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Micron

@Micron

Dazzler

Posted: 13 years ago

#21

JZ ...that was very emotional and touching write-up. Felt like I was watching the episode all over again . Have been trying to distract myself from the moment I saw the episode, but failed to do so. Agree with you this was so much more emotionally draining episode.

Why don't you post this on SMJ official website

http://www.satyamevjayate.in/#SpeakUPContainer

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-Aarya-

@-Aarya-

Dazzler

Posted: 13 years ago

#22

Originally posted by: booosi
Concur with everything you pointed out about today's episode, especially your questions and concerns.

So Aamir had a disclamir today. Not sure it was there in the last episode. Its really good that he is taking all possible measures to keep the show running instead of getting into legal issues where the telecast could be halted.

This was a very emotional episode and Hats off to all the surviors👏.
The few minutes that Anuja Gupta spoke I was glued to her voice. She spoke loud, clear and precise as to what the problems were and the possible solutions, though she was there just for few minutes👏.

I am not undermining the presence of Sridevi and the happiness seen on Harish's face, but I would have loved it if they could have brought in more people like Anuja Gupta or child psychologists/psychologists or people involved with NGO's (as Kavya mentioned) and fighting child abuse.

Would have loved if they named the abuser's just like they revealed names/faces of doctors in the 1st episode. Also, hoping that the pending bill for child abuse law passes soon. Not just passing the bill, but also proper measures need to be taken for the offenders to get convicted in fast track courts.

Here's the link about fast track courts approved in Rajasthan for female infanticide cases 2 days ago for anyone who is interested.

http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2012-05-11/jaipur/31668741_1_chief-justice-rajasthan-high-court-female-feticide

Usha

I agree completely, that it's not about passing a bill but rather taking measures to address the abuse. I would highly recommend to teach your kids about basic sex education, that no one should abuse them, communicate with your child about their daily activities, and make them aware of what is right vs wrong in the sense of abuse.

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Kavya

@Bazinga

Sparkler

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Posted: 13 years ago

#23

Excellent views guys 👏. I really really want to quote each and every post and comment because each of you have brought something to the table for the discussion but I don't have the time right now :(. Hopefully, I would be able to take out an hour or two in the evening, after I get back from work, to comment on your views. I wish they would take steps to somehow involve Indians and others living abroad , not just by making this show accessible to them but also by providing a means for them to sms or vote online.

@Simi My close friend worked as a business consultant for this show, I will talk to him and see if it would be possible to extend the outreach of the show to the international audience as well.

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manupriya77

@manupriya77

Explorer

Posted: 13 years ago

#24

Liked the 2nd episode its not just a show it is the true image of our society in which we live.There is no sense of giving hi-tec digital equipments when we can't give them a peaceful ,safe and happy childhood.Yes its true we should talk to our kids regarding this so that they can make out what is good and what is bad, it is also a must that proper communication should be there between children and parents but i being a mother of two highly recommend for change in our law also guilty should be punished severely so that other criminals can get a nice lesson by that.

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Navpreet

@dimpzz

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

#25

Very well written!😊
i have somewhat same thoughts. But i guess the thing is that they cover one topic in only one episode, and that is just one and a half hour, which is actually quite less to show everything. But they should have shown it in some more detail, and also as you said they should have interacted with some NGO's and stuff. Personally even i wanna know more about the bill.

I really feel like shaking everyone up in our country and tell them to rise against it. Jail those child abusers, punish them, give them all the pain back that they caused to those children. Some of whom aren't even able to recover from those dreadful days or years they went through. We should provide them with some pro counseling, which is the only way i guess they could get over it.

In our country half of those who have suffered wouldn't even open their mouth to anyone cause they fear that they will be humiliated. The major drawback in our country is the way people think. In our country the girls are asked not be raped rather than stopping the low life's who do such sinful things!😡
lets face it more than half of the people who watched the show wouldn't have been comfortable watching it with their family.
Taking up my own example, when i was small i used to sometimes fear asking somethings from my parents even though they never said anything to me.
Now there are children whose parents don't even let them voice their opinion, so imagine if such a child goes through CSA, how will he/she voice their pain to their parents?!
and even if they do some parents do trust them while some may just avoid it saying nothing has happened child, while some may even blame the child itself.
So we need to change the way the elders think.
And children should be taught about sex education, self defense.
And in today's generation i guess the kids do really know about such stuff so we shouldn't really hesitate on talking about such stuff with them. My elder cousin sister had first talked to me about such stuff and frankly speaking i felt very awkward because no one had ever talked about such stuff with me, but the next time she told me about anything like this it felt normal. So all I'm trying to say is even if it feels weird in the beginning it'll be all fine later. I mean c'mon its better to feel a little awkward and talk about it to the kids rather than watching them suffer! isn't it?!

