Originally posted by: WhyHate
You put across a good argument for Nandini, but somewhere I feel that whatever Kunal did, Mauli could have done as well. Now I haven't watched from the beginning so I don't know about all the scenes you're talking about, but let's say for example the suicide scene.
When Nandini decided to commit suicide, if Mauli had been there, I'm sure she would have talked Nandini out of it as well. Your argument only holds true in this case because Kunal was there. What if Mauli had seen Nandini run out to commit suicide. She would have gone after her and convinced her otherwise.
With Nandini's blouse unzipping, I feel that this is one place where sometimes a woman doesn't know what to do. If you think about it, when say your bra strap is showing, a gentleman usually ignores it, but a woman points it out. If your neckline is deep, a gentleman will mostly ignore it, but a woman will point that out. Similarly, if your blouse or dress or skirt is about to unzip, a gentleman will try to help you out, but a woman might be at a loss as to what to do. It happened with a friend of mine. We were at a party and the dress she was wearing was tied in the back and that's the only thing that was holding the top part of the dress up. Now she used to wear that dress often, so the threads had begun to wear and that day they finally snapped. One of our common male friends standing behind her caught the threads before they fell and helped her into another room where she changed. I was also standing behind her, but I was actually at a loss what to do. I saw the thread coming undone and my first reaction was to tell her. If I had done that it would have been too late because by then the thread would have given away and she would have been exposed.
Also somewhere it has to do with the character of each. Mauli is a more practical person. Look at the way she is dealing with this EMA. She had an emotional breakdown, but now she's practical. Kunal isn't mine anymore, he doesn't love me, so divorce him. Okay we have to live together for a month, but I won't question him and in fact I'll help him meet his love. That's Mauli. Practical thinking. Kunal is more emotional thinking. He didn't tell Mauli about his love for Nandini because he didn't want to hurt her. He feels hurt seeing Mauli in pain, but he isn't feeling guilty. He came back on Dida's say-so because emotions count. Let's reverse the EMA situation. If Mauli had fallen in love with someone else, she would have told Kunal because it makes sense practically.
Now, let's say all your arguments are correct to this point. It makes sense that Nandini fell for Kunal and Kunal fell for Nandini. But did neither of them think for a second of all the people they would be causing pain to? I don't mean just Mauli. I mean Yamini, Dida, themselves, Nandini's family. Did they seriously think engaging in EMA was better than just divorcing and then getting married? When they first had sex, Nandini had just gone through trauma. And she started pulling Kunal towards her. Is that really the only thing Nandini could think of? Both of their arguments are that they couldn't control themselves, things just happened. Things don't just happen. We take steps towards them. We can take steps away from them as well. Nandini and Kunal could have controlled themselves. When Nandini made a move to leave, Kunal could have let her go. When Kunal tried to come close to her, Nandini could have stopped him. When Mauli would phone and ask Nandini where she was, she could have realized that she was lying and cheating her best friend and stopped herself. But they didn't.