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Originally posted by: chicksoup

Precisely the question . What is lacking in Veer that Mishti cannot connect with him or confide in him?

That something wrong might be with Mishti and her flawed thinking. Some myths have to be shattered.

She never thought she'd meet Ruhaan again. She was mortified when he turned up. She didn't fall for his charms or smile. She always looked at the bad side to him. Despite that, he helped her brother. She had to give some credit to Pari's judgement.

Now that she is in talking terns with him, she is feeling what she feels for him isn't hatred as she had judged earlier. In all this, there isno physical attraction. It is the natural progression of a relationship.

Originally posted by: anshvi

A relation should be much more than that...u r right physical attraction is an important PART..A relation should be based on trust, understanding, care , love AND physical attraction.

A relation should not be based solely on the basis of attraction coz it's not going to survive in the long run

Also here the problem is Mishti is not single but in a happy commited relation so there should be a very strong reason for her to fall out of love with Veer and in love with Ruhan and attraction can't be the sole or the main reason

Originally posted by: anshvi

Again she was in a happy relation with Veer ! Also Mishti never found anything lacking in him...we didn't get single monolugue from her stating that her relation is missing something

Also she does confide in him ! He is aware of her fears and he assured as well

Now coming to Ruhaan...why I said there is no natural progression is because it is based on attraction

2nd is that if Ruhan was nice to Ansh so is Veer with her family...plus she is committed to him

Ruhan is nice so is Veer...So what is the reason to fall for Ruhan despite being in happy relation with Veer ?

If niceness is thr criteria so Veer is also nice

This is is what my point is...there is no concrete reason apart from the fact that she is attracted towards him

Originally posted by: haalim_

My point is often the romantic relationships start with physical attraction only and other things like trust and understanding develop with time. It's not like all the people in a relationship start bonding emotionally at their very first meeting.

And regarding the commitments, as long as mishti is engaged to Veer, either Ruhaan approaching her or her starting a relationship with Ruhaan is wrong according to me as well.

And regarding their feelings towards each other, their actions will define their characters not their feelings. Because I believe u can control ur actions not ur feelings.

Originally posted by: anshvi

See my point is attraction is the first step o agree but here the problem is that Mishti is committed so drifting towards someone simply on the basis of attraction doesn't seem right!

Feeling out of love and falling for someone can't be based solely on the basis of attraction

If we look at it then Mishti might have felt attraction for Veer as well then would have started to get to know each other then they must have dated before committing to each other

So what has changed now ? What exactly was lacking ? This is where the problem comes ! As per CVs Mishti was super happy with Veer and was looking forward to Get married to him until Ruhan entered the frame

The thing is Mishti is not controlling her growing feelings but also giving in to them

Ruhan knew what he felt for Mishti...agree he couldn't control it but he could leave as well as per me ...but he saw a sleeping Mishti and decided to stay back ! Here he acted coz he felt !

Mishti also went to Ruhan and asked her to wish him! She is not maintaining a distance which is in her hands

So, they are slowly not only losing control of their feelings but also acting on them and this will create a mess

Originally posted by: chicksoup

Veer- nice with family plus commitment plus good looking and she enjoys / used to enjoy cuddling with him.

Ruhaan - nice with family , not sure of commitment index, good looking and she feels a deeper connect she wants to deny. This is because he exudes the same vibes which is a different level from cuddling.

Those vibes are usually what gets a relationship going, and not a safe and friendly, committed relationship culminating in marriage. Mishti found for herself an arranged marriage with Veer , thinking commitment is above love. Problem is, she never knew love till now. Romantic love, that is.

That is more than an understanding.

Originally posted by: khatimeethi

@ Bold , did U not watch the first episode where she clearly said Veer is like her and that is why she felt it is perfect, a common mistake many young people make when they mistake similar feeling to love and she wanted to go ahead as she felt in her dictionary commitment=love which many assume as well.That is when she met Ruhaan and complications started

Originally posted by: khatimeethi

@ Bold , did U not watch the first episode where she clearly said Veer is like her and that is why she felt it is perfect, a common mistake many young people make when they mistake similar feeling to love and she wanted to go ahead as she felt in her dictionary commitment=love which many assume as well.That is when she met Ruhaan and complications started

Originally posted by: Sanam_26

What about so many I love you's? The romantic date?
And within 2-3 days flipped?

Originally posted by: anshvi

See my point is attraction is the first step o agree but here the problem is that Mishti is committed so drifting towards someone simply on the basis of attraction doesn't seem right!

Feeling out of love and falling for someone can't be based solely on the basis of attraction

If we look at it then Mishti might have felt attraction for Veer as well then would have started to get to know each other then they must have dated before committing to each other

So what has changed now ? What exactly was lacking ? This is where the problem comes ! As per CVs Mishti was super happy with Veer and was looking forward to Get married to him until Ruhan entered the frame

The thing is Mishti is not controlling her growing feelings but also giving in to them

Ruhan knew what he felt for Mishti...agree he couldn't control it but he could leave as well as per me ...but he saw a sleeping Mishti and decided to stay back ! Here he acted coz he felt !

Mishti also went to Ruhan and asked her to wish him! She is not maintaining a distance which is in her hands

So, they are slowly not only losing control of their feelings but also acting on them and this will create a mess