Mauli has her own flaws too!!!! - Page 6

Originally posted by: Mishfan

That's my question too. So far all we have seen is Mauli's made Kunal's dream her

Own & going all out to make it happen. But what has Kunal done??

Forget efforts, not even his thoughts towards achieving his dream has been shown.

Rather they are elsewhere 😆

Originally posted by: prerna15

Exactly! That's what I was wondering too. What is the man doing to fulfill his dream?? He's hardly even shown to work. Normally doctors are overloaded with work. But here, the doctor has nothing to do. So, he is busy falling in & out of love with women. There's an old phrase saying "an idle mind is the devil's workshop" which I think rightly applies to kunal.

Sure, Mauli is at fault for gifting him a clinic. But the poor soul is unaware that her husband's priorities have changed. Now, his only wish is Nandini. On second thoughts, I was also wondering maybe Mauli knows kunal doesn't have the capacity to build a clinic on his own. That's why she's helping him out.

I do not know about you guys but I do see him going in the morning and coming back in the evening quoting he is going to the clinic and also scenes where they have shown him in the hospital. Are you saying you want to see scenes of him treating patients? Wouldn't that be wastage of air time especially when it's not contributing to the story?

Secondly, just because he is not doing anything about his dream does not mean she should gift wrap it and give it to him. It was joint dream and should have been a joint effort. What if he does not like the location, what if he wants to open a mobi- clinic to treat children in different slums, what if he already has a location in mind and never discussed it with Mauli. She has basically taken the dream, made it her own and is fulfilling as she wants it to be done. All decisions are taken by her. Instead she would have taken Kunal to show the place instead of her MIL, things would have been different. Then they would have jointly planned, designed and fulfilled the dream and enjoyed the journey and experience the sense of achievement that would have come with it.

Also, today's episode showed that she is bossy and dominating. She choosed dare for her MIl and also the task without giving anybody a chance and even for Nandini she choosed what truth we should ask without waiting for her to make her choice.

See I am not saying that Mauli is at fault or responsible. No, whatever is happening between Nandini and Kunal is totally their responsibility, their mistake. All I am saying is that one should not become blind to a character personality just because she is an epitome of goodness.

Originally posted by: arshi_asya

That's why I said, Mauli is too naive. In a relationship, one often has to think like someone else, like your partner to understand some things. This has been a close observation of mine. Mauli doesn't want to show off but will this go out as they same. Often we work with pure intentions but they don't go out as the same & that's why sometimes we have to think, if it will be taken as how I have intended. That's why we are taught to watch out our actions because we might be doing it with no ulterior motives, but that might not go like that.

This often is a root cause of mis-understanding and clash between couples.

Besides, no one can talk about a thing called mood swings & other swings as well ( a very dangerous thing, I tell you).😆

Originally posted by: prerna15

Exactly! That's what I was wondering too. What is the man doing to fulfill his dream?? He's hardly even shown to work. Normally doctors are overloaded with work. But here, the doctor has nothing to do. So, he is busy falling in & out of love with women. There's an old phrase saying "an idle mind is the devil's workshop" which I think rightly applies to kunal.

Sure, Mauli is at fault for gifting him a clinic. But the poor soul is unaware that her husband's priorities have changed. Now, his only wish is Nandini. On second thoughts, I was also wondering maybe Mauli knows kunal doesn't have the capacity to build a clinic on his own. That's why she's helping him out.

True that
They are indeed too busy , can't get tine even to attend fucntions , it is me who end up represlenting my
husband who is s doc 😆

Originally posted by: *Reemz*

The thing is that Mauli has asked Kunal so many times to share what's going on in his mind. He always finds an excuse or brushes it off. He's lucky that he doesn't have a space invading or doubtful wife!!

How many times is she meant to ask her emotionally cheating husband without thinking the worst? The trust is too much

Originally posted by: pamk06

I do not know about you guys but I do see him going in the morning and coming back in the evening quoting he is going to the clinic and also scenes where they have shown him in the hospital. Are you saying you want to see scenes of him treating patients? Wouldn't that be wastage of air time especially when it's not contributing to the story?

