Right or Wrong? - Edited - Page 3

Originally posted by: DiyaS

Great post, Vibha ... and great takes, Kate and KhushiParo.

I'm feeling the same disconnect ... I was all for forgiving Mala ... maybe not forgiving, at least listening to her side of the story. But Mala's actions and Dilsher's silence are dragging too long.

Mala ... trying to look at things from her POV ... she was in an abusive relationship ... she wanted to leave. She wanted to take Rudra with her ..She was thrown out, and not allowed to take him ... till this point, understandable.

She called Danveer a week later to check on Rudra. Probably this was to check that Rudra was not facing the brunt of Dilsher's anger. From Rudra's fbs, it seems Dilsher only abused Mala in private ... Rudra has no flashbacks of either his father hitting or getting angry with his mother ... and more important, none of Dilsher being angry or violent with him , till the point Dilsher dragged him out of the haveli, when he wanted to stay.

So did Mala feel that Rudra was safe with Dilsher ... at least till the time she found a place to stay and try to get him? And when she met Tejawat, and he gave her support, she returned to find Rudra ... but by then Dilsher had taken Rudra away.

But then, how is it she didn't tell Tejawat anything about her past, or the fact that she had a child? Major disconnect here.

Dilsher and Rudra were untraceable for fifteen years ... did Mala even try to trace them? We know Danveer kept in touch with Dilsher, kept trying to call him ... but Dilsher never took his calls ... that was shown in one of the earliest episodes. But Mala was married to an even more powerful man, could she not try to trace Dilsher and Rudra through Tejawat's network? Did Dilsher drag Rudra from city to city, whenevr he felt that Mala could trace him? We need to see all this, to show any sympathy for Mala at all ...

The biggest disconnect with her character is that she seems to have forgotten about her son for fifteen years.

Dilsher ... is a little more understandable ... but I agree with Kate ... his volte face has been too sudden and abrupt. Not talking about now ... but about since his return to the haveli. He was bitter until Rudra's posting to Birpur ... we saw Rudra return to get him and the father-son exchange was still caustic and bitter, with Dilsher remembering Mala's eyes, and saying he hated his son because he saw Mala's eyes everyday in his face.. So how did he suddenly change and melt overnight? It was not due to Paro ... he barely saw her, he has been good to her since the beginning ... IMO, that's the point they should have shown Dilsher's gradual change of heart ... they rushed that part completely ... as also his realisation as to the damage he has done to Rudra. If that had been slower, then his current turnaround to Mala would be a little more understandable.

I understand why he's called Mala back ... he heard Rudra and Paro's account of how Rudra chewed out Mala in the BSD office and hospital ... he sees how much anger Rudra still has towards Mala ... but does he realise that can impact Rudra-Paro's relationship and Rudra's future? And is that why he asked Paro to bring Mala back? Again, viewers need to SEE this ... it's all very well showing events from Rudra's pov, but since his pov is currently very imbalanced, it affects how we see all the other characters, and prevents any sympathy building up for them. Right now, we're only seeing Rudra's POV ... and his POV is CONFUSED ... and therefore, so are the viewers.

And agree with you, Vibha ... Mala is in denial about how damaged her son is ... Dilsher is in denial about how much of the damage HE has caused ... and hence needs to repair ... both of them need to sit down and talk to Rudra about what went wrong between them. It may not make Rudra forgive either of them ... it may not make him WANT to forgive either of them ... but between them, the two have messed up Rudra completely ... and if they don't want their actions to impact his future, they need to tell him the full story.

Originally posted by: ttt1

hey vibha

speculation aside lets see what we know about mala and not as rudra's mother

she was in a loving relationship ,after moving on from a bad /old one , she lived like a queen until a month earlier , then suddenly she loses all that she had including her loving husband , she was kept like a captive , too much to tackle , more than anyone has ever faced in the show

including rudra , apro and dilsher

because it was her most precious relationship , her loving husband who did all those atrocities to her , now she has no where to go , she is back in her old house which is not her house any more (i think even in mala's heart except for rudra she is very clear its not her house the feeling of belonging is not there , that will not change )

so what is this woman there for , what is her idea for life or living , nothing at all , i dont see any hope , she will obviously be disconnected

on one hand when we justify rudra's anger by saying about the mis happening in his life , cant we give mala the same chance too , irrespective of whether the decision to leave her son or her husband was right or wrong the woman has suffered , and she would need time to bounce back , more so because she doesnt have a thing to feel good about her , or about her actions

therefore , on one hand if this was real case , considering the situation she had to face i will leave it to her to take her time to tackle , though i would want her to address the issue with her son herself

Originally posted by: farheen75

I don't think anyone of them is in denial infact they all r playing their part well and by this I mean that mala is playing the victim card and dilsher the save himself first card and in all this the brunt had been borne by their child rudra... all the past scenes have strongly pointed to an abuse track and I have got a feeling that mohini was directly involve in that abuse, she played both the husband and wife to get the desired result for herself, which was the property for herself, wilth mala gone and an enraged dilsher out of the way she was the queen of everything in their absence hence her drama now to get rid of them again.

Mala left bcz her sister must have shown her that eloping is the only way to get rid of the abuse and after being abused that's the blessing she must have been waiting for and she took the chance, initially she kept in contact with danveer but when he told her that both father and son duo left she just accepted it and moved on in life with thakur considering that she came out of an abusive relationship so life with thakur was bliss for her and she just assumed that her son will alright with his dad.

Similarly with dilsher it was easy to pin the blame on the wife who ran away and make her a villain rather than portraying himself as a villain, most of the men like this so dilsher is not an exception and now he is too scared to tell rudra the truth bcz he knows that all anger and bitterness will be diverted towards him and he really doesn't want this.

all in all they both acted for their own benefit rather than thinking what damage they were doing to their innocent child.

Originally posted by: ttt1

i got your point vibs , in the original post itself ,and i agree too, this was my interpretation of mala , why i think she is disconnected

some pretty important work here , will be back 😊

tc

Originally posted by: farheen75

I don't think anyone of them is in denial infact they all r playing their part well and by this I mean that mala is playing the victim card and dilsher the save himself first card and in all this the brunt had been borne by their child rudra... all the past scenes have strongly pointed to an abuse track and I have got a feeling that mohini was directly involve in that abuse, she played both the husband and wife to get the desired result for herself, which was the property for herself, wilth mala gone and an enraged dilsher out of the way she was the queen of everything in their absence hence her drama now to get rid of them again.

Mala left bcz her sister must have shown her that eloping is the only way to get rid of the abuse and after being abused that's the blessing she must have been waiting for and she took the chance, initially she kept in contact with danveer but when he told her that both father and son duo left she just accepted it and moved on in life with thakur considering that she came out of an abusive relationship so life with thakur was bliss for her and she just assumed that her son will alright with his dad.

Similarly with dilsher it was easy to pin the blame on the wife who ran away and make her a villain rather than portraying himself as a villain, most of the men like this so dilsher is not an exception and now he is too scared to tell rudra the truth bcz he knows that all anger and bitterness will be diverted towards him and he really doesn't want this.

all in all they both acted for their own benefit rather than thinking what damage they were doing to their innocent child.

Originally posted by: ttt1

@vibha

i dont think mala is playing the vixtim too , i think she is a victim irrespective of whether she did right or wrong