Understanding Nandini - Page 7

Originally posted by: g.sreedurga

I'm sorry but I had to reply for this though I don't usually make posts in this forum. You're drawing parallels between Nandini and a 5 year old?!!

Firstly, you go to any 5 year old and say some fictional story to make them sleep. They'll believe it and sleep to save themselves from rakshas. Why? Because they don't know people lie. They don't know cheaters exist. They believe in everything they see/listen, especially if it's their mom who's saying. They're as pure as gems. Even if they lie, their mom would know it in their eyes. And now Nandini ma'am acts in such a way, pretends in such a way that anyone including Mauli would never even have an ounce of doubt on her. You say she's like a kid?

Second, Nandini thought Mauli has too many toys and wouldn't mind taking one away from her? Really? What are her toys? Isn't a successful professional life one of them? Didn't she earn it all on her own? If Nandini wanted that, why couldn't she go that way and earn professional success? And she thinks Kunal is 'one' of the toys Mauli has? As if Mauli is sleeping around with men like her husband! Mauli clearly told Nandini that Kunal is her 'life'!!! Nandini is very much aware of the degree of his importance and need in Mauli's life and he's just not another 'good thing' in her life but much more than that!! As you said, kids don't know about ownership or morality. But Nandini knows them and also their repercussions, it's just that she 'choose' to ignore them for her so called jazbaat. And you say she's a kid?

Third, let some 5 yr old niece of you who loves you snatch something from you or break it. Then you make a sad and upset face. You see how that kid will be upset for the whole day trying to apologize to you or trying to be good with you. They can't see their loved ones in pain. To an extent that if father shouts on mother and mother cries, they'll be very upset with their father. They needn't even know the reason. Such is their love. And this woman, who clearly experienced how it feels to have an infedile husband, is doing the same to someone whom she claims to love a lot. Someone because of whom she is what she's today. That too with no ounce of guilt. And you say she's a kid?

Fourth, don't even get me on kid's loyalty. They are those constants who you needn't doubt ever. They take their friendships, their cuts so seriously and be honest to it. Imagine a Kindergarten where a boy constantly hits another boy. Meanwhile some other boy comes into picture and saves him. If this happens twice or thrice, the saved kid will be so loyal to his friendship towards one who defended him. To an extent that he'd get into brawl with anyone in future to defend him. Why do you think childhood friendships are so strong many times? And here this woman doesn't know what friendship is or what loyalty is. And you are saying she's like a kid?

There's a difference between being childish and being selfish. There's a difference between committing a mistake and committing a sin. There's a difference between being innocent and being negligent. There's a difference between being careless and being characterless. If she gets jealous of Mauli and impulsively shout on her or pray for her failure, it's immaturity. If she gets jealous of Mauli and jumps on to bed with her husband, it's infedility. There's a fine line. What she's doing is disgusting and the characterization is puke worthy. It's faaar from childish. And what she's doing is 'Adultery'. No parallels between the impurest being and the purest souls on the face of this planet.

I agree with your last two paragraphs. On point. No offense about my other points please. I don't know if you're even supporter of KuNan or not but somehow couldn't agree on the point that Nandini is like a child. So replied to that. Hope you don't take it as on offense.

Originally posted by: Angels11

I still dont understand which weed the CVs r smoking. How the hell do they expect the audience to think a woman who sleeps with her BFF's husband & not even show remorse is innocent angel. Then I w'd say the CVs r more delusional than Nandini. I think the CVs s'd now show clearly wat is their intention. Was Nandini always meant 2 b evil, psychotic or its just confused writing/direction

Originally posted by: Y12345

Just finish reading all these

@vibha( are you the psy here or is it another thread, sorry if I am mistaken/

Anyway she said that sometimes her patients said that they fall in love with her and she understands, as they share their deepest secrets with her .