Secondly, just because he is not doing anything about his dream does not mean she should gift wrap it and give it to him. It was joint dream and should have been a joint effort. What if he does not like the location, what if he wants to open a mobi- clinic to treat children in different slums, what if he already has a location in mind and never discussed it with Mauli. She has basically taken the dream, made it her own and is fulfilling as she wants it to be done. All decisions are taken by her. Instead she would have taken Kunal to show the place instead of her MIL, things would have been different. Then they would have jointly planned, designed and fulfilled the dream and enjoyed the journey and experience the sense of achievement that would have come with it.

Also, today's episode showed that she is bossy and dominating. She choosed dare for her MIl and also the task without giving anybody a chance and even for Nandini she choosed what truth we should ask without waiting for her to make her choice.

See I am not saying that Mauli is at fault or responsible. No, whatever is happening between Nandini and Kunal is totally their responsibility, their mistake. All I am saying is that one should not become blind to a character personality just because she is an epitome of goodness.

Originally posted by: arshi_asya

Disclaimer- No bashing. Criticism is welcome as long as it's not a personal attack. Talk strictly about characters only.

I have made many posts in this forum from time to time. And this time, I am compelled to make one on Mauli, on how she is a real character but flawed in her own ways and those ways are not that good either.

I will take on 3 cases here to state my opinion-

1. Mauli on Kunal's clinic- I understand that as a wife who loves her husband very much, she wants to be a n active part of Kunal's dreams. But I don't understand the whole surprise part of this clinic. Clinic is technically a building with people, machines, license and other things which usually take months to come into actual picture & Mauli plans to do it all alone for months without letting Kunal know anything. Why? Why does she not think of taking Kunal into the picture. And I don't understand Kunal's mom supporting it either. There is absolutely no harm in fulfilling the dreams together and that's exactly what husband-wife do. It's not a car or a flat or some gift, Mauli decides to buy herself and gift it to Kunal. It's the man's dream in which he should have the right to make certain calls when in process. For how long does Mauli plan to hide it from Kunal.

Makers have tried too hard to show Mauli as perfect, which is not the case in reality. I have seen married couples closely where both come together to fulfill each other's lifelong dreams rather than play surprise, surprise. Mauli decided to makes decision for Kunal when it comes to his dreams.

2. Mauli on not using contraception anymore- Considering that she has done that means Mauli wants to have a child now & Kunal doesn't know it. It means earlier Mauli was the one who took responsibility for contraception & Kunal didn't have to worry about it which makes it a consensual deal between them in contraception. Now, the deal is broken which is likely to lead to a pregnancy- wanted by Mauli but unwanted by Kunal. And I have a gut feeling that she will get pregnant & reveal the news the moment Kunal will be on the verge of taking certain decisions.

Now, Kunal's reaction to Mauli's pregnancy will be 50-50, 50 on he will be angry & want Mauli to abort the child, 50 on he will be keeping Mauli & the baby on priority.

But in this, Nandini will stand by Mauli for sure without any doubt. If Kunal gets angry for it & asks Mauli to abort the child, Nandini will the one to stand for Mauli against Kunal. Because Nandini knows what it feels like to be asked to abort your child you want dearly, she has been through the pain of loosing many of her children only because her husband didn't want them. And despite her strong feelings for Kunal, she wouldn't want her best friend to go through this pain. A motherly instinct of a woman is much stronger than wifely instinct. And Nandini will work on this. Nandini will tend to heartbroken Mauli who will be in shock when Kunal asks her to consider terminating the pregnancy.

Even if Kunal decides to choose Mauli & baby, Nandini will not become a hurdle at all.

But here is the thing, shouldn't Mauli at least discuss about starting a family with Kunal rather than getting pregnant & again play surprise-surprise. Understanding & mature couples talk before they actually get on to have the baby. Mauli is again making decision for Kunal in another important situation of husband-wife.

3. Mauli being so non-possessive about Kunal- This is what bothers me very much. I have seen very very understanding & mature couples but non of them were free of absolute possessiveness they had for their partners. There is always a tinge of jealousy, possessiveness which is good at times. Too much possessiveness and jealousy is unhealthy & toxic but the same thing in limit is very important to have a healthy relationship. Mauli is literally unconcerned with Kunal-Nandini spending so much time together. On Mauli's command/request, Kunal goes to drop Nandini, pick her up, folllow her to temple, helps her shift, pack, unpack & what not. WHY & HOW?

There is an old saying, never trust your partner(husband/wife) absolutely with another person(wife/husband) no matter how close that person is to you. (Trust must come with a pinch of salt to avoid it from becoming blind & all sweet). Human nature is susceptible to corruption & find comfort from unknown people when it doesn't find it with their dear ones. And most of the times, this old saying has proved to be true which is why it has become an oldies advice to the young generation.

