wrong things in the life can be a product like Aditya

His mom is self obsessed personality. Her happiness is important than anything in the world she doesnt spare even her son and brother for her happiness. And Ashok who provided and taken care is the person who has to be put in the dark room through out his life time for his sins committed.

Regarding raman and ishitha whose words never reachedthe ears of aadi because of his blind love towards his mother

Originally posted by: teenager08

I don't want to feel any kind of hatred for that child lekin CVs have pushed the boundaries too far.
He has become an out and out villain and that's really sad to know considering he is just a child.

Ofcourse his parents' divorce and sub-standard upbringing is the reason for such moronic behaviour but then again, it all comes down to the fact that he is not the only child with a turbulent past.

I agree he's being manipulated but then i feel, everybody has a sense of right n wrong but he doesn't seem to have any of it. :/
Im not talking about the current events here. Clearly, Shagun is to be blamed here. But the events of the past where he sent Ishita to jail and when he sent Ishita to that Bachelors' party, Not even one ounce of remorse about blunder he has done? Not even after Param took a u-turn and not even after Raman's confrontation with him? Not even one 'ye maine kya kar diya?'
That's where the kid has failed me. And i refuse to empathise with him after that. :S It's heartbreaking to think of a kid like that, but the CVs have left me with no options i guess. :/