Sometimes "Being Understanding" is more important than being Right
Sometimes we need not a brilliant mind that speaks but a patient heart that listens...
Not keen eyes that always see faults but open arms that accept.
Not a finger that points out mistakes but gentle hands that lead...
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Understanding is always a two way street, especially in relationships...you can never understand other one without seeing things from his/her perspective...as understanding the other one is first step to acceptance, only with acceptance can there be recovery... Acceptance of not just person as an individual...but acceptance of point of view of other person ...merely an acceptance of fact, that there can be an another perspective to a particular situation...can also be beneficial...which will eventually lead to stage of mutual understanding...which proves to be the most important & defining factor of relationships.😊😊😊
In relationships its easy to trust someone, easier to break that trust...but rebuilding that trust is something most difficult...its same for understanding too...its easy to understand, easier to misunderstand...we can always easily come to know when the other person is wrong...but it depends on our understanding , our trust on other person that will define how easily & instantly we understand or misunderstand the person...😊😊
More than Kabir seeking forgiveness, or Ananya forgiving him, accepting him back...two of them needs to reach a stage of mutual understanding where they will end up understanding each other without even saying anything...as you can never judge the person without understanding reasons behind his/her action...
All along Kabir had understood reason behind Ananya's every action...though at this stage as a fangirl may be I wud not support Kabir for just being all melting & soft on Ananya ...but for a while if I keep fangirl aside & see in broader perspective Kabir is not wrong anywhere in being all understanding of Ananya...
Kabir realizes & understands, what a daughter is going through...whatever Ananya had done to him...whatever she said to him , He cud understand from where she was coming from...His understanding shows his maturity ...& with due time it will be Ananya's turn to be understanding of him, understanding of his actions... No one is perfect , & that is why "Understanding" is more than important...Its for Ananya to realize that if she trusts & accepts back Kabir, she will have to make sure that in future, if in any situation, even if she finds Kabir is wrong, even then atleast once she will have to give a chance to see things from his perspective too...She doesn't need to have "aankhein band karke yakeen" on Kabir...infact even Kabir doesn't accept that from Ananya (nor do I 😆😆 as it itself is too difficult to blind trust anyone)...but he just expects Ananya to have that little "understanding" to not to "misunderstand" him without reason...
Ananya had been brave enough to trust him with closed eyes... but that doesn't give her right to misunderstand him with open eyes...😆😆😆 If she can be strong enough to accept Kabir with all his flaws & his weakness...his past baggage...& she can have a big heart to accept Kabir even after him confessing about ONS...I can expect Ananya to be understanding of Kabir, even after everything happened...more than Ananya's bomb sequence sacrifice...her understanding Kabir, & her support for Kabir after revelation is only one thing which gives me a little ray of hope & sakaratmakta from Ananya's side 😊😊😊
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I can describe whole episode in just one sentence "No Sorry No Thank You" from Kashyap women...,not even their favorite word "ehsaan"...no personal offence & not trying to hurt a daughter & wife's emotions...😆😆 but deep down fangirl was jumping in joy seeing both ladies bolti band... jokes apart, can understand it wud have been an emotional moment for both of them, & when Kabir finally manages to complete his "praschit" hope it will be enouh for Kashyap women to allow Kabir to live in peace, without any guilt & taunts...😊😊😊 practically now I don't care if they forgive & forget him...as long as Kabir gets successful in his "sach ki ladai"...it will be a perfect befitting reply to both ladies & it will even wash off his guilt personally too...😃😃
Heart went out to Kabir, all throughout he was waiting for atleast one good remark in his "Ankpatra" 😆😆😆 & everytime he looked at Ananya his eyes seemed to ask only one question "whether she still thinks him as wrong...is he still a liar"😆😆😆...throughout he has those puppy dog eyes 🤗...in place of Ananya...anyone else wud have just melted like chocolate😆😆😆 ... but can understand a daughter & wife will take their own sweet time to say Kabir is a "good boy"...😆😆😆