I understand that Mauli has immense trust in Kunal & Nandini but shouldn't you just check it some times, if your trust is at the right place. Mauli has created a perfect world in her mind & she lives in it without realizing that reality of this world is changing. There is no harm in trusting someone that deeply, but not being bothered about your husband spending so much time with your friend who is another woman is rare. And on the top of it, Mauli pushes Kunal to spend more time with Nandini. I have also made a post on how Mauli needs to sort out her priorities at times.

I will no longer talk about what has already happened, i.e. Kunal-Nandini's realization of certain feelings and there is no turning back to that, but I want to talk about the decisions & prospects that will be taken from here.

And more I look into it, I discover Mauli's flaws. Mauli has taken on the charge of being the sole decision maker of her marriage & decide everything on behalf of Kunal herself. She tags Nandini along with her everywhere, tags Kunal along with Nandini, decides on Kunal's dreams, on her future with kids. She doesn't sense Kunal's silence at all, she isn't bothered about why her husband who used to be chirpy as hell is silent for some time now and she isn't even trying to know about it. Mauli's assumption that her marriage is perfect & needs no introspection whatsoever makes her so delusional. There are times when all you have to do is read the silence when someone is struggling with their thoughts & emotions. Communication needn't be with words only everytime, sometimes, it can happen with silence as well.

Makers have tried to show Mauli as so perfect, that people find it impossible to discover flaws buried underneath & that's why Mauli has unchallenged sympathy of everyone including me. But I can't help myself from pointing out her flaws as well. She will still have my sympathy but somewhere along, I would say Mauli failed to sense the changes brought up by sudden gush of wind.

Kunal has his flaws, Nandini has hers & Mauli also has her own faults. Marriage is a tricky thing and it needs lot of attention from various aspects to complete it's course of life.

P.S- Adhere to disclaimer before commenting.

Originally posted by: mango_pudding1

(sorry, just cutting to keeping it short as I just wanted to respond to point#1)

there is this tamil movie called "santosh subramanium" (which is a remake of a telgu movie) and in it the conflict is about an over-possessive/controlling father who does everything. he on the other hand wants to start his own business without his father's help and marry someone of his own liking -- he basically wants to make decisions himself. when he finally confronts the father, he says "you ask me to join in playing carom game but before I can make the move, you hold my hand and do it yourself. then why should I play if you are going to be making all the moves yourself?"

now that was a parent-child conflict but that sentiment and frustration would still apply here as well. mauli thinks she is helping but she is actually stealing kunal's dream and destroying it. part of the joy in realizing a dream is the hard work that goes into it. if he had asked for her help and asked her to take care of the logistics, it is different. but he didn't. so by doing it herself, she is also indirectly showing that kunal is incompetent when it comes to these matters and that is a real punch that will tear their relationship. if kunal is the type of man who likes being gifted and getting things easy, then he would appreciate it. but he seems the opposite and so he is bound to take offense. she in a way not only butchering his dream but butchering his self-respect.

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Originally posted by: Jiggy7

Just because the wife is financially more stable and contributing towards a clinic, she is butchering his dream and self-respect??? Aren't they like equal partners in the marriage??? She is proving him incompetent if she supports him financially??? So how exactly Kunal will feel competent?? She should leave her job and become dependent on him financially???😆😆

Kunal could leave his job in 1 go because he trusted Mauli will have his back.. He wasn't incompetent then but righteous!!! But if Mauli takes a loan on her name to contribute in his dreams since her job is more secure, she proved him incompetent??? And this will break apart their relationship because till now Mauli has never contributed money in the household expenses right??? 🤣

If she earns and they are able to enjoy a better standard of life, then she is a supportive wife but if she decides to invest in some property to fulfill her husband's dream, she proved him incompetent??? She can earn but her husband will decide when and where it has to be invested??? Otherwise she is butchering his self-respect and dream????👏👏

Arey Bhai mauli Jo karti hai theek hi karti hai .woh to kabhi galat ho hi nahi Sakti . galtiyan to sirf Kunal and Nandini kar sakte hain . pur Jo mauli kar ti woh hamesha theek hi hota hai

mauli kabhi nahi galat ho Sakti hai .it is only Kunal and Nandini who r always wrong
now