looking at the CVs - Page 39

Originally posted by: pamk06

Exactly, the only person, I had some hope for was Yamini but she has become a mute spectator and based on her expression today when K and M were dancing, it seems she also on board with Dida's idea of reconciliation without asking for answers from her son.

yeah I don't understand Yamini either. She was the only one that definitively blamed Kunal and now she's just smiling??

Originally posted by: music_l0ver036

yeah I don't understand Yamini either. She was the only one that definitively blamed Kunal and now she's just smiling??

Originally posted by: WhyHate

Somewhere I feel Yamini is letting everything take its due course because she knows what it'll lead to. She knows what Dida is doing, but she won't interfere because she knows Mauli won't bend so easily and accept Kunal back. She knows that both are faking it for Dida and that once a month is over, Kunal will leave and go back to Nandini.

Ever since I've started watching, I've always felt that Yamini is smarter than the CVs are letting on. She knows things. She sees things. And she pretends to be just a dumb mother.

She made it obvious when Kunal and Nandini's relationship was revealed that she supports Mauli. Hence even now she doesn't support Kunal. But she has to keep on appearances for society and once this whole Navratri is over, then she'll be back to sidelining Kunal and rejecting him for Mauli.

Originally posted by: mango_pudding1

@charu -- the CVs totally bungled with how domestic abuse is covered. however, according to this article I read, there was a statistic that said it will take a woman something like 37 times of abuse before she decides to leave. or some high number. while we might think of staying in abusive situation as lack of guts, the kind of courage required to endure such trauma should not be underrated. but lets keep that aside because CVs didn't cover this in a way that made sense to the viewers.

but even when nandini had no where to go, she was willing to get on a bus and leave the city when she realized that she was weak and would succumb to an affair if she stayed. so this woman can leave at any point if she makes up her mind. the difference is that this time kunal won't rush to the bus stop because he is too busy doing whatever dadi asks.

Originally posted by: SummerRain7

Wonderful post mango_pudding1 What you said about Nandini's perceptive powers and her survival instinct, is so on point. In the absence of any other support, she had to rely on those skills in the past and I believe they will come in handy again now. Either that or she might have a complete break down and hit rock bottom. In that scene yesterday, I think she gave Kunal a chance to speak out the truth, and I loved the way she looked at him so deeply and almost pointedly, trying to read him. It was a welcome change from her usual meek acceptance of anything and everything that he says. Just a day back, I had wondered out loud here whether their relationship can even be called healthy because Nandini had just been nodding along to everything that he says . Yesterday, their brief conversation looked closer to normal.

Pamk06 - I rewatched that part and thanks for that wonderful explanation 🤣. Shock laga Bhai!

But seriously what the hell is Kunal doing? I find myself agreeing with WhyHate, mango_pudding and FruitToasty. This guy's lack of initiative is making this messier for everybody. I was shocked when I saw Yamini smiling in the background. For all the outburst in the beginning, she has turned out to be a completely useless chracater. She does not give me any motherly vibes and I think we have every reason to conclude that they are a dysfunctional family. And Kunal will not do anything unless and until he is pushed to a corner. His "okay okay to Dida was deliberately misinterpreted. He did not care to correct her and yes that situation was difficult, but like some of the people pointed out here, had Mauli said no to Didai's request, he wouldn't have forced her. He is perpetually in the background waiting for other people to think and act and simply goes along with it. So the chances of him doing anything on his own to get Nandini into his life looks miniscule as of now.

I was so damn annoyed when Mauli made it easier for him to sneak out. But it was also in a way, a very symbolic slap. And weirdly, I am happy that though it made him feel further ashamed, he still went out to meet Nandini. Had he stayed back, he would have come across as someone who lacks conviction in anything. But in all this, does he actually realize that the person who he has hurt the most is covering up his sorry ass??

Seriously, right now, I don't know how it is that I am putting up with his sorry face on the screen. Whatever he is doing in the name of "love for his family is just plain spinelessness and there is simply no other word for it.

And the makers are now blundering on a whole new level. Being doctors, do Kunal and Mauli think it is alright for someone who has just had a heart attack to exert herself by being a part of festivities and rituals? And instead of all the divine marriage symbolism, and other characters coming in to counsel Nandini, I'd rather wish for BP's Aditya to come again and give a sound hearing to Kunal on how infidelty in marriage affects the wronged partner and make them incapable of trusting and loving again.

Coming to Dida's Salim Anarkali wali tippany, Pamk06 , I thought , since it was Dida who mouthed those lines I thought she was telling Mauli to trust her love for Kunal, and that will eventually bring him back, because he was the one who went away first . And whatever crap Dida herself is doing to Nandini (though her intention is to break Nandini's trust ) , that is in effect a test of love and trust for Nandini as well. So whoever hangs on to their faith, gets the prize called Kunal. That's the way I interpreted it.

