wow, when i started this thread just YESTERDAY, i didn't expect to get this much reaction nor views. i mean i have over 1000 views, i'm kinda surprised!!! thanks to all for participating in the discussion :) anyways, now on with the topic...
so, i didn't read every single response, but i have read quite a few, and here's what i have to say: once again, i do NOT think sadi is a bad person NOR do i believe being selfless is bad. also worth a mention, i said in my post, "MUCH OF IT (NOT ALL OF IT) is wrong" indicating that i'm not saying sadi is entirely wrong.
now with that being said, i would like to point out that just cause i said sadi should've asked ragi, ranvir, or alekh for help after the competition, doesn't mean i think she should've been the only to ask for help. i agree, vinu, naniji, mamaji, they could've asked for help too. but my topic isn't about them, its about sadhna.
now moving on to sadhna. like i said, i will never, NEVER find any logic as to why sadi didn't ask ragi, ranvir, or even alekh for help AFTER she lost on purpose. i had no problem with her not telling any of them BEFORE she lost, but after wards, yeah, you better believe i did. first of all she lost on PURPOSE, that too for an absolutely moronic reason. what's more important, ragi giving her pati a trophy and 5 lakh ruppes (who already btw is FILTHY RICH, that ranvir) or saving mamiji's life? ughhh, so yeah, that part annoyed me. but i still would've let it slide, if she asked any one of those people i mentioned above for help. instead, she goes asking VASU for help; who not only held a disgusting condition in front of her, but also belittled her, made her do something she absolutely did not want to do (signing the divorce papers), oh and someone who absolutely has no concern for kaushi!!! she goes and asks someone like THAT for help. it was such a foolish, FOOLISH decision to make. sadi's plea to vasu for the money, was absolutely UNNECESSARY, especially when she had so many other options in front of her!!!!! seriously, all of you people who are trying to justify her actions, what would YOU have done if you were in sadi's place? would you have done what sadi did? or would you have done what i'm saying sadi should've done, which was asking ragi, ranvir, or alekh for help instead of vasu...???? i just don't understand how anyone in their right mind could truly believe what sadi did was right.
now on to the next things: its true, sadi has no self-respect, no self-esteem, no self-pride!!!! i agree, those qualities are not good for a person to have IF they have too much of them (good example, someone like vasu), but they are necessary. if you don't have the courage to stand up for yourself, you'll end up like sadi; someone who EVERYONE walks all over, yells at, and takes advantage of. and that is what i'm saying here. don't be like that my fellow women, cause no matter how good your intentions may be, this world is cruel, and it is necessary to put your foot down when needed, or else, this cruel world will take advantage of you just like it did to sadi!!!! though i will admit, sadi slowly, VERY slowly, but surely has started to show signs of standing up for herself, she certainly has a long, LONG way to go.
anyways, now lastly, i would just like to say that, i think many of you here are misunderstanding me. i don't, even for a second, doubt sadi's goodness. i know she's a very kind-hearted, good-natured person, and believe me, i love that about her. but at the same time, i want her to have self-respect and be able to stand up for herself. why do you all think i ask this of her, because i don't want to see her in pain anymore. i'm not saying she become selfish like kaushi, or vasu, etc. but at the same time, i want her to put her foot down when needed. cause if she doesn't, there'll be a LOT more pain ahead of her. and that is exactly why i'm saying all this about her, because i love sadi, and i don't wanna see her in pain anymore. and to finish it all of, just wanna say that: sadi is NOT perfect, therefore she definitely can and is wrong at times, so to whoever sadi, "SADI CAN NEVER BE WRONG", i completely disagree with you my friend.
Anupamaa
