What is SNS teaching us - Page 2

Originally posted by: pyaaribehna

About the men all of them in one word.

They are all on "stand by" They only come in when "required"

Their "work" is to just look on. When every kind of commotion is going on in Modi Bhavan

The show revolves around the women. Kokila the loud "announcer" and Gopi the doormat cum "killer" (See I relapse into talking about the women)

Ahem : He is the most vociferous male member of the show. Unfortunately for the wrong reasons.

One cannot decipher his character. He was rude crude angry everything to Gopi ( I saw the show only from the time he was angry with Gopi after he married her so...) And at that time Gopi (the other Gopi) was going gaga after Ahem. It used to irritate me. Ahem was most rude to Gopi partly because he loved someone else partly because Gopi was illiterate. The bloke did not know that Gopi was more than what he deserved in life. At that time Gopi used to sleep with her head covered on the ground when Ahem used to sleep up in the cot. He dared to love but did not dare to materialize his love. And to Gopi he did not have even a fraction of compassion for the orphan that she was. Gopi was treated worse than a servant. When Rashi wore a normal saree Gopi used to go around in tradional attire with pallu covering her head. Not that it is wrong. But it was Ahem who used to glare at her when her pallu fell off her head even by mistake. (Actually when I started watching the show Gopi (gia manek) had just come back from "maike" when baa was visiting from gaon. and the story started from there. )

Ahem knew only one thing in life to be rude to Gopi. what right he had I do not know. and Rashi and Urmila used to make a fool out of Gopi just for fun.

Kinjal was rude to Dhaval as well. And Gopi idiotic as she was used to ogle Ahem and go gaga over him while he was as rude as hell. So what does that tell us? Be rude to your wife the unfortunate one who married you thinking everything would be well. Dare to love a girl but do not have the courage to marry her. Marry an unfortunate girl your crude insensitve mother's choice and ill treat the girl because you think you are too good. Did you have the courage to refuse to marry the girl? No . You only know how to make her already miserable life more miserable. Have one set of rules for your wife and another set for the girl you "loved" (meaning the one you went around before marriage)

Ahem was rude even after he made up with Gopi. I have watched for a long time he was stern with Gopi even after Meera was born. Never had a one to one relationship always the bullying pati.

For Jigar I have nothing to say except he does not have much to say at any time except yesterday when he yelled at Paridhi. It is excusable since he is on "standby" They all are.

As for Parag Chirag bhai they are on standby as well. Ahem ke pappa what he does for a living I do not know. The motto write shairies and never never speak up to your wife. Get brow beaten every day. And listen to taunts about not being the active earning member or the "doing busines" member

Jigar ke pappa for him he is supposed to have taught Ahem "business" looks retired now. Motto have nothing to say all the time.Understandable since they are on "standby" at any time.

Dhaval motto keep quiet at any time. be it your wife or fai. (of late his "loyalty" and affection to Urmila is puzzling. Agreed she brought him up but he knows she does chori and she does golmaal of all sorts. Yet do not know why he slapped his wife for the sake of his fai. . No matter what the wife does slapping is not justified.

(Still I guess it is "necessary" for the story. )

So chup chaap sehente raho all kinds of nonsense from your wife or fai.

And yes I forgot to add what we learn from Dhaval more than anything else. Make endless rounds to your maike for ten years every day just to see your wife and plead with her to return home

Never mind you do not have much to offer except a "gone mad" fail saas who was unbearable when she was sane but now has become utterly unbearable and irritating

No wonder Kinjal never came back Yahi to problem hain. Urmila's paagal naatak. In spite of knowing fai since childhood Dhaval was not able to recognise that she is doing naatak.

Well what do these characters "teach" us? confusing a bit. a bunch of things. Being rude to your unfortunate wife . Look on helplessly when your wife is vociferous. stay quiet and as bystanders at all times . etc etc.

There are some male members who do not teach us anything. Like Jayantibhai (forgot his surname) and Jitubhai Shah.

He is Jayantibhai Kapadia.

Jitubhai of course cannot teach us anything because his wife does not leave him anything to teach us. She takes up his full time.

Of late he has gone gayab. don't know his whereabouts. Jayantibhai (no offense meant) I cannot understand why he is dressed up differently from the rest of the male cast.

Originally posted by: sharoon3210

SNS only teaches deceit, hypocrisy, plotting against one own sister/cousin sister, blaming others without proof or limited knowledge about the cause for the bad incident, getting jealous of ones own sister, kidnapping, murder, shouting, abusing, insulting, hiding the facts from children, lying to the children about their own mother, manhandling the kids, Raksha bandhan gift restriction & being a doormat to MIL & husband.

Originally posted by: MADHYAMAVATHI

SNS has taught that you should bear all insults and hardships and yet be loyal to your husband and saasu ma like Gopi. Control the household with your loud mouth even if you are not the eldest or the head of your family like Kokila. Bring your own enemy into your house and bear all that is meted out to you in the name of reforming(?) like Modi family did with Radha. I still cannot fathom till today how and why did the Modi family have Radha in their house for so long and that too when her sister who is her only link with the family was not there. Even her parents were shameless to leave her there instead of keeping her with them. And they all pamper Rashi Jr as though she is heavens gift to them. Frankly speaking Rashi Jr is an unwanted child and occurred by mere accident. But when she grows up and does murder plotting not once but many times just like her mother, the family instead of scolding or punishing her are pacifying her saying that she is a very good girl. What sort of an impression that child will get. That she can get away with anything and her Kokila baa and Gopi maa are there to protect her. And why is Paridhi standing all this. She can just leave for her maike instead of making empty threats.

Originally posted by: pyaaribehna

Beautifully summed up. So very true. Just want to add "unlimited slapping" on the cheeks, not understanding or insensitive to other's feelings, fraud , golmaal , crude insensitive behaviour, no understanding capacity and crude, cruel oppressive behaviour

Originally posted by: sharoon3210