Oh by the way, wanna say Thank You, to late Sasurji 😛😆😆...for being smart enough to not only trust Kabir...but also smarter to mention it in his "handwritten" letter that he "trusts Kabir" both ladies face was worth watching that time ...🤣 I literally cracked up in such intense scene😆😆😆...atleast it will help Kabir in getting a +1 in his "Ankpatra" from Kashyap women...hope either of ladies tubelight clicks...😆
For sure the"handwritten letter RG ko saza dilane ke liye kaafi nahi hai"...but keeping my fingers crossed atleast ...letter will be useful for Kabir😈 Sudhir's words of appreciation his "poora bharosa on Kabir" will prove to be eye opener for Kashyap women...😆 & more than anything Kabir wud be sighing in relief...atleast now "hopefully" he will not have to bear any public humiliation or taunts from either of ladies.😆😆😆 ...no wonder Kabir was content "tum mere saath ho, yahi mere liye kaafi hai"...😆😆😆 he wud have sighed in relief 😆😆😆
As I expected Dada apologized, when it should have been the other way round...😆😆😆& fangirl "what a relief" moment"😆😆😆 that what I feared didn't turned true & it was just Dada who apologized & not Kabir...glad to see he didn't melted at very first moment...though eventually he melted & gave in to Ananya's request... & throughout he was love sick puppy😆 ...but I am ready to accept that, as long as Kabir doesn't apologize...but fangirl in me wished he had been a little more "stern" 😛😉😆in refusing Ananya's help & joining him...I just loved Kabir in the moment "Chaliye Dada"...wish Ananya hadn't stopped him...😆😆coz her one call & Lover Kabir overtook every other emotion...😆😆😆 I am sure insides he wud have breaked into a hula dance, ..
his ex-fiance is talking to him, ready to work with him... "mann mein ladoo phoot rahe the"😆😆😆
Kabir is keeping positivity, that ex fianc professionally maan gayi hai, personally bhi maan jaegi...😆😆So he is just content with fact girl is ready to work with him...can only wish lover boy all the good luck that he manages to manaofy his ex fianc... 😆😆😆
Infact for Kabir I am sure he will fulfill his promise, "main hi manata rahunga"...from his perspective I know he didn't minded any of Ananya's accusation, her hurtful comments, her slap...for him she is still same Ananya who can "die for him"...& he still loves her unconditionally & for him his love hasn't changed inspite of everything happened...& somewhere I guess Kabir didn't minded any of her actions & words as all these years he had been living in guilt...& he understood a daughter's hurt & pain...an ex fiance's betrayal too...😃😊😊
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Understanding & misunderstanding is what defines their relationship...Kabir summed up better through his jaane se pehle, "kis ko na samajhne mein aur galat samajhne mein "itna-sa" fark hota hai"...& dats what Kabir Ananya relationship has been all about, where at every stage Kabir happens to understand Ananya be it sooner or later...but in crisis situation its always been Kabir who made efforts to sort out of mess😊😊...but unfortunately he doesn't get same understanding from Ananya...though after a while she understands, but in crisis situation her first reflex reaction is to "misunderstand" Kabir...
Hope current situation works as a learning experience for either of them...more for Ananya, like Kabir had said days back "jaise jaise time paas hoga, ek dusre ko samajhne lagenge, jaan ne lagenge...har baar galti karke, zindagi bhar ke liye tabhi seekhenge jab unhe dohraenge nahi" .....instead of analyzing & comparing who have been more wrong b/w them, at this stage both have done mistake"Kabir by hiding the truth...& Ananya by being not asking Kabir the "reason"...& not giving chance to Kabir to explain himself.😊😊
I know I am being too hopeful, but from Ananya am still expecting a self realization from her, 😊😊 there is no hurry she can always do same,😛😆 after this whole Sudhir Kashyap mess sorts out...for that it needs to be sorted out soon...guess dats why CVs brought two of them work together😆😆😆 ...so Ananya has enough time to think over...
Wud like to see Ananya pondering over Kabir & her relationship...what exactly she thinks about their relationship...infact beyond just question which Richa raised "Tu ab Kabir se pyaar nahi karti?"... its not about love or not love...& its not as simple lets do "batti again" ...things are much beyond, this time matter is too serious...😊
Infact Kabir needs to be subtle in his manaofying session, no need to just fall at her feet & beg for forgiveness ...😆😆😆 & I wud say same for Ananya too, no need to just have "aankhein band karke yakeen" all over again just because Kabir gave her the letter, or he will be going to help her with the case...Both need to give time to each other to cope up & let come out of this phase...eventually she will give in on her own...
