Mauli has her own flaws too!!!! - Page 7

Originally posted by: Jiggy7

Just because the wife is financially more stable and contributing towards a clinic, she is butchering his dream and self-respect??? Aren't they like equal partners in the marriage??? She is proving him incompetent if she supports him financially??? So how exactly Kunal will feel competent?? She should leave her job and become dependent on him financially???😆😆

Kunal could leave his job in 1 go because he trusted Mauli will have his back.. He wasn't incompetent then but righteous!!! But if Mauli takes a loan on her name to contribute in his dreams since her job is more secure, she proved him incompetent??? And this will break apart their relationship because till now Mauli has never contributed money in the household expenses right??? 🤣

If she earns and they are able to enjoy a better standard of life, then she is a supportive wife but if she decides to invest in some property to fulfill her husband's dream, she proved him incompetent??? She can earn but her husband will decide when and where it has to be invested??? Otherwise she is butchering his self-respect and dream????👏👏

Originally posted by: mango_pudding1

it is not about whether or not she has the right to gift him. it is about the surprise element. people have different yard sticks for self-respect and even within a family, we need to understand their views. if she collaborated with kunal and they discussed and she helped -- that would have been amazing.

but she is going behind his back. if he was the type of guy who likes freebies, he will say fantastic because it makes his life easier. but not everyone likes freebies. for some, they want to work hard towards their dream -- it is why they even leave their own family business and go outside to prove themselves. so thats what we are talking about. when we gift someone, we also have to think about how the person who is receiving it will also feel. sometimes, we may do it out of love but the person receiving it may feel like their dream was robbed. it may feel like they are being that they are incompetent.

also as an aside, it doesn't matter if she is earning more than him. these days, financial advisors in india ask both husband and wife to come to discuss investments -- this is even if the wife is a housewife. this is because it is recognized that husband and wife need to be on the same page financially and should have same investment goals and profile. so they will discuss with both actually or at least try to update the other spouse during the review. the days where one spouse made all the investment decisions is long gone and even within the financial services industry, that attitude has changed...

so when it comes to big financial decisions, it is unhealthy for a spouse to make all decisions themselves. research shows that spouses need to discuss together their finances and big decisions. otherwise, this will lead to cracks in marriages.

Originally posted by: Jiggy7

So what exactly is Kunal's dream??

Building a fancy clinic???

If it is so, the guy must be doing something to get that right like meeting financers or house planners??

As far as I remember, he was trying to get finance from outside in the initial episodes.. So, Mauli is financing it... How is it better if someone from outside loans u rather than ur wife financing it???

Next house planners, yes mauli has coordinated with the designer and she must have known Kunal's idea since they have been together for so long.. Even if someone's taste changes, these can be easily incorporated later...

Or Kunal's dream is to personally meet financer, house designer, carpenter and everyone else involved and so his dream is being butchered by Mauli???

As far as I guess, he wants to provide cost-effective treatment.. So, he can fulfil it at the gifted clinic and jitna sansar ka bhala karna h kar sakta h...❤️

Aur raha self-respect ka sawal.. Starting se Kunal ka jaisa character potray kia gaya hai he views Mauli as equal.. Aisa nahi ke wo kabhi sochta hai ki ye mera paisa hai wo mauli ka paisa. He even said THEY had decided to wait till clinic for having kids. THEY- Matlab for him Mauli was an integral part of the plan. He wasn't averse to taking her help in any form...

Haan ab jab clinic ki baat pata chalegi, he will be angry.. Not because self-respect hurt ho raha hai.. But isiliye q ki usse situation pe gussa aa raha hoga.. He is going away from her already.. Mauli ke har baat pai usse gussa aata h, to ye kaunsa naya cheez h??? He wants to move away from her and she is doing everything possible as a wife..

Originally posted by: DimpledGirl203

People say its wrong that mauli is surprising her hubby by gifting him a clinic on which he can build his dreams because she is doing behind his back...

What about the gift Mr. Kunal is giving to mouli's friend behind her back?🤢 oh yea right that is out of louuu..and they are destined couple...ok fine!!😆

Originally posted by: amortentia15

No one is perfect! Mauli isnt as well but she comes as close to perfection as one can in terms of integrity, honesty, responsibilty, to stand for what is right and what is not...

Financial decisions...i dont know if kunal is even thinking of his clinic anymore... Arent his thoughts hovering around Nandini all the time... He might be stupefied now if MAULI sat down to discuss logistics and finance with him...😆

I genuinely want to know whether all of her flaws as mentioned are grave enough to drive such a deep wedge as will be shown if Kunal's feelings for Nandini were not involved in the middle???...

Would he blow off the lid the same way if he still loved his wife???

Originally posted by: mango_pudding1

@amortentia15 -- actually financially stresses can create fractures enough to lead to a divorce. in fact, after every financial crisis, the amount of divorces go up and this is a phenomenon that happens across the globe. in a research study that looked at reasons for marriages breaking down, even the researchers were surprised to find that lack of discussion of finances and not being on the same page financially can lead to that kind of breaking point stress.

also, issues over respect and self-respect can also causes lots of stresses within marriage and family. and over time, it can build to a kind of indifference or even breaking apart. sometimes, an affair happens long after the marriage has entered into a war zone.

now obviously this stressors doesn't make every family to break down but it does happen in some families. so it is something that we as viewers can be aware of while discussing regardless of how we feel about these characters.