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"To regret one's own experiences is to arrest one's own development. To deny one's own experiences is to put a lie into the lips of one's own life. It is no less than a denial of the soul."
Oscar Wilde, De Profundis
Oscar Wilde, De Profundis
Edited - I am very sorry but it seems perhaps I wasn't clear enough with my writing. I am not talking about not forgiving or forgiving Mala, I do not hate her nor do I love her. All I am saying is that she looks disconnected with her surroundings and I do believe that she should be given a chance to be heard by Rudra.
After I watched the show I feel the one who seemed the most disconnected with everything is Mala. I have said many times in my own posts and others that I am absolutely not going to judge her, I have not heard her side and to pass any kind of premature judgement at this stage will be incorrect.
When I think of Mala I think of a nave girl, although, we all know that Mala is not a girl she is a grown woman I meant her mentality. In the precap and also whilst watching the show seemed like she was abused. If that's the case good on her that she left. But even if that wasn't the case I am fine that she left because she fell out of love. What my question is how can a mother be so disconnected with the damage that has obviously been caused to the boy?
If a woman is abused I am sure in this day and age no one will find her at fault. I am sure it is even promoted in villages too. From the precap Dilsher seemed to have both legs and looked all right, not quiet Tejawat's level but okay. Wasn't he the one who wanted to marry Mala? then why the anger?
Mala seems like didn't catch a break when she left Dilsher. From aggressive abuse she moved on to passive abuse and that only was realised when she saw the hubby in real live situation. Why didn't she take her child with her though? Did Dilsher hated Mala but loved Rudra and thought Mala will never leave him? so when she did the unthinkable and did left the leftover poision was transferred over to Rudra?
But if it was abuse then Mala you should have by hook or crook by force or anything should have removed Rudra from Dilsher. She had the means when she moved on and she has gone against her husband number 2's wishes before as well.That is one thing I am not able to reconcile. She didn't tell Tejawat about bringing the boy back until he was an adult who doesn't need to actually live with parents. That bothers me a lot on many levels.
That's why I am assuming is Mala lives in denial. Even when she came back and I get it she is trying to blend in she still seems that Rudra anger's is not that serious. I find Dilsher very selfish in this situation. He knows Rudra's state of mind. More than Paro its Dilsher who knows the extent of the damage to his psyche because he was the one who planted the seed and watered it so it became a tree. Why is Dilsher not sitting down and settling the score? of course the matter is between husband and wife but a child was also involved.
Mala seems to think all will be well at home but what about hubby number 2? shouldn't you be atleast giving a thought to him? I am very confused right now and hope the Cvs show me some plausible story because if I get I was abused so I ran away and now am back I will be severely disappointed. There is no groundwork to begin with but am hoping eventually something will make sense.
Mala is in denial that son hates her to the extent he shows, Dilsher is in denial that Rudra has issues, Paro is trying but unfortunately poor girl can only do so much.
I really really hope that I get to see a proper Mala story. Honeymoon can happen after that but please sort this really weird dish you have created CVs because I am not the only one who will be upset if you stuffed up this baby.
As usual healthy discussion is appreciated.
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