Both of them have gone through a lot & will be going through a lot in coming days...So, I don't care & neither expect any kind of apology from Ananya, but for her benefit its important for Ananya to take out time & try to find answers to few question:
--What kind of future she sees for two of them...Whether she will be able to "love" Kabir the same way all over again...
--Will she be ever be able to trust him again...
--Will everytime , in every situation will it be Kabir who will be understood wrong, & at every stage, every opportunity he will have to prove himself right... coz its just not just about this one moment, this one situation...in future many such situations will arise where Kabir will have to act according to situations, He might have to hide or lie about certain things if a situation demands...Will it be always Ananya being perceptive...& Kabir have to go through whole roothna manana process everytime...
Without a self realization Ananya's apology or accepting Kabir back will mean nothing but a pity or sympathy...😔 its important for Ananya to realize where their relationship is exactly lacking??...what exactly had been the thing which she regrets more "Trusting Kabir easily" ...or "Not trusting Kabir enough" or not giving him a chance...Its for her to realize that more than knowing that Kabir lied, it was important for her to find out "why" Kabir lied, instead of being all accusing of him...she had full rights to be angry on Kabir, but only after knowing all the facts & things related to her dad's murder...
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Shreya darling no doubts you are"too smart" ...but problem for you is that person you are dealing with is named Kabir Sharma😳😳...& when he deals with you "khuda bachaye aapko"...😆😆😆
All the best Manav bhai, a fangirl warning for you...beware of your team partner...😆😆😆for once even Kabir & everyone will forgive you...but Shreya will at no stage gonna help you...abhi bhi waqt hai team badal lo...😆😆😆& if my keeda of him in being Kabir's team is true...then you are playing very smoothly Manav...co editor ki kursi appki...pakka...😆
Glad to see Kabir & Ananya's friends teaming up together...hope like expected Kabir whole planning & plotting will be successful...I trust Kabir's strategic planning,😉😳 he is quite experienced in planning out things strategically...😳😳😛
It was delight to see "delhi ka Launda" Ronnie's face off with Manav bhai...all through 116 episodes have seen his sweet, emotional, friendly side.😆😆..it was good to see Ronnie's mean side too...glad to know that when situation demands he can be a "ghaag" too...or may be its Kabir's ghaagness effect...😆😆😆
Richa ji, glad to see this 360 degree change in you...& you coming in full support of Kabir...it has literally tables turned moment...previously it had been Ananya supporting Kabir & Richa against him ...now its reversed... 😆😆😆
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Can only wish all the best to daughter that she gets successful in her "maksad" & all the best to my hero that he gets successful in his "Prashchit" ...& in the process might also get what he is desiring for...& gets his happiness he wishes for...& have a guilt free & most importantly an "Understanding" future ahead.😆😆
Goodluck to my hero!!!
p.s."eagerly awaiting for my Kabir at news desk !!!
p.p.s"Humble request Kabir, please don't "beg" for forgiveness...😆😆😆you can marofy as much makhan 😆😆😆& manaofy your ex fianc as much as you want...I have no problems ...but it wud break my heart to seeing you down on knees & asking for forgiveness...😭😭
This one for Kabir :...😆😆.even if at this stage he gets forgiven ...it can happen to him...so be prepared😆😆😆
Panga liya hai life mein ..."Bhugto" 😆
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Never choose me without Understanding
Never lose me because of misunderstanding...
I may b wrong sometime ...somewhere...
But not every time, everywhere..!!
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Aur, Jaane se pehle...
Miss Kashyap, just because fangirl being all understanding & all sweet on you...iska matlab yeh nahi hai ki fangirl aapke saath hai or fangirl has forgiven you 😆😆😆kyunki yeh "Kabir ki Khushi ka matter hai" .😆😆...isliye fangirl aapka saath degi...😆😆😆humara equation bhi professionally rahega 😆😆😆 personal relationship pe koi asar nahi padega...fangirl is still Katti with you & rahegi 😆😆😆
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Episode 117
September 28,2015
Cricket
Ye Hai Mohabbatein