The basic and foremost thing is that people need to change their thinking!! it isn't the child's fault if he/she has been sexually abused! the child never went about shouting come and abuse me!! so why blame the child, instead the child needs our support to overcome it and move ahead in life
I really the liked the way cindrella said that if a person won't marry me because of what had happened with me then he doesn't deserve me!
that's the right thinking! and I'm really glad that she has moved on! i salute her for that!

I could actually go on and on about it, but right now thinking about such people who do such things, my blood boils! and I'm not able to think!

i basically want to say that to bring a change to this we first need to change the thinking of the society and that itself will make a lot of difference!

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Rich`

@cs-07

Dazzler

Posted: 13 years ago

#26

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i agree

people blame the victim rather than the abuser
when the victim retaliates she is termed characterless and a liar

its embedded in people's thinking.

i have spoken against sexual abuse to me as a child and i have been shunned in the family. my mom who supported me is one of the culprits who didnt handle the situation properly.

and the worst thing is , whether its touching, fondling or rape, everything under child abuse needs to be taken seriously. thats how the abuser gains strength to cross the limit from touching to raping a child.

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LadyMcbeth

@LadyMcbeth

Sparkler

Posted: 13 years ago

#27

Originally posted by: nirvanlove
How is SMJ going to make a differnce when people and even the educated youth is more worried abt Parivar ki izzat rather than justice or acceptance of the crime against a child. Hypocrisy is embedded in our systems and those who speak out rather face the wrath of shunning.

It may not make a huge difference to the mindset of the society. But it will make a difference to the individuals victims IMHO. Because somewhere when they see that there are survivors, that there are people out there who have shown courage to fight back and that there are people just like them who have dared to come out of that repressive situation, it may just give them hope or even the slight nudge they need to deal with their own circumstances. Also when people like Parveen from Episode 1 come to the show with a brave smile on their face, and tell other women that it is a sin not only to met out injustice, but also to be a silent victim of it - it opens many eyes! Ordinary people like to live life by example. Often they lack the courage to set an example. But when parents see shows like these, somewhere someone might be encouraged to either take their daughters back home like in Episode 1 or listen to their children in Episode 2. Society does not change overnight. But if at least one person's life changes per episode then I would say that this show has been successful.

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Rich`

@cs-07

Dazzler

Posted: 13 years ago

#28

Originally posted by: LadyMcbeth

It may not make a huge difference to the mindset of the society. But it will make a difference to the individuals victims IMHO. Because somewhere when they see that there are survivors, that there are people out there who have shown courage to fight back and that there are people just like them who have dared to come out of that repressive situation, it may just give them hope or even the slight nudge they need to deal with their own circumstances. Also when people like Parveen from Episode 1 come to the show with a brave smile on their face, and tell other women that it is a sin not only to met out injustice, but also to be a silent victim of it - it opens many eyes! Ordinary people like to live life by example. Often they lack the courage to set an example. But when parents see shows like these, somewhere someone might be encouraged to either take their daughters back home like in Episode 1 or listen to their children in Episode 2. Society does not change overnight. But if at least one person's life changes per episode then I would say that this show has been successful.

i agree
the victims in my opinion are strong .. very strong cause they tolerated shit. and i wish the abusers lament their actions too

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LadyMcbeth

@LadyMcbeth

Sparkler

Posted: 13 years ago

#29

Originally posted by: nirvanlove

i agree
the victims in my opinion are strong .. very strong cause they tolerated shit. and i wish the abusers lament their actions too

If you believe in God then know this - somewhere he is keeping an account of everything. The oppressive people will be punished for their sins. Maybe you and I will never see it happen in our lifetime, but it will happen for sure. Besides, the best way to fight back is to ensure that you live your life to the fullest without any shame or regret, and by not giving the abuser the satisfaction of knowing how much their past actions have controlled your life.

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Rich`

@cs-07

Dazzler

Posted: 13 years ago

#30

Originally posted by: LadyMcbeth

If you believe in God then know this - somewhere he is keeping an account of everything. The oppressive people will be punished for their sins. Maybe you and I will never see it happen in our lifetime, but it will happen for sure. Besides, the best way to fight back is to ensure that you live your life to the fullest without any shame or regret, and by not giving the abuser the satisfaction of knowing how much their past actions have controlled your life.

sadly am stuck even when i have moved on. the tag people give u in the end is not acceptable sometimes, not for the ego but the psyche

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