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Deepthi

@Beauceant

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Posted: 11 years ago

Right now all of us hate Laila for coming between Rudra and Paro and creating all kinds of trouble for them and may be even for just existing.. But there is one question that disturbs me through this entire business.

Ever since Laila has seen Rudra getting close to Paro she has been an absolute b**ch going to any extent to separate them and get him back. But just go back to any random day or night of the eight years they spent together. Rudra himself confesses that he went to her to forget his pains, she was his support system in whatever twisted way. She put herself in risk to be his spy and accepted what ever tid bits he threw her way without much fuss. As a woman from rural Rajasthan she would have also have found it difficult to accept the kind of relationship Rudra wanted but she did it, for him. Despite all this he never felt anything for her in all these eight years. And she did not show an evil side till confronted with Rudra's relation to Paro.

Paro, on the other hand, has been a suspect in his eyes from the very begining of their acquaintance. He suspected her of being a terrorist's accomplice, then his father's attempted murderer and then for sabotaging his job.But still when she is proven innocent of these, he has an emotional bond with her.

My question is-

Why does Rudra who remained emotionally detached from Laila for eight years fall for Paro in, say, eight weeks?

Is it the age old male attitude that for a tumble in the bed anyone will do, but ultimately whenit comes to settle down find a pure and innocent soul?

Or is it just his personality trait- a consequence of his past?

I know we can just say Paro Rudra bond is beyond all these things etc.. But,

Why did he never feel an emotional bond to the woman he spent eight years with?

(Please forget Ankita's acting while considering this, just consider the character Laila.)

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incandescent

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Posted: 11 years ago

Unres...

Interesting question.

Whether or not Rudra adheres to the age old of belief, is something only Rudra knows till now, so until Rudra voices it, I am going to give him the benefit of doubt.

The way I see it, theirs was a relationship with terms and conditions. No promises were made. There was no affection from Rudra's side to begin with. The only thing that was there was desire. He was seeking for a release and he found it with Laila. He went there every night, found comfort and even talked about his mother, when he couldn't talk about it with anyone else. He found it easy to talk to her because she has no connection with his life, his family.

There has to be reasons beside physical attraction to fall in love with someone and that could be any one or a combination of things. Common interests, respect, admiration...I am stating a few things that comes to mind right now.

The relationship was always about Rudra...what he wanted...what he needed...and Laila provided that. It was never about THEM...never about her. Whatever I have understood about Laila, she was all for pleasing Rudra...that's the only thing that mattered to her. At some point, she fell for him, but what did she do about it? Did she ever talk about herself?...did she ever want Rudra to be the listener for a change...I doubt it. I don't see how the relationship could have evolved from Rudra's side.

Even when she fell in love with him (although I think it's obsession)...she was never assertive. She was happy to be in the no-strings attached relationship...she was happy with her status as his mistress. Even though she desired for more and dropped hints, she never really stood up for herself, until Paro came into the picture. She would have continued with their arrangement.

From Rudra's POV he doesn't owe her anything. He never made any false promises.

As for why he fell for Paro? Well, it started off with attraction...but then it evolved. He really fell for the person that is Paro. She managed to strike a chord with him which Laila failed to so. It's not that he didn't feel anything for her in eight years. He did say that he considered a friend, but nothing more than that.

I don't really feel sorry for Laila because she knew what she was getting into. She isn't a victim, she wasn't cheated.

And I doubt Laila might have found it difficult to accept this kind of relationship. It was always implied that she was a promiscuous lady.

Edited by incandescent - 11 years ago

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Erika

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Posted: 11 years ago

I think its about her challenging him and ultimately a sort of physical attraction that had nothing to do with love to begin with.😉

Where as that other woman gave in to him of her own free will rather quickly, since they knew each other for eight years and had a sexual relationship for the same amount of time, she did not challenge him, but rather fell in with his plan. We can't say because she is from a rural area that means that she must not have wanted such a relationship to begin with, there is no indication of this to date in the screenplay.

So I have no sympathy for her, but it appears from my point of view after looking at the episode again for a third time, that the hero does care for the other woman, he seems conflicted about her love for him. So perhaps she did penetrate his exterior stone layer in that eight years after all.😉

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Geo

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Posted: 11 years ago

u can have only one soul mate all others are just time pass.

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SanzBarbie

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Posted: 11 years ago

I would say it's the age old male attitude that anyone will do in bed but a wife has to be pure and chaste !!

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rehann

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Posted: 11 years ago

Hmmm... why? Nice question...
it's quite cliche or not if i answer it with 'love it what it is... n paro is the one... not Laila even if she spend another 10 year wiith rudra..' but in our reality nothing is that deep... it just how actually the relation from start... for him... they already made some 'MOU' that they just having some 'body' business nothing related to any 'dil' business... or 'tum mere aur main tera' crap...
i'm girl but sorry depth i'm in rudra side for this case. i would say rudra guilty but not fully as how he was before... he never had any 'dil' before.. n for people that repent... that what important to be a human... but still he have to bear something for his entire life.. Karma! Every of our sin come with karma that what i believe... n now it's started already...

n for Laila?she already wrong to accept such benam rishta... n now even worst when she broke the MOU and come with tum mere aur main tera crap... like what kareena dialogue in aitraaz... even i'm woman but when any woman behaved like this... i'm aitraaz!
people will call us s**t if we behave like s**t... that what matter for a human... please love urself before ask anyone to love u... n logically will any guy marry some bar girl that they just want her for fun n she also behave like one... without any commitment? Reality always sound bitter

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StripePurple

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Posted: 11 years ago

The most correct answer to your very valid questions would be: Desi Soap Logic. Where the woman who is portrayed as the true soul-mate has to be some or the other devi ka roop. Chaste, sacrificial/accommodating, one-man woman who will sometimes become Durga/Chandi to deal with the villain. I don't remember the last time I saw a heroine on a Hindi soap who is genuinely flawed in the same vein as dark, intense heroes like Rudra are. A female character of this type is always the vamp of the Laila-mould- who is either completely Westernised, and/or is sexually aware/active. What we find hot in the hero is condemnable in the heroine. Hypocritical but it's a fact borne out on all these shows.

