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Originally posted by: Iansomer1

You have my support dear. stay strong.

About why it happens? no we girls are not born to succumb,its society that has created a image that if a girl speaks out it means she is wrong which us the modern generation needs to rectify. women can fight for their own rights very well they just need little bit of confidence and boost of confidence that its ok to fight for ur rights.Would you believe that here in london there was an incident in our school but we prompted the girl to report to the administrators and we reported as witnesses yes our names were in a controversy where most backward people would say they r bigri hui girls so got embroiled in such a scandal but we stood stiff. we gathered girls from the whole school and got him expelled. The result of just a week of hard work was that a anonymous survey was conducted and there was a a high level of decrease in inappropriate behavior around the campus.The boys were warned. something like this needs to happen in India on a very big scale. only then such incidents would stop. I understand your situation to an extent about not wanting to attract attention. I know i might never be able to understand fully as i have never experienced such thing god forbid anyone eve has too.

take care dear. no need to be sorry.

Originally posted by: prem_diwani

That's where predators try to avoid being identified in crowds and one never knows who it was. The way a woman dresses is not enough reason but more a fact they figure out who is mild and wont protest.

I don't know what this really says about me. I do stand up for my rights, but I have tolerance limit. Ever since childhood, I have learnt to compromise with many things. I have gone through a lot of verbal abuse in the family and I have learnt to tolerate it all without calling attention to it simply because it will make things worse.

They count on the fact that we feel embarrassed and don't say anything. It gives them a sense of power. The day we turn around and say you b***td how dare you touch me, they will think twice. A kick in the shin doesn't hurt or a pen dug into their hand. But when u r frozen in shock I know the mind doesn't work.

They might think twice or they might not at all. They simply might find someone else to prey on.

Conditioning - Girls don't fight, girls don't hit and girls don't play with boys after a certain age are all instilled in us. Being a tomboy, I never hesitated hitting guys in buses in India who thought its ok to run their hands around me. As long as that self preservation is there - never take cr*p. People will stand by you. Tap into ur own strength and believe me we women have it in us.

That, I have no doubts about it. As human beings we are all created on the same plane. It is the influence of society that creates inhibitions or our freedoms. It is up to us to decide on which one we want to act on.

Put this incident down to some cheapo getting his kicks in life and move on and don't hesitate the next time it happens to totally bring out your inner drama queen and let out that scream held inside.
hugs to you and it will be a old sour memory soon..

This was in a way a lesson for me. I was talking this over with my friend and we agreed on that the mere fact that I stood up for myself and said something, means a lot. If I had stayed silent and let it carry out, then I would have not only disrespected and insulted myself, but also shown that anyone can come and use me the way they want. I stood up and defended myself and showed that I will not take this kind of crap from anyone.

Thank you so much for the help Anu. 🤗

Originally posted by: KhushiLovesZaya

You are so very right!! You know I think always that how beautiful this world would be if men and women were truly equal. I hate the fact that men think they are stronger than women and can do anything to women like harassing them. You have my support dear just stay strong. Its amazing that you came to write this Im sure you must be feeling little better. God bless!! Just stay happy positive and with your loved ones. May God punish that person who made you feel sad may God punish all men who do these kind of shameful acts.

And about the show I truly agree. Twinkle just said what she saw, she cant think now anything properly because she is hurt.

Originally posted by: KeyaHira2

I totally loved what you said

I support you in everyday

We are all here for you

You are totally right

We are human

We are woman

Regardless of what gender we are

We have the right to be treated well and respected

Feminism

Love that shit

I am a feminist

I live in NY

I would say Feminism is the most important thing ever

Next to Humanism, Racism, and Equal Rights

But hats off to what you said

👍🏼

Originally posted by: LightingHope

As a young girl who is growing up and who has recently felt her confidence in her strength waver because she will never be as "strong" or as "safe" as a boy, I respect you for sharing something that we've been brought up to consider as a taboo topic.

It's to protect me that my parents don't let me go out by myself without a parent or my elder brother but what irritates me is that i was a strong as my brother in childhood and the only strength that i'll ever be able to have acknowledged is physically, not emotionally. What hurts me most is that the words unspoken that if something happens to me no-one believes I'll be able to rise out above it.

I've never come across a real life situation like you have so I can't say that I wouldn't break but even though I don't have the strength physically I have self belief, and I like to believe if someone behaved with me inappropriately I wouldn't let them get away with it but its one of those things you don't know until it happens.

I sympathize with Twinkle as well because she doesn't what happened to her those moments she was drugged. And not knowing can be scarier than knowing.

We can't change our entire society all at once. But if we teach our brothers and sons how to treat women with respect then hopefully Inshallah our world will slowly get better.

Originally posted by: LightingHope

@asmaanixx I'm glad you had people for support, it's difficult enough when it's happened, even more so when you have no-one there for you.
Unfortunately small incidents like these keep on happening. The only upside to this is that it what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, and over time it does make us stronger so later on we won't take any shit from anybody.(please excuse my language)

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

This was in a way a lesson for me. I was talking this over with my friend and we agreed on that the mere fact that I stood up for myself and said something, means a lot. If I had stayed silent and let it carry out, then I would have not only disrespected and insulted myself, but also shown that anyone can come and use me the way they want. I stood up and defended myself and showed that I will not take this kind of crap from anyone.

Thank you so much for the help Anu. 🤗