The day of accident and where Anuj went wrong

On the day of accident, some things were not done right by Anuj and even others. I saw just one person mentioning this today. I guess I failed to read even if it was written by others.

1. Nobody took care of Anupama. She just survived a big accident. Nobody cared to give her a cup of water and told her to relax. Even Anuj was busy arguing. Lol, I don't think any spouse should do that even if you are upset. Anuj's timing was so wrong. At least, let his wife rest and then tell her all your disappointments. She just survived an accident. He could take the matter the next day.

2. The discussions and accusations happened in front of everyone. Seriously, these two are horrible.They don't have anything called husband-wife confidentiality.

Anupama is really cringy but she has also done many good things for them. At least for humanity's sake, she should have been given some time and rest. Useless Anuj, useless husband.

Anuj and Anupama had such an immature and useless marriage. Kahe ka "MAAN." Sharamnak aur apmaan ki shaddi thi. Acha hua tooth Gaya.

That’s what have been on my mind since that Maan breakup episode, but I was too lazy to make a post about it. I just couldn’t believe that Anu survived death, but Anuj, who couldn’t stop saying he how much Anu means to him and how much he loves her even a just few episodes before the accident episode, didn’t even care or was concerned that she was near death and grateful for the fact that she was saved and alive. Like didn’t even think or care about her and was all concerned that Choti got saved and kept hugging her. Then if that wasn’t enough, he starting arguing with Anu right then when she hadn’t even have a drink of water after such a terrifying accident. Plus, she was already in emotional distress especially what Vanraj and others there said to her. What kind of love is that? 

Exactly. It is not like Choti Anu got injured. Yes, she was shocked and hurt. But she was fine. Anupama also survived an accident. He should have hugged both of them and took care of both of them. Even in your anger, you should have shown love. Okay, even if he didn't hug him. At least, he should have kept quite and asked his family to take care of Anupama too. Just useless.

I think  same situation  should  be created  

Not accident  but   

Car mein  jahan  anupama  baithe  thi wahan anuj ko bitha do  jahan  kinjal baithe  thi wahan Ankush  ya kisi aur ko Bitha

Anuj ke pas ko god waka chota bacha aur peeche 9 year ki choti  bachi  

To us time  anuj kya karta  pehle kisko Bachata 

Anuj is crigne guy . He deserve no sympathy. The fact that people only supported him.bevsuss he spoke those words that people on Twitter were talking about 

He has no character. His character completely destroyed after maan marriage . He was actually mature and sharp minded guy but makers completely destroyed his character . He also now that maa doesn't love him 

If you love a girl who is studying in your college and if she gets married to some 1 else, any normal human being will try to forget that girl and move on in his life. If the story is to be believed, there was a long queue of girls behind Anuj in the US wanting to marry him. Why did he not ask GK to find a girl for him who would be a perfect match for him, who is well educated, who has a good job in the US and who would really care for him. And now after 26 years, Anuj attends the college re union party where he meets Anupama and shakes a leg with her for the song "Akhiyo Se Goli Maare". Initially, Anupama refused to marry Anuj and wanted him to be only as a good friend. Anuj should not have married Anupama who was a divorcee, a mother of 3 grown up children and a grand mother of 1 and when she was so attached to the Shah family even though she had a painful wedding with Forest King. And as if Anuj's hasty decision to marry Anupama was not enough, he decided to adopt CA aka Aadhya without consulting Anupama. Usually you do not take such decisions without consulting your life partner. Anupama who loved Anuj so much is ready to sacrifice her dream of going to US for her Bebli.

Divorce with Forest King + Mother of 3 grown up children + About to become grand mother to 1 + Adoption of CA aka Aadhya from an orphanage = Wedding with Anuj ending in a divorce after 3 years.

Anupama's mistake was that she choose relations over career. Anupama and Anuj should not have got married in the 1st place.

Timing was really wrong agreed but dkp needed some reason to seperate maan so they found the most ridiculous one like always . Anuj's character has been butchered long back anyways 

The timing, debatable. May be it can be treated as the last nail in the coffin called Anuj-Anupama's marriage.

When was the "right time" to talk sense to Anupama? She has never been there.

Shahs banish her and she rants "main aaungi aaungi". Anuj may let go of instances of her aabsencewhen he needed the most but he may not have been able to overlook instances concerning his child's wellbeing especially after the drama that ensued at Shah House. Besides, this had become a regular occurrence. Shahs and Anuj ask Anupama to maintain healthy boundaries --> One of the Shahs does something whuch turns out serious --> a huge drama ensues at Shah House --> Anupama is insulted. In trying to stand up fir her, Anuj steps in, only to be insulted himself (and Anupama being a silent spectator).

Infact, Anuj’s monologue starts with saying, yes, I have a lot of patience but now I have had enough. That Anupama was only physically present but her mind would always be wandering about Shah House.

Infact, just before this sequence, when Anuj brings Hansmukh-Leela to Kapadia Mansion, he mentions that if they stayed at Kapadia Mansion, her focus would be there too (episode 1111).

About privately discussing the issue.

Anuj had explained Anupama many many times over privately. It never seemed to matter to her.

The sequences he mentioned, ALL happened infront if everyone. Be it Pari's welcoming event when Anuj was wheelchair bound and had amnesia from the accident which was caused Vanraj or missing Choti Anu's school events (mind you it was not just the dance competition, there was her project, her camp ALL of which she asked Anuj to leave it to her inspite of him willing to himself do), forcing him to celebrate Holi with Shahs when Anuj was grieving Choti Anu's going away with Maaya.

Just a few episodes back, he had again asked her to maintain some healthy boundaries from Shahs.

Mind you Pakhi was in Kapadia Mansion and Kinjal and Paritosh were in UK and Dimple was in and out of Kapadia Mansion. So, the "Bachchon ke khatir reason" was invalid.

None of it taken seriously.

Infact, after the cliffhanger sequence, Kavya testified and later Vanraj confessed to the crime. What did Anupama do? When questioned as to why she is favouring the culprit by not gettjng him arrested instead floating his medical bills as a VIP, what did she answer Barkha?

Further, she forced relations on everyone: Anuj to accept Malati Devi, Barkha to accept Romil, even Vanraj to accept Kavya's child (him is it her business, anyway)

Throughout the marriage there never was Anuj. One sequence that strikes is what Barkha mentioned a while back. "Jab se hum aaye hain bas yahi sunte aaye hain, Tum, Tumhari baatein, Tumhara mayka, Tumhare bachche, Tumhare sapne, Tumhari pasand, Tumhari napasand. In sab ne Anuj kaha hain?"

Give anuj a slack ok - hes lost everything to anupama

Malvika left to USA because anupama refused to not keep relationship with vanraj who is her abuser and shahs who tried snatching kapadiya empire from her(toshu, vanraj) 

GK kaka left as he understood nowew anuj will give pripority and respect only to shah elders haskumk and leela not him 

Anuj left his self respect and got abused servral times by shahs for anupama sake

His child CA got abused by shahs for anupama sake 

Such a  man when he sees the only family who loves him unconditional CA about to die in car accident and saved last will go insane in anger only 

Anuj knows this anupama will never care for him ever she cares only shahs 

Only CA is his real family for remaining life - if she would have died in accident anuj would be orhan angain no family

Anupama is just name sake family she never care for him 

So his reaction is justified bec of anupama past behaviour and current US behaviour 

As soon as he released her from jai madam made food for baa and reached toshu home who had stolen anuj client jewels