What if for N, kunal is like her healer, so there is this feeling she thinks its love.

sorry if i missed threads

Originally posted by: Angels11

Hey I don't take offence easily. You just shared your views. Btw guess you are new to the forum. I hate nandini and can't stand her. Have already had run ins with fanatics due to this 😊 yes you do have valid points. By drawing a parallel to a child I want to say that nandini is immature and dependent on others. That's not normal for an adult of her age right? But yeah by comparing her to a child it may look like I am trying to give her an excuse which is not my intention. As everyone said she is a mystery. As of now I think we can all safely assume that she is a clingy, manipulative woman who has lost the notion of right and wrong

Originally posted by: Angels11

I think pages & pages ve been written bt Nandini already 😆 But still many like me r honestly not able 2 get her character. A person who was initially shown as scared, weepy, traditional & silent is now boldly having sex with a married man. This character mystifies me so I tried to really understand this character. I am not sure if from the beginning the CVs had planned Nandini 2 b a morally ambiguous character but right now that's how she is being perceived.

I am a huge fan of Agatha Christie & ve read all her novels.1 of her story Lord Edgware dies has a seemingly dumb air head actress as the main character. 1 of her friend initially warns Poirot that she hates her husband & she is v manipulative. However every1 including Poirot underestimate her to be dumb bimbo. In the climax its revealed tat actually she was the murderer. Poirot remarks that he has solved many more complex cases where the murderer was ingenious & extremely intelligent. But it was this seemingly dumb murderer who had almost defeated him. He says she is almost child like in her behavior. If She wants something, she just takes it, people can go to hell. And ppl put up with it because of her beauty & charisma. I c a parallel between that character Jane & Nandini here. Both seem childlike & innocent. Supposed 2 b ethereally beautiful & charismatic. Even Kunal's family seem to like her & r quite taken in by her. I think Nandini is not a mature person. She might be in the late 20s but seems child like in her behavior. For eg she dint trust her friend Mauli when she accused Rajdeep of molesting her but in Goa cooks cake in the Hotel's kitchen (CVs were smoking weed, which hotel allows this 🥱) as if a cake will make her friend forgive her & understand her love. She simply shrugs off things which happened in the past. It c'd b something as simple as an insult or as severe as physical abuse by Rajdeep. In the earlier episodes 1 moment Rajdeep will be forcefully raping her & another moment she ll b shown cooking special dishes for Rajdeep. Its like her brain shuts down to stop her frm remembering traumatic events. Its her defense mechanism. To a normal, independent woman like me if my hubby insults me or fights with me I ll literally give him the cold shoulder & wont talk till he takes some re-conciliatory steps. Here Nandini just forgets the events or pretends 2 forget. She is also an emotionally weak person who always needs some1 to support & guide her. She doesnt take decisions of her own. Some ppl make things happen eg Mauli, Rajdeep. Some ppl let things happen eg Nandini. She let Rajdeep abuse her for years. When Mauli convinced her to leave Rajdeep she took her advice. When Kunal proposes 2 her she just follows him like a puppy. For her through out her life some1 has to take the lead, some1 has to take care of her. Ppl were saying how she cooks & takes care of ppl. Actually its not true. Even cooking some1 has 2 push her. Earlier she considered it her wifely duty. Then it was frm a sense of gratitude 2 the family who helped her & gave her a place 2 stay. Even the cookery classes were not her idea. And even aft it was decided it was Kunal & Mauli who did all the arrangements. Its like Nandini is a spectator in her own life.

Some1 pointed out how she always chooses men over Mauli. 1st it was Rajdeep. Now Kunal. Its coz she is the kinda woman who thinks A man is the master of the house. 1 of the reason y she is awed of Mauli coz she cant imagine a woman being so strong, independent & outspoken. May be a spark of jealousy triggered from this sense of inferiority complex. Even during that Bird slaughter kaand Kunal had to take care of her like a baby. Now I am not saying that a woman s'd b like a robot. Any woman w'd b traumatized by a brutal rape attempt followed by this. But even aft she seems passive. That night when she fought Rajdeep finally it was only coz she tried calling Mauli & realized tat she is on her own. Even tat earlier she used to allow Rajdeep to rape her but now she desires Kunal so she no longer allows Rajdeep to violate her like earlier.