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Navin

@napstermonster

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Posted: 11 years ago

I would skip past the obvious responses of divine love and previously ordained recognition of soul mates and go to what I think is at the inherent core of this relationship--

Protector and Innocent.

I doubt if the issue was even that of Parvati's virginal status or her admittedly knockout beauty. The issue is that of her vulnerability, and his ability and his need, to protect that vulnerable woman. The man is trained to protect. It is bred into him, as a member of the army, as Dilsher's son who has had to watch over an alcoholic father, has had to feed him and take even his parent around with him everywhere. The profession he has chosen serves this need in Rudra--the need to be needed, to be the one who is trusted by others to protect and defend. She appeals to him from the second he sees her, in his rear view mirror, as a helpless, terrified innocent about to be attacked. From that point, every time he sees her, it is in a situation that needs him to intervene--whether she knows it or not.

And the fact she is unaware of her danger makes him even more rabid when it comes to protecting her--because her innocently walking into fire undermines HIM, his duty to her, to her safety. He takes his "job," any thing he undertakes to do dead seriously...and the moment he sees Paro, her safety is as much an obsession with him as the BSD is.

His initial instinct, as a man, is to cherish and watch over his woman. Laila gave him absolutely no scope for this in the past, she was if anything, too independent, following him through postings and showing up in tents. Nor does she, in her current avatar, convince him of her helplessness. With marks on her back and a cut lip, Laila still cannot make him believe that she needs his protection. As he says--he knows her better than she knows herself.

Paro, from the beginning, was his, to protect, to defend and to watch over. This was the one way to his heart--through his job, and his nature. She got through on both counts.

Gotta admit, I think the sexy kamariya didn't hurt,either...

Edited by napstermonster - 11 years ago

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jules

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Posted: 11 years ago

GH ko witness box main haazir kiya jaye!! Janta jawab chahati hai!!!

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Deepthi

@Beauceant

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Originally posted by: incandescent
Unres...

Interesting question.

Whether or not Rudra adheres to the age old of belief, is something only Rudra knows till now, so until Rudra voices it, I am going to give him the benefit of doubt.

The way I see it, theirs was a relationship with terms and conditions. No promises were made. There was no affection from Rudra's side to begin with. The only thing that was there was desire. He was seeking for a release and he found it with Laila. He went there every night, found comfort and even talked about his mother, when he couldn't talk about it with anyone else. He found it easy to talk to her because she has no connection with his life, his family.

There has to be reasons beside physical attraction to fall in love with someone and that could be any one or a combination of things. Common interests, respect, admiration...I am stating a few things that comes to mind right now.

The relationship was always about Rudra...what he wanted...what he needed...and Laila provided that. It was never about THEM...never about her. Whatever I have understood about Laila, she was all for pleasing Rudra...that's the only thing that mattered to her. At some point, she fell for him, but what did she do about it? Did she ever talk about herself?...did she ever want Rudra to be the listener for a change...I doubt it. I don't see how the relationship could have evolved from Rudra's side.

Even when she fell in love with him (although I think it's obsession)...she was never assertive. She was happy to be in the no-strings attached relationship...she was happy with her status as his mistress. Even though she desired for more and dropped hints, she never really stood up for herself, until Paro came into the picture. She would have continued with their arrangement.

From Rudra's POV he doesn't owe her anything. He never made any false promises.

As for why he fell for Paro? Well, it started off with attraction...but then it evolved. He really fell for the person that is Paro. She managed to strike a chord with him which Laila failed to so. It's not that he didn't feel anything for her in eight years. He did say that he considered a friend, but nothing more than that.

I don't really feel sorry for Laila because she knew what she was getting into. She isn't a victim, she wasn't cheated.

And I doubt Laila might have found it difficult to accept this kind of relationship. It was always implied that she was a promiscuous lady.

Hmmm.. Put that way it seems reasonable enough.. Both Rudra and Laila were comfortable with that arrangement and so they continued that way..

He spent eight years with Laila- was it just a sexual relationship? In the initial episodes, it was shown that when he is injured and goes to Laila, he does not allow her to soothe him or tend to him - he just wanted alcohol and sex to forget his troubles.

Rudra is a person who shared eight years of his life with some, even if it was without any promises and one fine day just leaves her in Jaipur and goes off to Birpur.. How can such a emotionally deprived person turn into an adoring and caring husband in so short a span of time..

Either he is the jaanwar who feels no tender emotions or he must have felt something for Laila in 8yrs..

I agree with you that Laila is in no way a victim. She went in to it knowing fully what was in store for her..

One doubt, if Laila is that promiscuous a lady,would she leave everything in Jaipur and follow Rudra to Birpur.. And now again to the haveli..She may have been at some point of time, but is she still so?

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