I really don't know why no one is questioning Kunal on anything. And the divinity angle is baffling. Wasn't EMA shown as destined and divine earlier, and now suddenly marriage is also divine? Or are they trying to tell us that EMA was destined to happen but marriage (being holy and sacred) will survive that. If that is the case, then I am sorry, I did not sign up for this story. I wanted to see raw human emotions play out and human beings battling it out with their own emotions, I do not want to watch a story where humans are shown as mere puppets in a divine game.' Did they forget the tagline of their own show???

Originally posted by: pamk06

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@charu: I totally agree with @ mango_pudding here. Nandini is very strong emotionally. You cannot survive that long an abuse by being weak. They are called survivors for a reason because they learn to live in the small world of theirs and find happiness where possible. They learn to process pain manly by ignoring it. It very difficult for such people to adjust to a new world and hence most of them tend to go back. Only when there is trigger and with an help of an external support are they able to totally break free from their abuser. In Nandini, the trigger was the baby.

Having said that, she also has a rebel streak in her. If you remember the initial episode, inspite of Rajdeep warning her to stay put, she baked a cake, she decorated the hotel, she went ahead with the pregnancy. This shows strength, and believe me, it takes a lot for a person to go against their abuser especially when they are still with them.

Even in the aftermath of those two trauma scenes that happened, one because of Rajdeep and the other with those women, , she did not call Kunal or try to reach him. She picked herself up and tried to process the pain. That shows inner strength. Kunal came there due to external reasons, first time because he felt bad of his MIL words and second because the realtor called him. Also, there are three scenes that shows that she can and will take decision without consulting other if she think thats the right thing to do.. First was when she went and returned the MS to Rajdeep, second is for the electricity when K and M had an argument, she went behind everybody and made the arrangements, third was when she decided to leave town. Nandini is definitely not a weak person. So when push comes to shove, we will see her doing exactly that if CVs show us what they promised us.

Originally posted by: _charu_

I understand dear but its all theorotical ..nandu and emotionally strong ? I agree the women who go through this have innate power in them , thats why i am surprised at her behaviour , its far from its being perceived ...ideally , .she should be how you people picture her, yes ..an abuse victim...i would have taken the above reasons if mauli was not there in the picture .i

She was able to break free , the trigger was not the baby but mauli . She had the backing of mauli thats why she could break free from rajdeep , refused to go back with him , got him arrested ,returned the ms, filed the divorce , resist the rape attempt . I am shocked you people dont wanna give that much credit to mauli , n saying she had it in her ..she had mauli as her back up and later she had kunal who she is clinging onto .

Electrician incident was a minor one , how does it qualify as an example ? She was thinking kunal is getting attracted to her and she called the electrician and not kunal to fix up her house . She wanted to leave but ultimately gave in ..what after that ? What are we supposed to make out of her character from that point ? Kunal him jaante hain aap guilty hain , hum jaa rahe hain . Hum gande hain etc etc saying all that to hear the reassurances from kunal ...she has severe inferiority complex because of rajdeep and now the society ..she thinks nobody can love her , she is not worthy of anybodys love... . In this scenario when kunal confessed , she was on the top of the world . Will she ever let go of him ? I dont think so ..lets see how they shape up the story ..

Originally posted by: _charu_

She was able to break free , the trigger was not the baby but mauli . She had the backing of mauli thats why she could break free from rajdeep , refused to go back with him , got him arrested ,returned the ms, filed the divorce , resist the rape attempt . I am shocked you people dont wanna give that much credit to mauli , n saying she had it in her ..she had mauli as her back up and later she had kunal who she is clinging onto .

@mango_pudding. I understand what you're trying to say. It's very difficult to get a person out of an abusive relationship. No matter how much their friends try to explain to them, if they can't see it, it's not going to end. I do give a lot of credit to Mauli tho, she gave Nandani a safe space until Nandani could gather the courage to tell Rajdeep off. However, while Mauli was helping Nandani, so was Kunal. I think I read it on this thread but Kunal was there for Nandani physically. He talked her out of committing suicide, during the elevator scene and when Kunal and Nandani were stuck in her apartment, it was kunal that consoled her and made her feel better and took away her fear. Mauli is kind of harsh on her approach, which can be taken the wrong way. I am the kind of person that would appreciate Kunal's approach better because he wouldn't make me do anything uncomfortable that I didn't want to do but Mauli would leave me to the sharks and tell me to figure out my own way back. Point is, they're a contrast. When Nandani was dancing and her blouse's zip was about to expose her, Kunal literally went right to her and saved her from embarrassment and Mauli, though shocked, couldn't really do anything. I think that could be another reason why Nandani latched on to Kunal. And obvious Mauli has also been there for her physically, Nandani obviously's motive is her failed marriage. She wants a man's love and acceptance. And here's Kunal professing that to her. So from Nandani's point of view, Kunal played a bigger role in getting her out of an abusive relationship. Also, Mauli can just tell Nandani that she deserves better while Kunal could show it. During the earlier episodes she thought how crazy it is that a marriage could be this healthy and mutually respectful. From that time on, she started building the courage that oh yeah I can't stay with Rajdeep because he'll never treat me the way Kunal treats Mauli.