A v young child has no sense of right or wrong. A 4-5 yr child will push another kid & grab her toy. To her all she needs is tat toy. A child doesnt realize the concept of ownership (u cant grab stuff which is not urs) & morality (u cant hurt some1 to get something u want). Slowly as the child grows, parents, teachers & the society teach her the concept of right & wrong, morality & ethics, law & justice. She soon realizes tat in this society u cant just do anything u want & is more careful in her actions. Her Nandini is the child who never grew up. To her Kunal is a toy she needs. Doesnt matter that he is her friend's hubby. Its like my friend has so many toys so what's wrong if i take 1 of her toy to play. Anyway I am returning it. Hence how she behaves coolly with Mauli & rest of the family.

I think deep down she is not a very nice & loving person. She may not be doing it intentionally. For eg she might not ve entered Mauli's house with the intention of grabbing her hubby. But once she liked him she dint think twice before taking him. Caring is not all about just cooking or maintaining a beautiful house. For eg if Kunal is facing a financial or professional crises, I doubt if Nandini will be able to give him the moral & physical support. She is by nature a taker not a giver. She takes help, she takes support, she takes sympathy. But I ve not seen her give help or support or sympathy to any1. Even in the park if she really understood Kunal's conflict she could ve just talked for a few seconds & left giving an excuse. Instead she manipulated him.

She is a survivor unlike Mauli who is a fighter. For eg when Rajdeep tried to sleep with a girl, N's reaction was tears & pleading with Raj. When tat failed she just accepted it & moved on. She never brought tat up again or fought with Raj. She just accepts watever happens to her, adapts to it, adjusts & survives. Now Kunali in the same place would have clobbered both Raj & the girl before storming out not 2 mention serving divorce papers. Coz Mauli is a fighter. That's the key trait which differentiates the 2 woman. Mauli fights for wat is right. Nandini fights for survival. Here Nandini's thinking is that a Man is necessary for a woman's survival. She is not educated or strong or bold like Mauli. To her she needs a man to survive this big bad world. Earlier tat man was Rajdeep. Now its Kunal. In her twisted, child like mind she is not doing anything wrong. She is just trying to survive. Hence her habit of always choosing a man over Mauli. Its not physical want or desire. Its how her mind works. A woman needs a man to take care of her, to provide for her & make her feel wanted & relevant in life.

I am sure when Mauli finds out the truth & confronts her, N will just cry & say she did nothing wrong coz to her wat she is doing is not wrong.

Sorry for such a looong post & for rambling so much. Looking fwd 2 all ur thoughts on this 😳

Originally posted by: music_l0ver036

In what universe do you think a woman will let a man rape her? "allow him to rape her" do you hear yourself? What led you to think that Nandani LET RAJDEEP VIOLATE every aspect of her being? Nandani's actions aren't superficial, she didn't just choose Rajdeep over Mauli, it's because when a woman is about to be married to someone, the societal backlash she faces when breaking off that relationship is immense.

You said Nandani fights for survival. Yes she does. It's because she has incredible mental health issues that the writers aren't showcasing and the audience refuses to read between the lines. It's not normal for someone to steal their best friends spouse. No one is saying that it's right. But what is not being explored, things like anxiety and depression, commitment issues, manipulation, is why it's happening. If Nandani was written better and given depth and scope about the mental jungle gym that she's had to face in her life then people would understand her better. Then maybe the audience wouldn't blame a rape victim for getting raped and instead would blame the man who raped her.

Originally posted by: Angels11

This is what they call PLAYING THE VICTIM. Look I am not belittling the trauma she experienced in her marriage 2 Rajdeep. No woman good or bad deserves that. But looking at her being totally detached or unaffected 2 Mauli's feelings & pain makes me wonder how different is she from Rajdeep. Rajdeep abused her physically. Nandini is now abusing Mauli & her trust emotionally. How is she any better from Rajdeep. To me she is beyond redemption no matter what the apologists here in the forum say. She is not a nice person. She is not a normal person. BAS!